I'm confused, a bit hurt, I don't know...

maddog · Jul 3rd, 2008, 01:18 PM

That's happened at our work some years back, the office we moved to now, management made sure all the offices and rooms have all windowed walls. Our clients oooh and ahhh over how fancy it looks, but the staff who worked here for years silently laugh the real reason. lol!

cherry bossoms, good for you for deciding to end it. You know it's not good for you. I don't think distinquishing sex from love is possible for women, no matter how much some of us want to prove that idea wrong. Unfortunately men sees our need for "all about equality" or our vulnerability and use it to their advantage.

It's also perfectly natural to feel kinda upset when he can't get it up when the time comes. Been there, done that. I know it's stupid, but I shed a tear every time, since the guy NEVER tells you the real reason, so you think on some level it has to do with you.

nooch · Jul 3rd, 2008, 02:44 PM

All the good advice has been given, so I'll just talk about penis.

The night that was supposed to be my first time with my fiance (we'd known each other for about three weeks), he just couldn't get it to stay. He was obviously really nervous (it was his first time ever) but I was upset anyway. Before I met him I was dating a guy who, when I met him, seemed intelligent and respectful, but it turned out that he was a pompous ass and couldn't get (or maintain on the off chance he got one) an erection. And he used to tell me it was all my fault. Of course, he also wouldn't see me the day before he was going to visit his parents because somehow his mother would know he'd been with me.

What I am trying to say is don't blame yourself for that because it can be totally random or it can be a neurosis of his.

Oh, and the night with my fiance and I... we watched a movie and went to sleep, woke up the next morning, and we were like bunnies!

cherry_blossoms · Jul 8th, 2008, 02:08 PM

Thanks everyone for the support.
I broke it off with him and I am so glad I did. He definitely isn't worth my time or attention. I mean, he isn't even normally the type of guy I'd date. He just came along when I needed some physical human contact.

Jul 3rd, 2008, 02:44 PM	#17
nooch bubblehead Location: new mexico via BROOKLYN NY	All the good advice has been given, so I'll just talk about penis. The night that was supposed to be my first time with my fiance (we'd known each other for about three weeks), he just couldn't get it to stay. He was obviously really nervous (it was his first time ever) but I was upset anyway. Before I met him I was dating a guy who, when I met him, seemed intelligent and respectful, but it turned out that he was a pompous ass and couldn't get (or maintain on the off chance he got one) an erection. And he used to tell me it was all my fault. Of course, he also wouldn't see me the day before he was going to visit his parents because somehow his mother would know he'd been with me. What I am trying to say is don't blame yourself for that because it can be totally random or it can be a neurosis of his. Oh, and the night with my fiance and I... we watched a movie and went to sleep, woke up the next morning, and we were like bunnies! __________________ FAT AND FABULOUS! CHANGE THE WAY YOU THINK NOT THE WAY YOU LOOK! http://www.natreasures.com Authentic American Indian jewelry & crafts All orders ship free PM me for discount codes Last edited by nooch; Jul 3rd, 2008 at 02:45 PM. Reason: forgot some!

Jul 3rd, 2008, 01:18 PM	#16
maddog Mmmkay	That's happened at our work some years back, the office we moved to now, management made sure all the offices and rooms have all windowed walls. Our clients oooh and ahhh over how fancy it looks, but the staff who worked here for years silently laugh the real reason. lol! cherry bossoms, good for you for deciding to end it. You know it's not good for you. I don't think distinquishing sex from love is possible for women, no matter how much some of us want to prove that idea wrong. Unfortunately men sees our need for "all about equality" or our vulnerability and use it to their advantage. It's also perfectly natural to feel kinda upset when he can't get it up when the time comes. Been there, done that. I know it's stupid, but I shed a tear every time, since the guy NEVER tells you the real reason, so you think on some level it has to do with you.

Jul 8th, 2008, 02:08 PM	#18
cherry_blossoms Member	Thanks everyone for the support. I broke it off with him and I am so glad I did. He definitely isn't worth my time or attention. I mean, he isn't even normally the type of guy I'd date. He just came along when I needed some physical human contact.