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tiffthegreat · Oct 19th, 2009, 07:13 PM

So i live in a shared house with my mom and two sisters, we have roomates one of which is a guy a little bit older than me, i'm 19.. he's about 22? Ever since he moved in a about a year or so ago he's expressed interest in me, i'm not interested at all. I've told him that a million times and he doesn't seem to get it.. whenever I can avoid him I do so, for a couple months he left me alone and i hardly ever saw him, so i thought it was ok then he asked for my email in case he needed a favor so i gave it to him and he added me on fb so i accepted but again he proceeded to say " oh he only has one wish when it comes to me.." and blah blah blah he just wouldn't leave me alone he kept on telling me that he wanted to be friends with me and would always invite me to places with him even though everytime I would decline, eventually i blocked him from my email and facebook.

But i still have to see him, since we live in the same house. the other day i was walking home and he saw me, he asked me why i treated him so badly and i explained to him ( as i have a MILLION times before) that i do not care for him in any matter and do not wish to be friends or anything else, he proceeded to say that the " more i don't care for him, is the more he cares for me" before i blocked him on fb but right before i did he tried to tell me his " one wish, when it came to me" again, so i got mad and told him to leave me alone and he said that wen i got angry he loves it >_< i called him a sick f*ck, and blocked him immediately, im soo creeped out, i'm scared to go check the mail, or even bring out the trash, in fears of having to see him.

My mom absolutely adores him and thinks he's just a god send, but she doesn't know the side of him that i do, should i tell her? I move out in a couple of months so should i just stick it out till then? I'm also thinking of sending his gf a message and letting her know how he is and asking her to tell him to stop, what should i do??

JNH14 · Oct 19th, 2009, 07:17 PM

Why haven't you told your mom about what he's really like?

oogiewoogie · Oct 19th, 2009, 07:28 PM

What a creep~!! Sounds a little scary too... You should definitely tell your mom .. and be sure you express to her how uncomfortable he makes you feel in your own home.

tiffthegreat · Oct 19th, 2009, 07:33 PM

Originally Posted by JNH14

Why haven't you told your mom about what he's really like?

i haven't told her because he always helps her out when she needs help, like say if her car breaks down or something and im not sure how she'll react when i tell her, im afraid she's gonna freak out.

PurseAddict79 · Oct 19th, 2009, 07:51 PM

You need to tell your mom. I'm sure she'd be more concerned for your welfare than anything. She needs to know what kind of freak she has living in the house with her young daughter...

dmitchell15 · Oct 19th, 2009, 07:53 PM

you need to tell her ASAP

EMMY · Oct 19th, 2009, 07:58 PM

Uh..yeah..your Mom needs to know the truth..this is not a healthy way for you to be living..good luck and keep us posted!!

domlee · Oct 19th, 2009, 08:13 PM

I'm a guy...and I'm telling you...you need to tell your mom.

flashy.stems · Oct 19th, 2009, 08:37 PM

i'd forsure tell my mom. do it now!

juneping · Oct 19th, 2009, 08:50 PM

the first half...i thought he was just being very persistent and sweet...after i finish the whole post..i think he scares me.
tell your mom.

SPOILEDkiwi · Oct 19th, 2009, 09:11 PM

You need to tell your mom. I'm sure the safety of her daughter is more important than having someone to help out with things.

jellybebe · Oct 19th, 2009, 09:14 PM

Not only is he victimizing you, he could be doing the same thing to your sisters. I would definitely let your mom know.

domlee · Oct 19th, 2009, 09:34 PM

Also given the scary type behavior, I would consider running a criminal history check on the guy, just to be safe.

alliemia · Oct 19th, 2009, 09:44 PM

tell your mom. it is not safe for you to be in the house with him. he sounds unstable. and he has a giflfriend?
seems like bad news

Charles · Oct 19th, 2009, 10:56 PM

Originally Posted by domlee

I'm a guy...and I'm telling you...you need to tell your mom.

Guy number 2 saying the same thing.

Oct 19th, 2009, 07:13 PM	#1
tiffthegreat OP Member Joined: Jan 2009 Location: Florida Posts: 367	I feel victimized...should i tell? So i live in a shared house with my mom and two sisters, we have roomates one of which is a guy a little bit older than me, i'm 19.. he's about 22? Ever since he moved in a about a year or so ago he's expressed interest in me, i'm not interested at all. I've told him that a million times and he doesn't seem to get it.. whenever I can avoid him I do so, for a couple months he left me alone and i hardly ever saw him, so i thought it was ok then he asked for my email in case he needed a favor so i gave it to him and he added me on fb so i accepted but again he proceeded to say " oh he only has one wish when it comes to me.." and blah blah blah he just wouldn't leave me alone he kept on telling me that he wanted to be friends with me and would always invite me to places with him even though everytime I would decline, eventually i blocked him from my email and facebook. But i still have to see him, since we live in the same house. the other day i was walking home and he saw me, he asked me why i treated him so badly and i explained to him ( as i have a MILLION times before) that i do not care for him in any matter and do not wish to be friends or anything else, he proceeded to say that the " more i don't care for him, is the more he cares for me" before i blocked him on fb but right before i did he tried to tell me his " one wish, when it came to me" again, so i got mad and told him to leave me alone and he said that wen i got angry he loves it >_< i called him a sick f*ck, and blocked him immediately, im soo creeped out, i'm scared to go check the mail, or even bring out the trash, in fears of having to see him. My mom absolutely adores him and thinks he's just a god send, but she doesn't know the side of him that i do, should i tell her? I move out in a couple of months so should i just stick it out till then? I'm also thinking of sending his gf a message and letting her know how he is and asking her to tell him to stop, what should i do??
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Oct 19th, 2009, 07:17 PM	#2
JNH14 Midlife...no crisis! Joined: Nov 2006 Location: Somewhere South... Posts: 2,428	Why haven't you told your mom about what he's really like?
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Oct 19th, 2009, 07:28 PM	#3
oogiewoogie is eNjoyin Life :) Joined: Mar 2007 Location: Beachy SoCAL...♥ Posts: 4,123	What a creep~!! Sounds a little scary too... You should definitely tell your mom .. and be sure you express to her how uncomfortable he makes you feel in your own home.
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Oct 19th, 2009, 07:53 PM	#6
dmitchell15 Member Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 2,639	you need to tell her ASAP
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Oct 19th, 2009, 07:58 PM	#7
EMMY Member Joined: Aug 2006 Location: Syracuse , New York Posts: 6,745	Uh..yeah..your Mom needs to know the truth..this is not a healthy way for you to be living..good luck and keep us posted!!
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Oct 19th, 2009, 07:51 PM	#5
PurseAddict79 PerpetuallyPenniless Joined: Sep 2008 Location: The Mall Posts: 1,233	You need to tell your mom. I'm sure she'd be more concerned for your welfare than anything. She needs to know what kind of freak she has living in the house with her young daughter...

Oct 19th, 2009, 08:13 PM	#8
domlee Member Joined: Jan 2007 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 952	I'm a guy...and I'm telling you...you need to tell your mom.

Oct 19th, 2009, 08:37 PM	#9
flashy.stems Hermès Hottie Joined: Jun 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 2,122	i'd forsure tell my mom. do it now!
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Oct 19th, 2009, 08:50 PM	#10
juneping couch potato-ing Joined: Jun 2007 Location: NYC Posts: 4,344	the first half...i thought he was just being very persistent and sweet...after i finish the whole post..i think he scares me. tell your mom.
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Oct 19th, 2009, 09:11 PM	#11
SPOILEDkiwi not a kiwi! Joined: Dec 2006 Posts: 2,285	You need to tell your mom. I'm sure the safety of her daughter is more important than having someone to help out with things.
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Oct 19th, 2009, 09:14 PM	#12
jellybebe loves pink!!! Joined: Jan 2007 Location: Canada Posts: 8,024	Not only is he victimizing you, he could be doing the same thing to your sisters. I would definitely let your mom know.
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Oct 19th, 2009, 09:34 PM	#13
domlee Member Joined: Jan 2007 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 952	Also given the scary type behavior, I would consider running a criminal history check on the guy, just to be safe.

Oct 19th, 2009, 09:44 PM	#14
alliemia love shopping!!! Joined: Jun 2008 Location: NY Posts: 3,287	tell your mom. it is not safe for you to be in the house with him. he sounds unstable. and he has a giflfriend? seems like bad news

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