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So true. Thanks. :) |
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Nov 4th, 2009, 07:58 AM
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Of course you are sad. You ARE grieving a death. The death of a relationship. I once read something that said that it is as hard for the person who falls out of love as it is for the person who is no longer loved because you had expectations of the relationship and you are disappointed.
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Nov 4th, 2009, 08:02 AM
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I know you feel badly about hurting your husband but think of it this way: You are giving him a chance to find someone else who truly loves him.
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Nov 4th, 2009, 08:57 AM
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Speaking from experience, even if you wanted the relationship to end, you still must grieve and feel your emotions appropriately. It will pass, and you will be satisfied knowing you felt your emotions fully, didn't hide them, and healed the hurt appropriately.
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Nov 4th, 2009, 06:55 PM
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That is how I look at it too. He deserves more. He deserves to be with someone that can reciprocate his feelings. i can'. Thank you. |
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Nov 4th, 2009, 06:56 PM
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I am a very emotional person - and I know I have to let all this out. I'm glad in a way I am feeling this way. I didn't expect it at all i thought I would be only elated - and yet a part of me is sad - such a closed chapter of my life. But one that I am ready to end. Thanks for your words. |
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Nov 4th, 2009, 09:30 PM
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He's still living here as well, he's looking for a place with his brother right now. So, I know how hard it is, seeing the person each day and you just wonder where it all went wrong.
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Nov 4th, 2009, 10:20 PM
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Stay strong...
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Nov 5th, 2009, 05:54 AM
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Many thanks. And I'm in love with your dog in your avatar. I had a lab that looked just like him once. So sweet. |
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Nov 5th, 2009, 05:56 AM
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Exactly! I was just saying yesterday to someone that it's so hard because we're still living together. Before marriage when you broke up with someone, that was that - you didn't have to see the person again. This is sort of whacky because it's like "we're over" and then you're passing that person on the way to the bathroom. Weird! |
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Nov 5th, 2009, 09:44 PM
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ITA...it is totally whacky.
But I guess that's what life is, whacky.  I hope the storm blows by soon, and I can soon start my new life with our son.
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I hope so too for you. And me. This is like getting through a storm isn't it? I can see better days ahead - but having a hard time getting to them. But knowing I will achieve happiness is keeping me trudging through all this. I hope the same for you too. |
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Nov 6th, 2009, 09:56 PM
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Thanks, BagLadie.
This certainly is like getting through a storm. It seems like the rainbow is so far away. But I know I am doing this for myself, and for our son. I hope all is well for you too. Stay strong! 
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Nov 7th, 2009, 06:25 AM
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Its very normal to feel sad at the time of separation. My friend cried as her ex-husband's back is facing her when he left even though she doesn't love him anymore because he was abusive. Because he is like your family and now its like having a family member stepping out of your life. You will need to get use to the situation.
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Nov 7th, 2009, 10:21 AM
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I have stayed away from your threads purposely for fear as coming off very judgemental but i just find it strange that most posters are so supportive. I am wondering if the roles were reversed if the scenario would be the same. I would imagine pages and pages of backlash for a man in your situation. I think it's important that you not get irritated with your husband for things such as calling you because he is just doing what feels natural and at the end of the day he did not force you into a loveless marriage, you made that decision all on your own. I have seen my friend go through this but she was on the recieving end of hurtful words from her husband who felt he had found something better and no longer wanted to be with her.
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