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MarieG · Jul 2nd, 2009, 06:57 PM

I think you've obviously tried your very best and no one has the right to judge you! People will probably try but they do not know better- only you know what is right and best for you! So I'm sending you lots of strength- you are a strong, brave lady and you will get through this! All the best!!

Jeneen · Jul 2nd, 2009, 06:59 PM

You are not a failure.
You didn't just say *Poof* see you later!!!
You tried to be happy and make it work with your husband, and it just... doesn't.
You didn't get nothing out of this relationship, you got 3 children, and years of experience as a wife and family woman. I hope things work out amicably for you and your current husband and you find happiness in your future when you begin a fresh start.

illinirdhd · Jul 2nd, 2009, 07:07 PM

Just wanted to give you a big cyber hug. We all have our secrets, and we've all done things we aren't proud of. If you ever need anything, feel free to PM me.

PurseCrazyGal · Jul 2nd, 2009, 07:09 PM

Wow! And I thought I had issues. Seems like you know what you want & don't want. Follow your heart. I was once told you can't go wrong when you follow your heart.

It always works for me.

G/L with things and I hope they go the way you wish them too.

HappyGrl2008 · Jul 2nd, 2009, 07:16 PM

You are very brave!

shazam · Jul 2nd, 2009, 07:22 PM

I'm sorry that you've not been happy in your marriage and I hope that eventually things will work out so that everyone-you, your husband and your children-are all able to find happiness.

And I do remember one of the facts you listed about yourself was that you were a compulsive liar and are still working on that, so I commend you for coming clean with the forum about any misrepresentations that may have happened. Many people would not have bothered and I agree that it takes courage.

If you don't mind me asking, for clarification, are you saying the person whose picture you posted in the "Pictures of Significant Others" thread is the friend for whom you have feelings or is that your current husband? I'm still just a little confused on what was what in your past posts.

Good luck with everything and if you're true to yourself while keeping your love for your children strong, I think you'll be on the right path.

KMBS · Jul 2nd, 2009, 07:25 PM

Good for you, it takes real courage to do this and I wish more people were like you, honestly! A lot of people stay in the marriage just because they are not brave enough to take the next step.

Best of luck to you!

rainedrop1019 · Jul 2nd, 2009, 07:26 PM

Wow BagLadie. Thank you for sharing that with us and I wish you the best in everything.

Cal · Jul 2nd, 2009, 07:34 PM

Big, Giant, Enormous HUGS BagLadie. I wish you all the best.

claireZk · Jul 2nd, 2009, 09:00 PM

I really admire your honesty and your courage! Based on what you've said, it sounds like letting go would be the best thing for both of you. Even though it might be hard to do, I absolutely think it's the best thing to do. Good luck and big hugs... stay strong!

mimi14 · Jul 2nd, 2009, 09:13 PM

BagLadie - Follow your heart and be happy. It'll work out ok in the end.

I think a few months back you said something with exactly the same sentiments to me.

Be happy. Follow your heart. Good luck.

BagLadie · Jul 2nd, 2009, 09:27 PM

Originally Posted by shazam

I'm sorry that you've not been happy in your marriage and I hope that eventually things will work out so that everyone-you, your husband and your children-are all able to find happiness.

And I do remember one of the facts you listed about yourself was that you were a compulsive liar and are still working on that, so I commend you for coming clean with the forum about any misrepresentations that may have happened. Many people would not have bothered and I agree that it takes courage.

If you don't mind me asking, for clarification, are you saying the person whose picture you posted in the "Pictures of Significant Others" thread is the friend for whom you have feelings or is that your current husband? I'm still just a little confused on what was what in your past posts.

Good luck with everything and if you're true to yourself while keeping your love for your children strong, I think you'll be on the right path.

The pictures I have posted are not of my current husband. It's who I want to be married to - but am not. Yet anway. Eeeks sounds so bad in writing.

Thank you EVERYONE for all your kind and non-judging posts. It means a lot to me. I will update you on how all this is going for me in the near future. I appreciate each and every one of you. It's amazing how much it helps to read such positive and loving words from you guys.

Jeneen · Jul 2nd, 2009, 09:29 PM

Who are we to judge?

Perfect?

No.

queenvictoria2 · Jul 2nd, 2009, 09:32 PM

I am just curious and you certainly do not have to answer this if you don't want to, but does your husband know about your SO? I was just wondering how HE was handling all of this? I know it has to be difficult for everyone.

BagLadie · Jul 2nd, 2009, 09:42 PM

Originally Posted by queenvictoria2

I am just curious and you certainly do not have to answer this if you don't want to, but does your husband know about your SO? I was just wondering how HE was handling all of this? I know it has to be difficult for everyone.

He does and he doesn't. He did find out about him and I didn't deny it. It was a long time ago. I was hoping that was my "out" but it wasn't. He turned his back and pretended nothing was wrong. Veryyyy bizarre.

I have grown to realize he really only wants someone to take care of the house, kids, laundry, shopping, cooking. Nothing more.

Jul 2nd, 2009, 06:57 PM	#16
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Jul 2nd, 2009, 06:59 PM	#17
Jeneen Member Joined: Feb 2009 Location: up in the gym workin on my fitness Posts: 2,734	You are not a failure. You didn't just say Poof see you later!!! You tried to be happy and make it work with your husband, and it just... doesn't. You didn't get nothing out of this relationship, you got 3 children, and years of experience as a wife and family woman. I hope things work out amicably for you and your current husband and you find happiness in your future when you begin a fresh start.
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Jul 2nd, 2009, 07:07 PM	#18
illinirdhd Sofa King Hooked Joined: Dec 2007 Location: New to the Philadelphia area! Posts: 5,737	Just wanted to give you a big cyber hug. We all have our secrets, and we've all done things we aren't proud of. If you ever need anything, feel free to PM me.
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Jul 2nd, 2009, 07:09 PM	#19
PurseCrazyGal Miss_Marlena Joined: Jan 2008 Location: In the bathroom getting ready...where else?? Posts: 2,254	Wow! And I thought I had issues. Seems like you know what you want & don't want. Follow your heart. I was once told you can't go wrong when you follow your heart. It always works for me. G/L with things and I hope they go the way you wish them too.
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Jul 2nd, 2009, 07:16 PM	#20
HappyGrl2008 Member Joined: Oct 2008 Posts: 272	You are very brave!
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Jul 2nd, 2009, 07:22 PM	#21
shazam Member Joined: Jul 2007 Posts: 1,228	I'm sorry that you've not been happy in your marriage and I hope that eventually things will work out so that everyone-you, your husband and your children-are all able to find happiness. And I do remember one of the facts you listed about yourself was that you were a compulsive liar and are still working on that, so I commend you for coming clean with the forum about any misrepresentations that may have happened. Many people would not have bothered and I agree that it takes courage. If you don't mind me asking, for clarification, are you saying the person whose picture you posted in the "Pictures of Significant Others" thread is the friend for whom you have feelings or is that your current husband? I'm still just a little confused on what was what in your past posts. Good luck with everything and if you're true to yourself while keeping your love for your children strong, I think you'll be on the right path.
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Jul 2nd, 2009, 07:25 PM	#22
KMBS Member Joined: Mar 2008 Location: New York Posts: 784	Good for you, it takes real courage to do this and I wish more people were like you, honestly! A lot of people stay in the marriage just because they are not brave enough to take the next step. Best of luck to you!
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Jul 2nd, 2009, 07:26 PM	#23
rainedrop1019 To buy or not to buy Joined: Jun 2006 Posts: 930	Wow BagLadie. Thank you for sharing that with us and I wish you the best in everything.

Jul 2nd, 2009, 07:34 PM	#24
Cal Bum Chum Joined: Jan 2006 Location: Australia! Posts: 6,359	Big, Giant, Enormous HUGS BagLadie. I wish you all the best.

Jul 2nd, 2009, 09:00 PM	#25
claireZk Member Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 11,689	I really admire your honesty and your courage! Based on what you've said, it sounds like letting go would be the best thing for both of you. Even though it might be hard to do, I absolutely think it's the best thing to do. Good luck and big hugs... stay strong!
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Jul 2nd, 2009, 09:13 PM	#26
mimi14 Member Joined: Feb 2007 Posts: 104	BagLadie - Follow your heart and be happy. It'll work out ok in the end. I think a few months back you said something with exactly the same sentiments to me. Be happy. Follow your heart. Good luck.
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Jul 2nd, 2009, 09:29 PM	#28
Jeneen Member Joined: Feb 2009 Location: up in the gym workin on my fitness Posts: 2,734	Who are we to judge? Perfect? No.
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Jul 2nd, 2009, 09:32 PM	#29
queenvictoria2 psalm 25:4 Joined: Sep 2006 Location: In a Shoe .... Posts: 4,289	I am just curious and you certainly do not have to answer this if you don't want to, but does your husband know about your SO? I was just wondering how HE was handling all of this? I know it has to be difficult for everyone.
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