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mundodabolsa · Oct 7th, 2009, 11:34 AM

Originally Posted by PrettyInPink

Not that it makes up for anything, but my boyfriend and I have made a "code word" that we discussed over the phone. When I say hello to him online from now on, he will say the code word. This way, I will have peace of mind that it's really him.

it's a good idea but I wouldn't be so sure that this is a secure system. it will be fine the first time but there is a good chance someone is able to see your conversations for some reason and will know it from then on.

I once lived in a house with several roommates and had major problems with my laptop so one of them would let me use his regularly. I found out later that he had a keystroke saving program. It pissed me off so badly to know that he now had access to all my email passwords and was never open with me about it. You just never know.

mrsklem14 · Oct 7th, 2009, 12:21 PM

This is so violating you and I am so sorry. As soon as I read that your boyfriend said he wasn't online my jaw literally dropped. The internet is VERY deceiving and you have to keep that in mind. Good idea that you made a code word, but I'm sure you'll always be a little bit nervous since this has occurred. You are right though, pray pray pray, and I will do the same for you!

VanillaSky · Oct 7th, 2009, 12:38 PM

There are so many creepy creeps in the World! I'm sorry this happened to you :(

seaotta · Oct 7th, 2009, 03:41 PM

I am SO sorry, I would feel the same way. =/

Velvet Blue · Oct 7th, 2009, 04:00 PM

I'm so sorry, that you are going through this.
Are you sure there is no record of your conversation?
I have not used AIM in years, but remember years ago reading that you could find your last message. I followed the instructions and found the last conversation, months after it had happened.

This was a long time ago, but no harm in checking.

BagLadie · Oct 7th, 2009, 08:08 PM

When i hear these stories I cringe because I have grown to HATE the internet. So many ways to get hurt. I'm so sorry this happened to you.

RedSoleAddict · Oct 7th, 2009, 09:30 PM

Oh no, that is horrible! I'm so sorry this happened to you. If this is not someone you both know, it sounds as if someone is reading your conversations since they knew private things.

ITA with the code word being a good idea but if someone is reading your conversations they will know it. The only other thing I can come up with is the idea of him pranking you on the phone when he is online?...as in calling your mobile and let it ring once or twice. Or if "he" comes online you could prank him first and if he pranks you back from HIS phone means that it is him. Sending you an sms with their the code word or letting you know he is online is another option.

That is so horrible. Don't some people have better things to do?!

PursesAddict · Oct 7th, 2009, 10:16 PM

What that person did was so sickening. Sadly, I have a gut feeling that it's somebody you guys both know (mainly because you said he seems to know about your sex lives). You should get to the bottom of this! And you're right, this could harm you in huge ways if it was recorded and leaked out.

I'm so sorry this happened =(. I'm so glad your bf is being so supportive. Be strong and know that you didn't do anything wrong. I also want to ask you to be careful from now on. Never be alone! This person seems to have dirty intentions to begin with, so please please make sure someone you trust is with you at all times. Take care.

surferchick2 · Oct 7th, 2009, 10:16 PM

Could it be an insecure wifi connection? I know people have pulled up personal information when cutting into a network. It's usually unintentional, but are still alot of creeps out there. What a nightmare.

PrettyInPink · Oct 7th, 2009, 11:39 PM

UPDATE!!

I saw on the news today that tens of thousands of yahoo and hotmail account screen names and passwords were hacked into and posted onto the internet. Perhaps this is a breakthrough? PRAYING even further that it this is the cause of the whole thing, and that it WAS indeed a stranger!

Maybe God does answer prayers!

baby&melovelv · Oct 8th, 2009, 12:27 AM

oh- i am so sorry this happened to you. how absolutely rotten. hugs to you.

kimberf · Oct 8th, 2009, 12:36 AM

How awful! I feel so bad for you.

Please don't feel dirty or slutty. You thought you were sharing an intimate moment with your boyfriend, not some random person. You wouldn't have done this if you'd known it wasn't your boyfriend, precisely because you aren't slutty. You were totally taken advantage of.

Hope you can track it down soon. I also hope it was a stranger and that it's someone who can't ever have further contact with you.

amber11 · Oct 9th, 2009, 08:27 PM

i'm so sorry babe.. i really have nothing other to say then that... I hope you figure it all out!!!! best of luck!!!!

VuittonsLover · Oct 9th, 2009, 08:35 PM

wow. that stinks.

he should have kept the account open.. and not said anything to see if the person did it again.. perhaps he could have figured out who it was... hmmm

frenchtoast · Oct 9th, 2009, 09:27 PM

Wow... I'm so sorry this has happened to you!

don't feel bad or slutty you had NO idea this person was not your BF. I think it had to have been someone you knew... or they had read your conversations before, being convincing and knowing sexual details.

Oct 7th, 2009, 12:21 PM	#32
mrsklem14 Member Joined: Oct 2008 Posts: 1,252	This is so violating you and I am so sorry. As soon as I read that your boyfriend said he wasn't online my jaw literally dropped. The internet is VERY deceiving and you have to keep that in mind. Good idea that you made a code word, but I'm sure you'll always be a little bit nervous since this has occurred. You are right though, pray pray pray, and I will do the same for you!
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Oct 7th, 2009, 12:38 PM	#33
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Oct 7th, 2009, 03:41 PM	#34
seaotta Member Joined: Oct 2008 Location: west coast Posts: 192	I am SO sorry, I would feel the same way. =/
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Oct 7th, 2009, 04:00 PM	#35
Velvet Blue Member Joined: Sep 2009 Posts: 164	I'm so sorry, that you are going through this. Are you sure there is no record of your conversation? I have not used AIM in years, but remember years ago reading that you could find your last message. I followed the instructions and found the last conversation, months after it had happened. This was a long time ago, but no harm in checking.
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Oct 7th, 2009, 08:08 PM	#36
BagLadie Got a handle on it Joined: Nov 2006 Location: Red Sox Nation Posts: 7,002	When i hear these stories I cringe because I have grown to HATE the internet. So many ways to get hurt. I'm so sorry this happened to you.
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Oct 7th, 2009, 09:30 PM	#37
RedSoleAddict Member Joined: Apr 2008 Posts: 570	Oh no, that is horrible! I'm so sorry this happened to you. If this is not someone you both know, it sounds as if someone is reading your conversations since they knew private things. ITA with the code word being a good idea but if someone is reading your conversations they will know it. The only other thing I can come up with is the idea of him pranking you on the phone when he is online?...as in calling your mobile and let it ring once or twice. Or if "he" comes online you could prank him first and if he pranks you back from HIS phone means that it is him. Sending you an sms with their the code word or letting you know he is online is another option. That is so horrible. Don't some people have better things to do?!
RedSoleAddict Member Joined: Apr 2008 Posts: 570

Oct 7th, 2009, 10:16 PM	#38
PursesAddict Member Joined: Apr 2009 Posts: 78	What that person did was so sickening. Sadly, I have a gut feeling that it's somebody you guys both know (mainly because you said he seems to know about your sex lives). You should get to the bottom of this! And you're right, this could harm you in huge ways if it was recorded and leaked out. I'm so sorry this happened =(. I'm so glad your bf is being so supportive. Be strong and know that you didn't do anything wrong. I also want to ask you to be careful from now on. Never be alone! This person seems to have dirty intentions to begin with, so please please make sure someone you trust is with you at all times. Take care.
PursesAddict Member Joined: Apr 2009 Posts: 78

Oct 7th, 2009, 10:16 PM	#39
surferchick2 Member Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 2,114	Could it be an insecure wifi connection? I know people have pulled up personal information when cutting into a network. It's usually unintentional, but are still alot of creeps out there. What a nightmare.
surferchick2 Member Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 2,114

Oct 7th, 2009, 11:39 PM	#40
PrettyInPink OP <3 Joined: Jun 2006 Location: Hockey Town! Posts: 1,445	UPDATE!! I saw on the news today that tens of thousands of yahoo and hotmail account screen names and passwords were hacked into and posted onto the internet. Perhaps this is a breakthrough? PRAYING even further that it this is the cause of the whole thing, and that it WAS indeed a stranger! Maybe God does answer prayers!
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Oct 8th, 2009, 12:27 AM	#41
baby&melovelv That's what she said Joined: Aug 2006 Location: boston-ish Posts: 2,576	oh- i am so sorry this happened to you. how absolutely rotten. hugs to you.
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Oct 8th, 2009, 12:36 AM	#42
kimberf Member Joined: Mar 2007 Location: California Posts: 2,871	How awful! I feel so bad for you. Please don't feel dirty or slutty. You thought you were sharing an intimate moment with your boyfriend, not some random person. You wouldn't have done this if you'd known it wasn't your boyfriend, precisely because you aren't slutty. You were totally taken advantage of. Hope you can track it down soon. I also hope it was a stranger and that it's someone who can't ever have further contact with you.

Oct 9th, 2009, 08:27 PM	#43
amber11 Member Joined: Feb 2008 Posts: 711	i'm so sorry babe.. i really have nothing other to say then that... I hope you figure it all out!!!! best of luck!!!!
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Oct 9th, 2009, 08:35 PM	#44
VuittonsLover Cartier Crazy Joined: Sep 2007 Posts: 1,894	wow. that stinks. he should have kept the account open.. and not said anything to see if the person did it again.. perhaps he could have figured out who it was... hmmm
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Oct 9th, 2009, 09:27 PM	#45
frenchtoast Member Joined: Jul 2009 Location: Roanoke, VA Posts: 432	Wow... I'm so sorry this has happened to you! don't feel bad or slutty you had NO idea this person was not your BF. I think it had to have been someone you knew... or they had read your conversations before, being convincing and knowing sexual details.

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