[April_Skye]

It sounds like your situation was purley harmless and really unintentional. You didnt mean to hurt your friend. And your friend is a little strange for overracting SO much! Shes really created a storm in a teacup!! Shes blown it out of the water - the very least she could do is hear you out!

And besides, the moment you said "Sorry, I cant hang out with you, im doing something with my parents instead", she would have found something else to do and someone else to hang out with.
Thats not wrong and you wouldnt have minded.

I think the best thing to do is wait it out for at least a day. Let her cool off. Theres no use trying to calm down a raging young girl when shes set on the fact that shes right.

Then, I would send her a txt msg syaing "Hey. I want you to know that Im relaly sorry that I made you feel left out. That was never my intention and this was a big missunderstanding. Your my friend and because you mean alot to me, I want to work this out with you. Can we please meet up somewhere and talk??"

Just make sure you acknowledge the fact that her feelings are hurt because, from her point of view, it probably looks like you dont care about her feelings.

If she agrees to meet up, great! If not, and she is STILL bitching and stretching this into a huge fight, calmly say "ive apologised and ive offered to make amends between us. Theres nothing more I can do if you choose to remain this way. But when you clam down and wanna sort this out, you know where to find me."

Make the right moves, put the ball in her court, then calmly wait for her next move.

[xpurseloverx]

Originally Posted by April_Skye

It sounds like your situation was purley harmless and really unintentional. You didnt mean to hurt your friend. And your friend is a little strange for overracting SO much! Shes really created a storm in a teacup!! Shes blown it out of the water - the very least she could do is hear you out!

And besides, the moment you said "Sorry, I cant hang out with you, im doing something with my parents instead", she would have found something else to do and someone else to hang out with.
Thats not wrong and you wouldnt have minded.

I think the best thing to do is wait it out for at least a day. Let her cool off. Theres no use trying to calm down a raging young girl when shes set on the fact that shes right.

Then, I would send her a txt msg syaing "Hey. I want you to know that Im relaly sorry that I made you feel left out. That was never my intention and this was a big missunderstanding. Your my friend and because you mean alot to me, I want to work this out with you. Can we please meet up somewhere and talk??"

Just make sure you acknowledge the fact that her feelings are hurt because, from her point of view, it probably looks like you dont care about her feelings.

If she agrees to meet up, great! If not, and she is STILL bitching and stretching this into a huge fight, calmly say "ive apologised and ive offered to make amends between us. Theres nothing more I can do if you choose to remain this way. But when you clam down and wanna sort this out, you know where to find me."

Make the right moves, put the ball in her court, then calmly wait for her next move.

yes i agree with you, ur sooooo right about everything

[April_Skye]

Thanks. But you've done the right thing. I mean, I can be pretty ditzy sometimes and Ive made mistakes like yours but ive learned that its how you go about fixing it that can make or break the situation.
Its a good thing that you posted here for help because it shows us your keen to fix it and willing to take respoinsibility for your actions. But as other posters have mentioned, theres only so much you can do.
If youve tried everything in the book and she wont budge, well, thats showing you that maybe shes not worth the effort if shes going to throw you in the trash pile for one silly mistake.
If your friend values the friendship as much as you do, she'll hear you out, give you a fair chance, and should be equally willing to work this out with you. (Well, once she calms down at least)
Oh and a word of advice, as tempting as it is, AVOID the whole myspace scenario. Dont turn this out to be front page gossip for the whole world to see because feelings get hurt. Truthfully, myspace (and facebook) causes alot of problems!
Good luck and keep us posted!