If you love them...set them free

IcansPotaFake32 · Jun 10th, 2008, 10:03 PM

I don't know what the exact quote is but you know the one it's something like 'If you love them set them free and if they come back it's meant to be". (I am totally chopping the quote and I apologize)

This is a few part question:

a. Have you set someone "free" that you loved?
b. Did they come back?

I have heard that quote so many times and just wondered how it's worked for everyone else.

bisousx · Jun 10th, 2008, 10:14 PM

a) yes
b) He came back in the form of a very good friend to me now... he's actually going through a divorce, as am I, and he's going to walk me through this. He may not have came back in the way I would've wanted him to (back then), but it was really a blessing in disguise.

bagnshoofetish · Jun 10th, 2008, 10:37 PM

a) yes
b) no he did not and I thank God everyday because he was the wrong guy for me. I would never have seen this otherwise until it was too late.

chinadoll724 · Jun 10th, 2008, 11:36 PM

a. Yes- he was my first love
b. Yes- unfortunately it didn't work out. I'd moved on with my current bf of going on 5 years and it's too late for him. We tried being friends, but he can't get over it- he's used to ending it with girls on his terms and this is one time where it's not. It's bittersweet because I guess I "won", but I lost a great friend and I still respect him so much.

lovinalotofbags · Jun 10th, 2008, 11:49 PM

Yes.

My ex and I talk all of the time. Something in the future perhaps but I may not want to.

b00mbaka · Jun 11th, 2008, 12:28 AM

a- yes
b- nope. I don't know if that's a good thing or not. All I know is, my next relationship (with him or another guy) will better because of what I experienced with him.

*Aww man! I shouldn't have opened this thread! Now I am thinking about HIM and the good times

illinirdhd · Jun 11th, 2008, 12:31 AM

a. Yes.
b. Yes. Over and over again until I finally set myself free. He's a good friend now, and I'm in a happy relationship, so it worked out for the best. Lots of tears then though.

DiorDeVille · Jun 11th, 2008, 02:35 AM

A. Yes.
B. No. He moved on in a VERY painful manner. But time's given me the perspective to realize he - or I - would have eventually moved on anyway, just after the wedding instead of before. Which would have been worse.

I think the saying has to be taken with a grain of salt. There are some relationships in life that are worth fighting for and staying invested in when it's really difficult and "letting go" would be a lot easier (but they're usually not dating relationships, IMO). Family, close friends - sometimes you just dig in and make it work even when they aren't so sure. It's just a saying.

oo0ehxtahcee0oo · Jun 11th, 2008, 03:16 AM

a. no, i had already stopped loving him. but i had to set free a woman who was hiding for years and ready to break out and set that demon of a partner free.

b. yes and no. he calls occasionally on a blocked number and leaves voice mails with i miss you type music as a message. but ill never take that punk back. im happily engaged to someone sent from up above!

TravelBug · Jun 11th, 2008, 03:30 AM

If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they're yours; if they don't they never were.

a) Yes
b) No.

It was one of the most painful things I've had to do and it took me almost 2 years to get over it. I wouldn't be who I am and where I am now though had it not happened so in the end it all worked out.

madamefifi · Jun 11th, 2008, 05:46 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by illinirdhd

a. Yes.
b. Yes. Over and over again until I finally set myself free.

Awesome post!!!

QueenOfDa702 · Jun 11th, 2008, 07:02 AM

a.) No.

b.) I hope I never have to.

courtneyh · Jun 11th, 2008, 08:45 AM

a.) yes

B.) yes..... it was never the right time, he either had a girlfriend or never appreciated me, and then when he finally realized how much i loved him after all those years, i was in a serious relationship (with my now hubby) and he tired to tell me how much he missed me and he never realized how he felt about me and i was always there for him....and i finally just said to him enough is enough.... he wanted things to happen on his terms or when its ok for him.... so i cut him out of my life.... and now im happily married!!!

Kimm992 · Jun 11th, 2008, 11:15 AM

I was dating a guy for 3.5 years and for some reason I all of a sudden felt I needed out of it - I hadn't really ever been single for any real amount of time and I felt I needed to just be on my own for a while before I could commit to him long term.

So...

He set ME free

then 1.5 years later we started dating again (after not seeing each other at all the whole time we were broken up)

We're now engaged and happier than ever.

So I do think that saying has merit to it.

maddog · Jun 11th, 2008, 06:14 PM

1) No, cuz by the time I set him free, I had nothing left to give. And more importantly, I realized I loved a person that doesn't exist that he portrayed all that time, not the real him that finally came out. This thought made it really easy to get over whatever lingering feelings I had for him.

2) No! Thank God he took the path of least resistance even after breaking up!

Jun 10th, 2008, 10:03 PM	#1
IcansPotaFake32 Member	If you love them...set them free I don't know what the exact quote is but you know the one it's something like 'If you love them set them free and if they come back it's meant to be". (I am totally chopping the quote and I apologize) This is a few part question: a. Have you set someone "free" that you loved? b. Did they come back? I have heard that quote so many times and just wondered how it's worked for everyone else.

Jun 10th, 2008, 10:14 PM	#2
bisousx Chanel girl Location: Orange County	a) yes b) He came back in the form of a very good friend to me now... he's actually going through a divorce, as am I, and he's going to walk me through this. He may not have came back in the way I would've wanted him to (back then), but it was really a blessing in disguise. __________________ Lusting after: Hermes Fuchsia Ostrich Kelly Hermes Orange Birkin 30 Chanel Summer Nights flap Chanel Blush Patent flap

Jun 10th, 2008, 10:37 PM	#3
bagnshoofetish We Love Our Billy	a) yes b) no he did not and I thank God everyday because he was the wrong guy for me. I would never have seen this otherwise until it was too late. __________________ Please help us: http://forum.purseblog.com/animalici...nt-392607.html

Jun 10th, 2008, 11:49 PM	#5
lovinalotofbags In for the long haul Location: South Carolina	Yes. My ex and I talk all of the time. Something in the future perhaps but I may not want to. __________________ Always forgive your enemies. Nothing annoys them so much.

Jun 11th, 2008, 12:28 AM	#6
b00mbaka Member	a- yes b- nope. I don't know if that's a good thing or not. All I know is, my next relationship (with him or another guy) will better because of what I experienced with him. Aww man! I shouldn't have opened this thread! Now I am thinking about HIM and the good times __________________ Just tryna remain debt free Last edited by b00mbaka; Jun 11th, 2008 at 12:36 AM.*

Jun 10th, 2008, 11:36 PM	#4
chinadoll724 Member	a. Yes- he was my first love b. Yes- unfortunately it didn't work out. I'd moved on with my current bf of going on 5 years and it's too late for him. We tried being friends, but he can't get over it- he's used to ending it with girls on his terms and this is one time where it's not. It's bittersweet because I guess I "won", but I lost a great friend and I still respect him so much.

Jun 11th, 2008, 12:31 AM	#7
illinirdhd Sofa King Hooked Location: Las Vegas, NV	a. Yes. b. Yes. Over and over again until I finally set myself free. He's a good friend now, and I'm in a happy relationship, so it worked out for the best. Lots of tears then though. __________________

Jun 11th, 2008, 02:35 AM	#8
DiorDeVille Member	A. Yes. B. No. He moved on in a VERY painful manner. But time's given me the perspective to realize he - or I - would have eventually moved on anyway, just after the wedding instead of before. Which would have been worse. I think the saying has to be taken with a grain of salt. There are some relationships in life that are worth fighting for and staying invested in when it's really difficult and "letting go" would be a lot easier (but they're usually not dating relationships, IMO). Family, close friends - sometimes you just dig in and make it work even when they aren't so sure. It's just a saying.

Jun 11th, 2008, 03:16 AM	#9
oo0ehxtahcee0oo ☺Livin the good life Location: ♥In my DF's arms♥	a. no, i had already stopped loving him. but i had to set free a woman who was hiding for years and ready to break out and set that demon of a partner free. b. yes and no. he calls occasionally on a blocked number and leaves voice mails with i miss you type music as a message. but ill never take that punk back. im happily engaged to someone sent from up above! __________________ [Click photo to read thread!] My blog site has great FREE goodies!! (updated 11/26) www,dearmissie.blogspot.com We did it!! New Crafts Subforum celebration here!!

Jun 11th, 2008, 03:30 AM	#10
TravelBug What R U Lookin' At?	If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they're yours; if they don't they never were. a) Yes b) No. It was one of the most painful things I've had to do and it took me almost 2 years to get over it. I wouldn't be who I am and where I am now though had it not happened so in the end it all worked out.

Jun 11th, 2008, 07:02 AM	#12
QueenOfDa702 Misunderestimated. Location: I've gone RAOKing crazy!	a.) No. b.) I hope I never have to. __________________ ~Valeen~ Happy Holidays to all my tPF friends! Click HERE to visit MySpace Please help get justice for Karley! http://forum.purseblog.com/animalici...ey-385571.html

Jun 11th, 2008, 08:45 AM	#13
courtneyh Happy Holidays! Location: CHRISTMAS-TOWN!	a.) yes B.) yes..... it was never the right time, he either had a girlfriend or never appreciated me, and then when he finally realized how much i loved him after all those years, i was in a serious relationship (with my now hubby) and he tired to tell me how much he missed me and he never realized how he felt about me and i was always there for him....and i finally just said to him enough is enough.... he wanted things to happen on his terms or when its ok for him.... so i cut him out of my life.... and now im happily married!!! __________________ HAPPY HOLIDAYS! ------

Jun 11th, 2008, 11:15 AM	#14
Kimm992 Member Location: Toronto, Canada	I was dating a guy for 3.5 years and for some reason I all of a sudden felt I needed out of it - I hadn't really ever been single for any real amount of time and I felt I needed to just be on my own for a while before I could commit to him long term. So... He set ME free then 1.5 years later we started dating again (after not seeing each other at all the whole time we were broken up) We're now engaged and happier than ever. So I do think that saying has merit to it. __________________ ~Kimmy~

Jun 11th, 2008, 06:14 PM	#15
maddog Mmmkay	1) No, cuz by the time I set him free, I had nothing left to give. And more importantly, I realized I loved a person that doesn't exist that he portrayed all that time, not the real him that finally came out. This thought made it really easy to get over whatever lingering feelings I had for him. 2) No! Thank God he took the path of least resistance even after breaking up!