[illinirdhd]

Originally Posted by sarahloveslouis

*raises hand* I'm in the same boat right now!



I am VERY newly engaged, and have started in on the planning. We have a moderate budget for the wedding, but will be footing quite a bit of the bill ourselves. I stare into my closet at all of the khaki cotton dustbags with beautiful Louis Vuitton bags inside, into the dark brown Coach dustbags with tons more, and I think to myself "WHY? I don't NEED these things..."



I've tried to ask Zachary if he would be OK with me selling off a few of them, and he just says "Why? We're just going to have to replace them down the road!" (He knows me too well)



So my mind wants to sell them for some more cash, my heart says "don't", and my best friend/fiance says "You'll miss them too much!"



Still, I'm a logical person and I will probably end up selling them.



Best of luck with whatever you decide. It's a tough thing to have to pay for a wedding yourself.

If it's any consolation, I sold probably 5 of my Coach bags around Christmas time and haven't missed a single one. OK, I've replaced a few, but that's beside the point...

[xoxomandylyn]

You girls are so nice I seriously get a little teary eyed every time I read the new posts here haha... there are such wonderful people on this forum.

I feel much better knowing that there are people who understand what is going through my head.

At first I was upset that my parents weren't paying for the wedding (although my dad did decide that he wanted to pay for the dress, that was a nice surprise), but now I feel proud and happy that the two of us are doing this ourselves. Now we have something that we can be proud of and feel accomplished about. I feel really good about that. =) It truly will be OUR wedding, and we can look around that night and think "wow we did all this." It will be a nice feeling.

[ash14vwb]

Linda's advice was so good!!!!

guccime - i feel like i know you, lol. my bf & i just graduated in may too & the transition period SUCKS, it really does. we're not get married yet but i can't wait til that time comes!

just like you - i have always been a saver for the future, especially for my own home & family. that means not going out and buying trendy clothes all the time & spending lots of money here and there. however, now, my love of bags has taken over me. what i do is save for one & when i know i have all the $ for it & can still pay for other stuff, i get it. but i still feel so guilty bc i'm like "i should be saving this $ towards a house, a sofa, a car, mortgage, something!" - it's just coming out right now- you've been saving & planning, & the feeling of graduating & the newfound extreme freedom/responsibility that is upon us is overwhelming. you've found somethign you take comfort in that makes you happy - gucci!!!! and that's okay! it sounds like you are very responsible & your plans are well-thought out. things fall into place. and honestly - when you are in love & have found the right one, you get through everything together, ya know? you may feel guilty, but you have saved, you will both have jobs before you know it, and will be marrieeedd!!! you just need to have something to call your own right now- and spending a little is fine! best of luck to you & i can't wait to see wedding pics, lol. keep us updated on any good news w/ jobs & such!!

[xoxomandylyn]

Aww ash14vwb I recognized you from your thread as soon as I saw that adorable white coach hobo. Hehe.

I think the same thing. Every time I see that I have gone and done it again (gotten a bag) I immediately feel guilt and think "apartment/house, cars, food, furniture, cars, gas, bills, future children" I mean I just think about EVERYTHING. I guess I do need to relax a little bit, though. I love my Coach and I love my Gucci, I think my problem is that I want a nice collection now. And now that I have that collection developing already, I think once I have them in my possession, I think these bag urges will finally die down.

My fiance is taking me to the Coach outlets for the first time ever this Saturday. I am so excited. I just hope I don't get a guilty spell and rain on the fun of the trip.

Any advice as to how to keep wedding bells and responsibilities out of my head for just ONCE in my life? My only outlet trip ever so far? Haha.

[ash14vwb]

^^ i think you're doing good now!! if you always have the wedding & responsibility in mind, you'll never go too crazy & rack up a credit card or spend $$ you know is necessary somewhere else.

definitely have fun at the outlets! just know your limit is all! luckily it's the outlets, lol, so everything is more reasonably priced! i would just enjoy all the time you have as a fiancee, building up your relationship & having fun together before the wedding. you're probably both feeling the same way, anxious at times & always conscious of money/expenses - so a fun trip to the outlets to keep your mind off of things sounds good to me! if i see a post on the coach forum a week from now saying "look at my outlet finds" & it's like 3 bags & tons of accessories, THEN we have a problem, haha

[xoxomandylyn]

^ Yeah I am really hoping I don't go overboard haha. But as long as I put a stop to my Gucci bag spree I will feel a LOT better. Coach price tags look like heaven compared to Gucci price tags most of the time. I definitely need to put a pause on the Gucci haha. Coach I can deal with better, I don't feel quite as guilty.

I hope I find something I love, my fiance is taking me as a treat because I have never been to an outlet in my life! So I will look at it this way: I have this one shopping treat, and then I have to be REALLY GOOD until the end of the summer. That means NO MORE BAGS. Haha. I think I can I think I can I think I can...