[poppyluver]

A few months ago, an old high school buddy & I met for coffee when she came to town & everything was positive. I have never said anything insulting nor have I been critical of her.

Recently she left this comment on one of my myspace photos....
[I am fully clothed in all my myspace photos.]

Dang xxxxxxxx, u should seriously get a tan and eat more!
I think imma have to visit you and feed you!
But you're looking good as always!

Honestly, I'm somewhat offended by her comment & disappointed. She's the type of person prides herself on not being shallow or materialistic. So this comment left me shocked. It feels like she's trying to fuel my insecurities. I have always been naturally thin & pale. Its genetic. I do not have eating disorders nor did I discuss my weight with her.

Am I making too much of this? How would you respond? Thanks

[~Fabulousity~]

The comment was contradicting how can you quote "need to eat more and get a tan" but at the same time "look good" sounds like a hater to me.

[nataliam1976]

Ignore the beyoootch. Dont waste a minute of your life on her silly comments.

[keya]

Sounds to me like she's jealous that you're thin and she's attempting to conceal an insult as a compliment ("you look good..") I wouldn't bother commenting back at all if I were you.

[guccime]

I know exactly how you feel about the "you need to eat" thing. I have always been thin, just the way I am. I never did understand why it is socially acceptable to say to someone "wow you look really THIN, do you eat?" but overweight people don't have to hear "wow you look really big, what do you eat all day?"

It's extremely frustrating. People don't realize that to naturally thin people, hearing comments constantly about how they should eat (even though they may have already downed 5 cheeseburgers that day) gets extremely tiring and insulting.

I'd delete the comment, and not bother to say anything to her unless she contacts you.

[LadyLinda]

Consider the possibility that your friend was drinking when she made that comment. I've known people to say all kinds of goofy, stupid things when shooting off comments on MySpace or Facebook, thinking it hilarious... only to sober up and realize they wedged a great big foot in their mouth.

[holly di]

She is just jealous. Tell her to screw off.

[lovinalotofbags]

I think she was just kidding with you and did not take into consideration if this would offend you since I am sure you have not changed since high school. If you were darker and fatter, I wonder if she would have commented on that. Anyway, I think you should tell her that you were offended by her comment and if she says she was just kidding and apologize, then you will know that she was not thinking when she wrote that. Do not hold it in, tell her how it made you feel.

[~Fabulousity~]

Originally Posted by guccime

I know exactly how you feel about the "you need to eat" thing. I have always been thin, just the way I am. I never did understand why it is socially acceptable to say to someone "wow you look really THIN, do you eat?" but overweight people don't have to hear "wow you look really big, what do you eat all day?"

It's extremely frustrating. People don't realize that to naturally thin people, hearing comments constantly about how they should eat (even though they may have already downed 5 cheeseburgers that day) gets extremely tiring and insulting.

I'd delete the comment, and not bother to say anything to her unless she contacts you.

I agree!!! Yup delete her insulting comment that will speak volumes.

[nooch]

Originally Posted by guccime

I never did understand why it is socially acceptable to say to someone "wow you look really THIN, do you eat?" but overweight people don't have to hear "wow you look really big, what do you eat all day?"

That is absolutely 100% not true :( for years I was terrified to go into a restaurant because people would say such horrible things to me.

Anyway, OP, delete the comment. What is it about myspace that makes reasonable adults act like they're in 7th grade?

[paintednightsky]

Tell her how it made you feel so she can be more considerate in the future to you.

However, I think different people have different thresholds to sensitivity. I personally wouldn't be bothered since it sounded like she was joking.

[juneping]

i agree w/ lovinalotofbags, maybe she's just kidding. you can tell her nicely that you were offended.

I know exactly how you feel about the "you need to eat" thing. I have always been thin, just the way I am. I never did understand why it is socially acceptable to say to someone "wow you look really THIN, do you eat?" but overweight people don't have to hear "wow you look really big, what do you eat all day?"

hahaha....it's so funny. i got that too...and when i was in college (taiwan)...i was taller than ALL the girls and 60~70% of the guys but i am only 5'7". usually guys just came up to me w/out asking my name first..."wow, you are so tall!! what did you eat when you were growing up??"...i wonder if i asked him, oh, how come you are so short, what did you eat when you were growing up??...#@#$**#@

[artjen]

I would delete that comment. That is not nice. Only someone insecure would leave a comment like that.

[illinirdhd]

Delete it.

[rendodan110]

I think it is just a comment, I dream of people telling me I need to eat more, man i would be so happy... no thrilled if I received that comment and as for a tan no biggie Im as pale as a sheet of paper I tell people you don't like my white legs put on sunnies!! don't let little petty crap get to!