[xpurseloverx]

heyy ok wel i am having a huge issue rite now with one of my friends srry if this is in the wrong spot but here is what happened

my friend lauren asked if we could go see the movies and i was like i have to wait for my dad because he was waiting for the call if he was going to work and i wanted to go shopping with them and he didnt go to wrk so i was like ok i can't make it, so then when i was with the family my other friend calls and she is like lets hang out, and i was like ok because i never get to see this girl becuz she is soooooooooooo busy and i have known her since 2nd grade, so we hung out i got home this was the MISTAKE i posted on my space this "omg i had a great day went to oak brook mall had chiplote or however you spell and then saw get smart with Eryka w00t comment meee<3" and then my friend msged me this
"hey thanks for lieing to me...
yeahh u reallyy had to ask your dad if you could go with us, when you reallii already made plans, you know gulsah you could have just told me that && i would have been totally kool wiith it, but the fact you lied to me, waz just low && i NEVER thought YOU would do that to me...that hurts...=/
yeahh thats friendship alright."
i sent her this as a reply to that
"heyy no its not like that first my parents and i went to the mall then eryka texted me at like 4 and i knew you guys already fineshed watching the movie and i would not make it to see it with you guys i would never lie to you i waited for my dad because my rents and bro were all going to hang out "
and im like great!! but i didnt realize untill today that in the bullentin i did not post that i was also with my parents! and now she thinks i am a complete lier! which im def not and i wanted to see if i sent her this would this be the right thing to do NOTE= I DID NOT SEND HER THIS
"
hey, ok i dont like how you dont get my point of view alot of things are differnt for me then they are for you but you have to believe me that i posted the bulletin wrong i ment to add my parents and i looked at it and realzied that i didnt add it on the bulletin im sorry but she called me when i was with my parents and we were about to go home anyway and i never can get a chance to hang out with her shes so busy and i have known her forever thats y i said yes you would do the same if it was one of your closer friends i would not lie to you if you dont believe then can you add me on to your hitlist then we will be even besides why would i want to lie to you i know the little things and i keep track of them about you and i dont do that with my other friends please you have to believe me besides also i feel not really cared about with you. you always talk about angela, rachel, mary, and now bianca how do you think i feel i didnt want to bring that up but i know you would be upset if i did you always talk about them next to me or text them and i feel forgotten around you cuz it seems all you care about is your other friends that you talk about and im just there i dont like that feeling but there is my honest opinion "

and now im freaking out i dnt wanna lose her should i send her that letter or no?? thanks so much for the help
ps if you dnt get something then please ask

[Sternchen]

How old are you?

[xpurseloverx]

im 17

[Sternchen]

Hmmm, okay. It really sounds like your friend is over reacting because fo this. I don't think you really did anything wrong here. Just let her cool off for a while, and hopefully she'll forget about it

[caxe]

I wish I could offer sound advice to you, but I had a hard time just understanding what you were trying to say.

Good luck anyway.

[xpurseloverx]

well to sum it up she thinks i lied to her and she is one of those ppl that base EVERYTHING off myspace so pretty much she will go off that

[stellamaried]

Originally Posted by xpurseloverx

well to sum it up she thinks i lied to her and she is one of those ppl that base EVERYTHING off myspace so pretty much she will go off that

All you can do is tell her, sincerely, that you did not lie to her and explain the situation. It is up to her to choose how to react (or overreact). You didn't really "mess up," so try not to worry about it.

[Leah411]

Is punctuation passe' now?

Just wondering.....

[redney]

This is so hard to read my eyes are spinning

Why don't you just talk with your friend - on the phone or in person - not on mySpace, text or other means that can be misunderstood. You can explain the situation and if she understands and isn't mad anymore, great. If she's still mad, then pffft, whatever. Then it's her problem to deal with and you can focus your energies on other friends and living your own life until if/when she comes around.

[ILuvShopping]

you just need to talk to your friend and try to make her understand. i remember things happening like this in high school. In her mind you totally lied to her,she asked you to go out and you said no and then ended up going out with another friend. If i was in that situation as your friend i'd be seriously upset too not knowing all of the details.

Just call up your friend and tell her the whole situation. Most likely she'll still be upset but she'll get over it in a short period of time. and if not, then oh well i guess! that's about all you can do.

[boxermom]

First of all, as the others said, explain what happened, that you weren't blowing her off and you'd like to remain friends. Let her cool off. If she chooses to hold a grudge, then she's not someone you want to be friends with. You're young-stuff like this happens and it should blow over.

Second, it's easier for us to read and be helpful if you use punctuation and paragraphs. You'll get more replies if it's easier to read. sorry if I sound like one of your teachers; it's just a suggestion.

Good luck!

[cutter333]

Originally Posted by redney

This is so hard to read my eyes are spinning

Why don't you just talk with your friend - on the phone or in person - not on mySpace, text or other means that can be misunderstood. You can explain the situation and if she understands and isn't mad anymore, great. If she's still mad, then pffft, whatever. Then it's her problem to deal with and you can focus your energies on other friends and living your own life until if/when she comes around.

I totally agree. I couldn't even read the whole thing. All this myspace stuff is terribly immature.

[moi et mes sacs]

gee it was a long time ago when I was 17 and I think we were very fortunate not to have myspace.
if I have understood the situation correctly, you met with the second friend while the first one was told you were busy. It is all a bit childish really, you are not answerable to everyone, you can save that for when you are married. I would just explain the facts to the upset friend and if she is a true friend it wil just blow over. Good luck

[bagnshoofetish]

is grammar just no longer mandatory in school? I don't mean to be overly critical here but I had to read your post about 3 times before I got just the gist of what you were trying to convey. I've never seen so many run on sentences (correction, no sentences at all!)
In this age of MySpace and people feeling the need to post every detail that goes on in their life on a daily basis in there, I guess you need to realize that your friends are going to read and know what you are doing and you have to account for that in the future. Perhaps you could have called your first friend and explained to her what was going on before you spent time with the friend you chose to spend time with? I understand why your buddy was upset. Be accountable for what you do and how you treat people. If you are real friends, you will work it out. I know when you are 17, everything is magnified and appears more serious than it really is. Just communicate better with your friends. With all this technology, (internet, cells, texting, etc.) I don't see why this should be at all difficult.

[xpurseloverx]

im srry if its hard to read i was in a hurry i had to go get my permit so you guys think its best to talk to her in person / phone or just let her cool off but then what?