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lvuittonaddict · Jul 12th, 2009, 11:50 PM

hunny, i would KILL to be 105lbs.

Mchelly601 · Jul 13th, 2009, 09:43 PM

I wanted to avoid it and by no means does this have anything to do with the OP's body, because what was said to her was rude doesn't matter what she looks like!
Yes you can be chubby at 105 lbs. My boyfriend's little sister is chubby at 4'9 and 103lbs. But people tell her the same thing "103lbs oh thats skinny!". You really have to take height into consideration when looking at weight not just the number. I'm almost 5'5 and if I weighed that little I'd be a gonner cause I'm a small and children sizes when I'm at 135lbs. Again the numbers are all relative.

californiaCRUSH · Jul 15th, 2009, 01:17 AM

They're rude. There's nothing to it other than the fact that they're completely tactless and criticize others to make themselves feel better.

tiny dancer · Jul 15th, 2009, 08:43 PM

You know what? I have no idea how big/small/tall/short the OP is. But I just want her to know that I am friends with two young girls who are quite large but they are, by far, the most beautiful people that I know.
They light up the room. They don't wear makeup and arn't interested in fashion but everyone swarms to them. They will make you laugh for hours and no one I know has a single bad word to say about them.

Infact, I heard a girl say "Yeah, theyre nice but theyre kinda big."
The guy that was listening said "And your point is? Sorry, but I think theyre stunning. They dont judge people by their size either so they've obviously already got one up on you now."

I love remembering this... it reminds us that we're all beautiful, inside and out. And that Im sending you hugs and positive energy OP. Dont let anyone get you down!

missmollypolly · Jul 16th, 2009, 10:33 AM

Originally Posted by Mchelly601

I wanted to avoid it and by no means does this have anything to do with the OP's body, because what was said to her was rude doesn't matter what she looks like!
Yes you can be chubby at 105 lbs. My boyfriend's little sister is chubby at 4'9 and 103lbs. But people tell her the same thing "103lbs oh thats skinny!". You really have to take height into consideration when looking at weight not just the number. I'm almost 5'5 and if I weighed that little I'd be a gonner cause I'm a small and children sizes when I'm at 135lbs. Again the numbers are all relative.

I don't think 4'9 and 103 pounds is chubby. In fact, a 4'9 103 pound person has a lower BMI than a 5'5 135 pound person...

GhstDreamer · Jul 16th, 2009, 04:05 PM

The OP posted that she's 5'2" at 105 lbs - which most would consider very slim. However she also posted she's Asian, so it's not consider slim at all by other Asians (not all just a number of Asians). There is the magical 90 lbs you're "suppose" to weigh without considering height. Regardless of the number, if you don't look very skinny - you are consider fat. That's just the way it is.

xlana · Jul 16th, 2009, 04:10 PM

^^
I think the usual train of thought is that being under 100lbs is skinny. The triple digit number scares a lot of Asian girls.

KristyDarling · Jul 16th, 2009, 04:17 PM

I will never forget going clothes-shopping in Taiwan, at 5'2" and 105 lbs at the time (slim but "skinny soft" -- not toned at all)....and the shop girls there looking at me and guessing me as a size medium or large. And they were right -- in Taiwan, I am a size M/L!

ami kio · Jul 16th, 2009, 04:43 PM

Originally Posted by KristyDarling

I will never forget going clothes-shopping in Taiwan, at 5'2" and 105 lbs at the time (slim but "skinny soft" -- not toned at all)....and the shop girls there looking at me and guessing me as a size medium or large. And they were right -- in Taiwan, I am a size M/L!

I had the same experience the first time that I shopped in Asia, and that's when I was a bit lighter than I am now. I've found that it varies a bit between Asian countries. At 5", 100lbs, I'm an XXS or 00P in the US; however, I am a M/L in Singapore but a S/M in Hong Kong. I forget what I am in Japan. But all pants are still too long no matter what country I'm in!

Despite going from "tiny" to "large", I'm still short!

bisousx · Jul 16th, 2009, 05:13 PM

Originally Posted by KristyDarling

I will never forget going clothes-shopping in Taiwan, at 5'2" and 105 lbs at the time (slim but "skinny soft" -- not toned at all)....and the shop girls there looking at me and guessing me as a size medium or large. And they were right -- in Taiwan, I am a size M/L!

Haha I think I was an XL in Tokyo! I was 5'3 and 115 lbs. Hilarious.. and I recall when I went to Saigon, my size 7.5 feet were gawked at in the clothing stores.

KristyDarling · Jul 16th, 2009, 05:36 PM

Ami Kio and Bisousx -- SO FUNNY! It's sooo interesting how skewed size perception is in Asia versus and the west. I feel petite here at home in the U.S. (size 0), but in Asia, I am a freakin' HEIFER!!!!

ETA: whenever I stop by my local bubble tea shop and see those HK pop videos playing, I am amazed. All the little pop starlets look EXACTLY the same: 5' or 5'1", teeny tiny bones, 85 to 90 lbs, with very westernized looking faces (large eyes, oval shaped face, pointed nose)....and of course, TONS of blue eye shadow! These pop stars are SO tiny, I could sit on them and crush the heck out of them!

GhstDreamer · Jul 16th, 2009, 05:41 PM

So true! I told my non-Asians female colleagues before I am consider medium sized or aka kind of chubby/fat in my culture. They were in shock because they would constantly tell me how skinny I am.

KristyDarling: It's funny but my dad (and other asians) would give me warnings about not eating too much chocolate, chips, etc. so that I don't become a heifer, elephant, whale, etc. overnight, I mean what's up with all those animal analogies?! In fact I think heifers, elephants and whales are very cute!

xlana: the triple digit freaks my older sister out!

manke · Jul 16th, 2009, 07:10 PM

i'm 5'2" and 90 pounds. of course i always wear the smallest size in any store (if i can fit in their clothes at all). when i went to korea, though, all i got was, "my, you are HUGE! we can tell you're american!" and i was a LARGE there.

spiralsnowman · Jul 16th, 2009, 07:18 PM

OP, you and i have the same measurements!

I know how you feel. I am Asian too, and the moment I gain a pound, I hear from relatives that "you should exercise a little more" or "you shouldn't eat that dessert". It's a cultural thing, I think. They believe that they are helping you.

That said, don't let the comments affect your self-esteem. I think you are at a healthy weight. Just tell yourself, I am a strong and beautiful woman! (It sounds cheesy but it works for me, lols!)

Pursegrrl · Jul 16th, 2009, 07:23 PM

Dang. I guess I'd be a ginormous whale to those two women, LOL!

OP, big hugs to you. That was flat out RUDE for them to say that. And it's simply not true!

Jul 12th, 2009, 11:50 PM	#106
lvuittonaddict Avada Kadavra Joined: Sep 2007 Location: Bethesda, MD Posts: 3,642	hunny, i would KILL to be 105lbs.
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Jul 13th, 2009, 09:43 PM	#107
Mchelly601 Member Joined: Dec 2006 Location: u.s Posts: 238	I wanted to avoid it and by no means does this have anything to do with the OP's body, because what was said to her was rude doesn't matter what she looks like! Yes you can be chubby at 105 lbs. My boyfriend's little sister is chubby at 4'9 and 103lbs. But people tell her the same thing "103lbs oh thats skinny!". You really have to take height into consideration when looking at weight not just the number. I'm almost 5'5 and if I weighed that little I'd be a gonner cause I'm a small and children sizes when I'm at 135lbs. Again the numbers are all relative.
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Jul 15th, 2009, 01:17 AM	#108
californiaCRUSH Glamazon. Joined: Nov 2007 Posts: 2,250	They're rude. There's nothing to it other than the fact that they're completely tactless and criticize others to make themselves feel better.
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Jul 15th, 2009, 08:43 PM	#109
tiny dancer counting headlights Joined: Jun 2007 Location: in my mind Posts: 794	You know what? I have no idea how big/small/tall/short the OP is. But I just want her to know that I am friends with two young girls who are quite large but they are, by far, the most beautiful people that I know. They light up the room. They don't wear makeup and arn't interested in fashion but everyone swarms to them. They will make you laugh for hours and no one I know has a single bad word to say about them. Infact, I heard a girl say "Yeah, theyre nice but theyre kinda big." The guy that was listening said "And your point is? Sorry, but I think theyre stunning. They dont judge people by their size either so they've obviously already got one up on you now." I love remembering this... it reminds us that we're all beautiful, inside and out. And that Im sending you hugs and positive energy OP. Dont let anyone get you down!
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Jul 16th, 2009, 04:05 PM	#111
GhstDreamer Lady Philosophy Joined: May 2008 Location: Where gavagai roam Posts: 2,406	The OP posted that she's 5'2" at 105 lbs - which most would consider very slim. However she also posted she's Asian, so it's not consider slim at all by other Asians (not all just a number of Asians). There is the magical 90 lbs you're "suppose" to weigh without considering height. Regardless of the number, if you don't look very skinny - you are consider fat. That's just the way it is.
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Jul 16th, 2009, 04:10 PM	#112
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Jul 16th, 2009, 04:17 PM	#113
KristyDarling Member Joined: Feb 2006 Posts: 4,354	I will never forget going clothes-shopping in Taiwan, at 5'2" and 105 lbs at the time (slim but "skinny soft" -- not toned at all)....and the shop girls there looking at me and guessing me as a size medium or large. And they were right -- in Taiwan, I am a size M/L!
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Jul 16th, 2009, 05:36 PM	#116
KristyDarling Member Joined: Feb 2006 Posts: 4,354	Ami Kio and Bisousx -- SO FUNNY! It's sooo interesting how skewed size perception is in Asia versus and the west. I feel petite here at home in the U.S. (size 0), but in Asia, I am a freakin' HEIFER!!!! ETA: whenever I stop by my local bubble tea shop and see those HK pop videos playing, I am amazed. All the little pop starlets look EXACTLY the same: 5' or 5'1", teeny tiny bones, 85 to 90 lbs, with very westernized looking faces (large eyes, oval shaped face, pointed nose)....and of course, TONS of blue eye shadow! These pop stars are SO tiny, I could sit on them and crush the heck out of them!
KristyDarling Member Joined: Feb 2006 Posts: 4,354	Last edited by KristyDarling; Jul 16th, 2009 at 05:48 PM.

Jul 16th, 2009, 05:41 PM	#117
GhstDreamer Lady Philosophy Joined: May 2008 Location: Where gavagai roam Posts: 2,406	So true! I told my non-Asians female colleagues before I am consider medium sized or aka kind of chubby/fat in my culture. They were in shock because they would constantly tell me how skinny I am. KristyDarling: It's funny but my dad (and other asians) would give me warnings about not eating too much chocolate, chips, etc. so that I don't become a heifer, elephant, whale, etc. overnight, I mean what's up with all those animal analogies?! In fact I think heifers, elephants and whales are very cute! xlana: the triple digit freaks my older sister out!
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Jul 16th, 2009, 07:10 PM	#118
manke gumdrops & unicorns Joined: Feb 2009 Location: head in the clouds Posts: 203	i'm 5'2" and 90 pounds. of course i always wear the smallest size in any store (if i can fit in their clothes at all). when i went to korea, though, all i got was, "my, you are HUGE! we can tell you're american!" and i was a LARGE there.
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Jul 16th, 2009, 07:18 PM	#119
spiralsnowman Member Joined: Dec 2005 Posts: 3,876	OP, you and i have the same measurements! I know how you feel. I am Asian too, and the moment I gain a pound, I hear from relatives that "you should exercise a little more" or "you shouldn't eat that dessert". It's a cultural thing, I think. They believe that they are helping you. That said, don't let the comments affect your self-esteem. I think you are at a healthy weight. Just tell yourself, I am a strong and beautiful woman! (It sounds cheesy but it works for me, lols!)
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Jul 16th, 2009, 07:23 PM	#120
Pursegrrl Oh no she di-int!! Joined: Jun 2006 Location: Seattle Posts: 19,262	Dang. I guess I'd be a ginormous whale to those two women, LOL! OP, big hugs to you. That was flat out RUDE for them to say that. And it's simply not true!

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