I'm a bit nervous...!

candace117 · Jun 27th, 2008, 04:32 PM

So I'm sitting here, ready to finish up two weeks of intense training with my unit. DH and I have been apart since the end of January, and he's due to return home from his medic course next Thursday. I mentioned the training because that two weeks helped really distract me and after we finish on Sunday, I will only have a few days to be anxious and going crazy with impatience!

Why am I nervous???? I don't know! That's a great question!!!!!!!!!!!

This is how I operate: When we're apart for a long period of time, I get very blase. I'm just fine being on my own, on the inside it sucks really bad, of course...but I just do my thing and almost 'forget' that we're apart. I feel like it's normal or something. When we're apart a short amount of time, like a couple weeks, I am a whiny baby. I am sure the two instances are normal for a lot of people.

But right now I feel nervous....almost like I did when I flew to Germany to see him after he got back from Iraq. Like...how do I act? I feel like I will be a little shy, like on a first date...which is so stupid! I need to just get over it! He is leaving again a month and a half after he gets back, for another month...then we have a month of training up in Idaho, then we spend the holidays saying goodbye to our families, and then prepare for deployment!

This is my life. It feels surreal a lot of the time...but sheesh.
I don't know why I feel so nervous!

artjen · Jun 27th, 2008, 04:37 PM

Aw, I'm so excited for your reunion. I know I would feel the same way you do. I bet that keeping busy must have helped keep your mind off everything. That is a long time to be apart and I'm sure that the first minute that you are in each other's arms....all the "shyness" will melt away!

nataliam1976 · Jun 27th, 2008, 04:53 PM

but isnt being on a first date again nice in a way?

with that little twist of being able to wear some lacy stuff and make good use of it without worrying what he is gonna think of you

? meke the best of it, babe!

ImASadGiraffe · Jun 27th, 2008, 08:38 PM

I almost wish I could have those type of nervous butterflies again with my DH! Now, I don't think I'd want to be in your situation, but I understand where you're coming from. I would enjoy the bit of nervousness and get all giddy when he shows up! I'm sure he'll love it!

artich0ke · Jun 27th, 2008, 08:42 PM

Ah, I'm so excited for you! I love when my BF gets leave for a weekend -- I have nooo idea what I'm going to do when he goes to Baghdad for 16 months, I can barely stand being away from him for two weeks! I totally relate to being whiny/shy/butterfly-ish so you are not alone!

I hope you two have fun when you see each other :)

lovinalotofbags · Jun 27th, 2008, 08:50 PM

More exciting that way. Yeah baby.

megsa · Jun 27th, 2008, 09:25 PM

Oh, Candance I think it is called love. Each time I saw my husband after boot camp and other duties my stomach would do belly flops and I would wonder if he had changed. But no, he would be eye candy when I saw him and he was delicious to enjoy.
I hope that your reunion will be wonderful!!!!!!

girliceclimber · Jun 27th, 2008, 10:20 PM

I went long distance with my BF a year ago, and went thru the same deal as you: whiny and mopey for about 3 months, then I somehow settled into a routine of him not being here (and made a lot of new friends) and it is weird having to make time for him now that his job assignment is down in LA where I am. Although I do feel like once I see him after being apart for awhile, everything somehow feels the same as it always has been... it's nice

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Veelyn · Jun 27th, 2008, 10:34 PM

Aw Candace, I'm excited you guys will be reunited after so long! Don't be nervous, you will be ok!

So, is training where you have been lately? I missed seeing your posts!!

nooch · Jun 27th, 2008, 10:58 PM

My fiance and I spent a year apart and when I moved out to New Mexico I was terrified. It made no sense because we'd been dating nearly four years at the time but it was still like our first date all over again. Not a helpful post, but you aren't alone in feeling weird!

abbygirl · Jun 28th, 2008, 12:26 AM

Sweet Candace, I AM SOOOO EXCITED FOR YOU. Whooohooo!!!

It's gonna be like the first time all over again.

(dont forget the ky jelly)

merika · Jun 28th, 2008, 12:38 AM

I think everything will be just fine. Whenever that happened to me I'd be worried. But it's always like you haven't been apart at all, seriously. Don't worry about it - just be happy and excited, the same as he will be.

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Originally Posted by abbygirl

(dont forget the ky jelly)

I don't think she's post-menopausal yet.

Megs · Jun 28th, 2008, 12:39 AM

I used to get the SAME feeling when I would see Vlad after he had been in Germany for school (about 3 months apart at a time). The first time I went to the airport after we had been apart I called my mom to ask her how to approach him at the airport.. do I run up and jump into his arms and hug him (lifting one leg off the ground of course!!)? Or did I walk up and hug? Or did I hug then kiss? Or what?!?! I also went shopping for new 'airport outfits' for each arrival...

It is normal.. that little anxious nervous excited feeling! I actually miss it, it became part of me for 2 years. How exciting for you C!!!

nooch · Jun 28th, 2008, 12:59 AM

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Originally Posted by Megs

I also went shopping for new 'airport outfits' for each arrival...

omg, I thought I was nuts for doing that! And the couple of times I went to visit him I bought new panties for every night! Is that insane?

abbygirl · Jun 28th, 2008, 12:59 AM

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Originally Posted by merika

I think everything will be just fine. Whenever that happened to me I'd be worried. But it's always like you haven't been apart at all, seriously. Don't worry about it - just be happy and excited, the same as he will be.

I don't think she's post-menopausal yet.

No, but she is probably a re-born virgin.......

Jun 27th, 2008, 04:32 PM	#1
candace117 Pirate Trash Location: Hardcorvallis	I'm a bit nervous...! So I'm sitting here, ready to finish up two weeks of intense training with my unit. DH and I have been apart since the end of January, and he's due to return home from his medic course next Thursday. I mentioned the training because that two weeks helped really distract me and after we finish on Sunday, I will only have a few days to be anxious and going crazy with impatience! Why am I nervous???? I don't know! That's a great question!!!!!!!!!!! This is how I operate: When we're apart for a long period of time, I get very blase. I'm just fine being on my own, on the inside it sucks really bad, of course...but I just do my thing and almost 'forget' that we're apart. I feel like it's normal or something. When we're apart a short amount of time, like a couple weeks, I am a whiny baby. I am sure the two instances are normal for a lot of people. But right now I feel nervous....almost like I did when I flew to Germany to see him after he got back from Iraq. Like...how do I act? I feel like I will be a little shy, like on a first date...which is so stupid! I need to just get over it! He is leaving again a month and a half after he gets back, for another month...then we have a month of training up in Idaho, then we spend the holidays saying goodbye to our families, and then prepare for deployment! This is my life. It feels surreal a lot of the time...but sheesh. I don't know why I feel so nervous! __________________ "With so much drama in the L-B-C, it's kinda hard bein Snoop D-O-double G."

Jun 27th, 2008, 04:53 PM	#3
nataliam1976 Hmmmph Location: all around Europe	but isnt being on a first date again nice in a way? with that little twist of being able to wear some lacy stuff and make good use of it without worrying what he is gonna think of you ? meke the best of it, babe! __________________ "Buy me, Lady" said the frock, "and I will make you into a BEAUTIFUL and WHOLE and COMPLETE human being". "Do not be SILLY", said the Man, " for a frock alone cannot do that". "TRUE" said the Lady. " I shall have the Shoes and the Bag as well".

Jun 27th, 2008, 08:38 PM	#4
ImASadGiraffe Twilight 11/21/08 Location: IL	I almost wish I could have those type of nervous butterflies again with my DH! Now, I don't think I'd want to be in your situation, but I understand where you're coming from. I would enjoy the bit of nervousness and get all giddy when he shows up! I'm sure he'll love it! __________________

Jun 27th, 2008, 08:42 PM	#5
artich0ke Member Location: down the Cape	Ah, I'm so excited for you! I love when my BF gets leave for a weekend -- I have nooo idea what I'm going to do when he goes to Baghdad for 16 months, I can barely stand being away from him for two weeks! I totally relate to being whiny/shy/butterfly-ish so you are not alone! I hope you two have fun when you see each other :) __________________ artich0ke

Jun 27th, 2008, 08:50 PM	#6
lovinalotofbags Fashion disaster Location: Carolinas	More exciting that way. Yeah baby. __________________ Always forgive your enemies. Nothing annoys them so much.

Jun 27th, 2008, 04:37 PM	#2
artjen Young @ Art Location: Arizona	Aw, I'm so excited for your reunion. I know I would feel the same way you do. I bet that keeping busy must have helped keep your mind off everything. That is a long time to be apart and I'm sure that the first minute that you are in each other's arms....all the "shyness" will melt away!

Jun 27th, 2008, 09:25 PM	#7
megsa Member	Oh, Candance I think it is called love. Each time I saw my husband after boot camp and other duties my stomach would do belly flops and I would wonder if he had changed. But no, he would be eye candy when I saw him and he was delicious to enjoy. I hope that your reunion will be wonderful!!!!!!

Jun 27th, 2008, 10:20 PM	#8
girliceclimber Member Location: LA/SF	I went long distance with my BF a year ago, and went thru the same deal as you: whiny and mopey for about 3 months, then I somehow settled into a routine of him not being here (and made a lot of new friends) and it is weird having to make time for him now that his job assignment is down in LA where I am. Although I do feel like once I see him after being apart for awhile, everything somehow feels the same as it always has been... it's nice .

Jun 27th, 2008, 10:34 PM	#9
Veelyn Whatever ... Location: The Zou!	Aw Candace, I'm excited you guys will be reunited after so long! Don't be nervous, you will be ok! So, is training where you have been lately? I missed seeing your posts!! __________________

Jun 27th, 2008, 10:58 PM	#10
nooch Sports Sports Sports Location: new mexico via BROOKLYN NY	My fiance and I spent a year apart and when I moved out to New Mexico I was terrified. It made no sense because we'd been dating nearly four years at the time but it was still like our first date all over again. Not a helpful post, but you aren't alone in feeling weird! __________________ FAT AND FABULOUS! CHANGE THE WAY YOU THINK NOT THE WAY YOU LOOK! http://www.natreasures.com Authentic American Indian jewelry & crafts All orders ship free PM me for discount codes

Jun 28th, 2008, 12:26 AM	#11
abbygirl Member	Sweet Candace, I AM SOOOO EXCITED FOR YOU. Whooohooo!!! It's gonna be like the first time all over again. (dont forget the ky jelly) __________________ I love my tpf friends

Jun 28th, 2008, 12:39 AM	#13
Megs	I used to get the SAME feeling when I would see Vlad after he had been in Germany for school (about 3 months apart at a time). The first time I went to the airport after we had been apart I called my mom to ask her how to approach him at the airport.. do I run up and jump into his arms and hug him (lifting one leg off the ground of course!!)? Or did I walk up and hug? Or did I hug then kiss? Or what?!?! I also went shopping for new 'airport outfits' for each arrival... It is normal.. that little anxious nervous excited feeling! I actually miss it, it became part of me for 2 years. How exciting for you C!!! __________________ Sign up for our October Giveaway sponsored by: NET-A-PORTER!