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SunglassLove · Oct 19th, 2009, 11:03 PM

I wouldn't say anything to his GF. No need to start even more drama or piss him off.

But tell your mom. You need to.

Love my Tanos · Oct 20th, 2009, 12:46 PM

Originally Posted by SunglassLove

I wouldn't say anything to his GF. No need to start even more drama or piss him off.

But tell your mom. You need to.

I agree with this. It sounds like he's playing some kind of weird mind game with you, and is counting on you to stay quiet so he can continue to creep you out because that's what gets him off. He's a grown man and someone his age who's right in the head, with an actual girlfriend, should not be acting this way.

Tell your mom. Unless you have a history of telling lies (no offense intended) then she should have no reason to think you're making it up, esp if there's stuff on your computer to confirm it. This guy needs to go.

petitechouchou · Oct 20th, 2009, 01:52 PM

You definitely need to tell your mom asap

clevercat · Oct 20th, 2009, 01:56 PM

Agreeing with everyone else here - please tell your Mum.

tiffthegreat · Oct 20th, 2009, 03:38 PM

thank you so much everyone. If it weren't for you i would've kept it a secret forever, i finally got the courage to tell my mom and she confronted him he had the nerve to say i " misunderstood his intentions" and he called me stupid, and said that karma was going to come back on me for what i did, whatever, he's crazy. But my mom told him to stay away from me, and i told him the same while she was there, so hopefully from now on i'll have no more problems with him.

Aslan · Oct 20th, 2009, 03:39 PM

Originally Posted by tiffthegreat

thank you so much everyone. If it weren't for you i would've kept it a secret forever, i finally got the courage to tell my mom and she confronted him he had the nerve to say i " misunderstood his intentions" and he called me stupid, and said that karma was going to come back on me for what i did, whatever, he's crazy. But my mom told him to stay away from me, and i told him the same while she was there, so hopefully from now on i'll have no more problems with him.

Great! Glad to hear it!

vintageromance · Oct 20th, 2009, 04:02 PM

Glad to know you did at least tell you mom about him and his creepy behavior. The fact that he reacted badly, calling you stupid and saying that karma was going to come back on you is not a good sign though. I'd be extra careful considering it's possible that you could run into him at any time, and if you were alone it's impossible to know how he could react now that you have outed him to your mom and made him angry.

I think I would also show your mom the conversations on the computer, if you still have them, and I would try not to go anywhere alone where you may run into him. Maybe when you are close to home and may see him, your mom or a sister could go with you, to take out the trash, etc?

Love my Tanos · Oct 20th, 2009, 07:10 PM

^ I agree; if he were genuinely contrite and it was a true misunderstanding then he would have apologized to you and your mom and made sure you both knew how sorry he felt and that he would never repeat those behaviors again. Something is not right with this guy. He shouldn't have gotten angry much less shown it in front of your mom (his landlord!). He has issues with boundaries, big time.

I'm glad you shared this with your mom and that she responded the way she did. Please make sure that you aren't left alone and maybe consider keeping a container of pepper spray nearby. I know it sounds paranoid but this guy is just not acting right and he lives in your house. You deserve to feel mentally & physically safe in your own home, IMO.

SPOILEDkiwi · Oct 20th, 2009, 10:06 PM

I'm glad you told your mom, but his reaction makes me feel a little uneasy. Is there any way your mom can kick him out? Does he live in a basement apartment or does he rent a room in your house? Hopefully your mom can find a way to get this guy out of your house because he sounds totally creepy.

tiffthegreat · Oct 21st, 2009, 12:58 PM

i too was alarmed by his reaction, but after he called me stupid etc he came back once again to my mom apologizing etc etc, he asked if i accepted his apology and i just told my mom that i just wanted to be left alone, that's all. ( i tried avoiding talking directly to him at all costs)

i'm still being extra careful, unfortunately i was so freaked out by him i deleted everything when i blocked him, so i have no proof other than parts of conversations i forwarded to friends to let them know what was going on. i'm definitely being cautious though, keeping all the doors locked etc. and i asked my mom for some pepper spray, so hopefully, everything will be ok.

Funny thing is, he never denied anything i told my mom, he just seemed to believe that, it didn't matter that i didn't want to have anything to do with him, as if the fact alone that HE wanted to be friends, should be enough, and how i felt never mattered.

He rents a room in the house, for now she has an older lady friend that's here with me when she's not home. If anything else happens, i'll try to get him kicked out.

karmenzsofia · Oct 21st, 2009, 01:06 PM

He needs to get the boot!

Hally · Oct 21st, 2009, 01:26 PM

Originally Posted by karmenzsofia

He needs to get the boot!

ITA. You don't feel safe in your own home and that is not right.

legsieloveslamb · Oct 22nd, 2009, 01:45 AM

Creeeeeppppppyyyyy! So glad to hear that you told your mom, but why didn't she just go ahead and give him the boot? Somehow, and I hate to scare you any, Tiffthegreat, but this guy may very well try something else if he's still living there.

turboflgrl · Oct 22nd, 2009, 06:40 PM

I don't see how he can't be kicked out now. Your Mom needs to get him out of the house ASAP. I couldn't deal with that and his reaction sets off red flags for me...

EMMY · Oct 23rd, 2009, 07:30 AM

VERY happy to hear you told your Mom..as I think it is best that he be asked to leave...at least you have made her away of how you feel and what's been happening..now if there are any other incidents hopefully your Mom will give him the boot...it's good that youa re taking precautionary measures (pepperspray) too...you seem to have a good head on your shoulders and have common sense..great for you!!

Oct 19th, 2009, 11:03 PM	#16
SunglassLove Troublemaker! Joined: Jan 2009 Location: Chicago Posts: 359	I wouldn't say anything to his GF. No need to start even more drama or piss him off. But tell your mom. You need to.
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Oct 20th, 2009, 01:56 PM	#19
clevercat Member Joined: Sep 2008 Posts: 563	Agreeing with everyone else here - please tell your Mum.
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Oct 20th, 2009, 03:38 PM	#20
tiffthegreat OP Member Joined: Jan 2009 Location: Florida Posts: 366	thank you so much everyone. If it weren't for you i would've kept it a secret forever, i finally got the courage to tell my mom and she confronted him he had the nerve to say i " misunderstood his intentions" and he called me stupid, and said that karma was going to come back on me for what i did, whatever, he's crazy. But my mom told him to stay away from me, and i told him the same while she was there, so hopefully from now on i'll have no more problems with him.
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Oct 20th, 2009, 07:10 PM	#23
Love my Tanos Member Joined: Jul 2009 Posts: 997	^ I agree; if he were genuinely contrite and it was a true misunderstanding then he would have apologized to you and your mom and made sure you both knew how sorry he felt and that he would never repeat those behaviors again. Something is not right with this guy. He shouldn't have gotten angry much less shown it in front of your mom (his landlord!). He has issues with boundaries, big time. I'm glad you shared this with your mom and that she responded the way she did. Please make sure that you aren't left alone and maybe consider keeping a container of pepper spray nearby. I know it sounds paranoid but this guy is just not acting right and he lives in your house. You deserve to feel mentally & physically safe in your own home, IMO.
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Oct 20th, 2009, 10:06 PM	#24
SPOILEDkiwi not a kiwi! Joined: Dec 2006 Posts: 2,285	I'm glad you told your mom, but his reaction makes me feel a little uneasy. Is there any way your mom can kick him out? Does he live in a basement apartment or does he rent a room in your house? Hopefully your mom can find a way to get this guy out of your house because he sounds totally creepy.
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Oct 20th, 2009, 01:52 PM	#18
petitechouchou "H" is for Hamster Joined: Jun 2009 Location: sleeping in my skybox Posts: 1,256	You definitely need to tell your mom asap

Oct 20th, 2009, 04:02 PM	#22
vintageromance Member Joined: Oct 2009 Location: KY/NYC/LA, USA Posts: 36	Glad to know you did at least tell you mom about him and his creepy behavior. The fact that he reacted badly, calling you stupid and saying that karma was going to come back on you is not a good sign though. I'd be extra careful considering it's possible that you could run into him at any time, and if you were alone it's impossible to know how he could react now that you have outed him to your mom and made him angry. I think I would also show your mom the conversations on the computer, if you still have them, and I would try not to go anywhere alone where you may run into him. Maybe when you are close to home and may see him, your mom or a sister could go with you, to take out the trash, etc?

Oct 21st, 2009, 12:58 PM	#25
tiffthegreat OP Member Joined: Jan 2009 Location: Florida Posts: 366	i too was alarmed by his reaction, but after he called me stupid etc he came back once again to my mom apologizing etc etc, he asked if i accepted his apology and i just told my mom that i just wanted to be left alone, that's all. ( i tried avoiding talking directly to him at all costs) i'm still being extra careful, unfortunately i was so freaked out by him i deleted everything when i blocked him, so i have no proof other than parts of conversations i forwarded to friends to let them know what was going on. i'm definitely being cautious though, keeping all the doors locked etc. and i asked my mom for some pepper spray, so hopefully, everything will be ok. Funny thing is, he never denied anything i told my mom, he just seemed to believe that, it didn't matter that i didn't want to have anything to do with him, as if the fact alone that HE wanted to be friends, should be enough, and how i felt never mattered. He rents a room in the house, for now she has an older lady friend that's here with me when she's not home. If anything else happens, i'll try to get him kicked out.
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Oct 21st, 2009, 01:06 PM	#26
karmenzsofia Life is Plan Z Joined: Jun 2008 Location: Tarot Card Posts: 14,885	He needs to get the boot!
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Oct 22nd, 2009, 01:45 AM	#28
legsieloveslamb BaG jUnKiE! Joined: Jun 2008 Posts: 4,094	Creeeeeppppppyyyyy! So glad to hear that you told your mom, but why didn't she just go ahead and give him the boot? Somehow, and I hate to scare you any, Tiffthegreat, but this guy may very well try something else if he's still living there.
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Oct 22nd, 2009, 06:40 PM	#29
turboflgrl Sofa King Addicted Joined: Jun 2008 Location: The Beach! Posts: 448	I don't see how he can't be kicked out now. Your Mom needs to get him out of the house ASAP. I couldn't deal with that and his reaction sets off red flags for me...
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Oct 23rd, 2009, 07:30 AM	#30
EMMY Member Joined: Aug 2006 Location: Syracuse , New York Posts: 6,735	VERY happy to hear you told your Mom..as I think it is best that he be asked to leave...at least you have made her away of how you feel and what's been happening..now if there are any other incidents hopefully your Mom will give him the boot...it's good that youa re taking precautionary measures (pepperspray) too...you seem to have a good head on your shoulders and have common sense..great for you!!
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