I feel so violated.

[AngelBABY84]

Originally Posted by karmenzsofia

OMG, this is crazy! I'm so sorry this is happening to you. What an uncomfortable experience it must be. I don't even know what to say...how do you find out who did that? This is why, among other reasons, I'm always warning others about the risks and dangers of being too open via technology. This goes to show that you never know who's on the other side of that webcam, IM, text. I think it's time for people to reconsider what privacy means and protect their own. I hope you can get to the bottom of this and that whatever happened during that webcam is not disseminated somehow. Good luck!

^^ITA. Best of luck!

[PrettyInPink]

He doesn't really have any crazy exes, so I don't think that's it.

And, yes... this person was so believable. They knew things... private things about our sex life. And, we can only deduce that they somehow have read our previous conversations. No, they didn't really mention anything about where I live or what I look like. But, that's not something that would really come up in conversation with the two of us.

I am so angry about this, and so is he! We're working really hard to find out who could have possibly done this to us.

[MarieG]

Gosh, I am so incredibly sorry! Please don't feel slutty etc.- you were seriously violated by a really sick person! I would feel just awful, too! I hope you find out who it was! Sending you a big hug!

[exotikittenx]

OMG I'm so sorry this happened to you. I hope you find this awful person. You did nothing wrong yourself, but that person, whoever did that, is truly terrible. Please keep us updated. Does your bf have any roommates around that could have gotten onto his computer? Are you able to look up a chat history and trace it somehow, or contact the company to help you out?

[xostephie]

Oh honey, I am so sorry this happened to you!!!! This beyond terrible. Does your bf have any roommates, close friends that could get access to his passwords, etc? I would highly suggest you start by changing all passwords (im, bank, cc's, anything that he might be using the same password with) for both you and him, just to be safe. Use special characters too! I'm so sorry. I've had something somewhat similar to this happen (albeit it was someone pretending to be me saying very sexually explicit things to my loved ones), and in my case, I'm fairly certain it was an old flame-never would've even expected it, so I wouldn't necessarily rule out an ex.

[ZippyWho]

Wow. You were violated with someone under false pretense. I hope you find out who was that person.

It just goes to show how crazy and sick some people are out there.

[Luccibag]

Wow, I just got a chill up my spine. So sorry this happened to you. Hope you can find out who it was.

[petitechouchou]

Oh, this is terrible. I am so sorry this happened to you!

[PrettyInPink]

Originally Posted by xostephie

Oh honey, I am so sorry this happened to you!!!! This beyond terrible. Does your bf have any roommates, close friends that could get access to his passwords, etc? I would highly suggest you start by changing all passwords (im, bank, cc's, anything that he might be using the same password with) for both you and him, just to be safe. Use special characters too! I'm so sorry. I've had something somewhat similar to this happen (albeit it was someone pretending to be me saying very sexually explicit things to my loved ones), and in my case, I'm fairly certain it was an old flame-never would've even expected it, so I wouldn't necessarily rule out an ex.

He lives with his brother and his brother's wife. I really don't think that either of them would do anything like that.

I am really wondering about the ex thing. But, he hasn't had any contact with his exes in years! But, I suppose we shouldn't leave any stone unturned.

I REALLY want to find out who did this.

Also, does anyone know if there's any law that prohibits this sort of thing?

[olialm1]

I got the chills after reading that! How insanely creepy. Obviously it's someone who knows about your relationship and is possibly close to you/your boyfriend? What kind of messenger service were you using? And you were only on webcam right, you didn't see them at all? I would be freaked out too!

[agart245]

I am so sorry this happened to you. I hope that you can track down the pervert that did this to you. I can't even imagine how you must feel.

[LVShoeFan2]

I'm so sorry this happened to you. I just wanted to give you a hug.

[turboflgrl]

Originally Posted by PrettyInPink

He lives with his brother and his brother's wife. I really don't think that either of them would do anything like that. I am really wondering about the ex thing. But, he hasn't had any contact with his exes in years! But, I suppose we shouldn't leave any stone unturned.

I'm going to play Devil's Advocate here. Anyone is capable of anything first and foremost. There is a chance his brother could've done this so don't rule that out. How long has your boyfriend had this account with the same password? Did any of his ex girlfriends have access to this information? If not, I don't see how that would be a possibility but you should still look into it. However, I do see a major possibility with this brother because they live in the same house and obviously have access to any computer within that house. I'm not trying to say his brother is some pervert. Maybe it was a joke and things went to far (still majorly wrong and inexcusable) or maybe he's a jerk. Or she for that matter.

I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. That really sucks but don't think for one second that any of this is your fault - you did nothing wrong and are not by any means a "slut".

[PrettyInPink]

First of all, thank you SO MUCH everybody for all of the support. You all have made me feel a whole lot better about the whole thing. I still feel extremely violated, and also very angry that there are sick people in this world... who do sick things like this. I guess I learned a valuable lesson.

Not that it makes up for anything, but my boyfriend and I have made a "code word" that we discussed over the phone. When I say hello to him online from now on, he will say the code word. This way, I will have peace of mind that it's really him.

I really wish I had saved the conversation, but when I found out it wasn't my boyfriend... I freaked out and ended the entire conversation immediately. I literally became so sick to my stomach that I felt like I was going to vomit. It didn't occur to me to save it, but now I really wish I would have!

Originally Posted by turboflgrl

I'm going to play Devil's Advocate here. Anyone is capable of anything first and foremost. There is a chance his brother could've done this so don't rule that out. How long has your boyfriend had this account with the same password? Did any of his ex girlfriends have access to this information? If not, I don't see how that would be a possibility but you should still look into it. However, I do see a major possibility with this brother because they live in the same house and obviously have access to any computer within that house. I'm not trying to say his brother is some pervert. Maybe it was a joke and things went to far (still majorly wrong and inexcusable) or maybe he's a jerk. Or she for that matter. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. That really sucks but don't think for one second that any of this is your fault - you did nothing wrong and are not by any means a "slut".

Thank you SO much for your suggestions. Neither of us believe it is his brother... it would just be SO out of character for him. First of all, he's really not a practical jokester. Second of all, he was at work at the time. His work causes him to drive a lot. He wouldn't be able to just sit on a computer and chat. I just really don't believe his brother would do something like that.

I have a suspicion that it COULD be one of his friends that I really dislike... but, my boyfriend says he has no access to his passwords, nor has he ever signed onto messenger from his house or his computer. So, that is kind of out the window.

So, that leaves us just PRAYING that it is somebody that neither of us knows. I would get so much more peace of mind thinking it was a stranger. But, going to family functions/meeting up with friends is going to be difficult for both of us for a while. It's like... who can I trust? How can I look these people in the eye when ANY of them could have seen me in such a dirty way?

[Jeneen]

The code word is an awesome idea!
Change all your accounts and online info and get passwords for your computers and have your bf lock his computer when he is not using it.

You did NOTHING wrong - so don't feel slutty or ashamed- you were violated - the other person should feel ashamed.

My advice is to document as much as you can and have your bf do the same with his whereabouts (receipts/phone calls, etc) during the time period it happened, so if pictures do come out later, you can investigate, show your evidence, and pursue legal action for a stranger taping you and publishing your image without your consent.