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floridasun8 · Sep 22nd, 2009, 07:18 PM

Thanks everyone for your advice. I think I will just let things happen and if we become friends, thats great.

When I posed the question, it wasnt so much about him being gay as worried how I could come across inviting him somewhere without him thinking "uh oh, she must like me, but Im not interested" type of thing. I actually wanted to ask him today, however I just felt awkward. I think also part of it is that right about now I have no life it seems lol and making a new friend with an exciting lifestyle (not the gay lifestyle, just everything else he is into) makes me excited to make a new friend to do stuff with.

Thanks again for the advice. We'll see what happens.

juneping · Sep 22nd, 2009, 08:32 PM

i find making small talks is a nice and safe beginning of a beautiful friendship. small talks can open the door about his life besides of work.
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Bella · Sep 22nd, 2009, 10:58 PM

Just be confident.. throws any awkwardness you or he could feel right out the window. When you're making small talk in the office, say, " Hey, if you'd ever like some company for lunch, I'd be interested to hear more about (whatever you're talking about)." Just throw it out there with a smile like it's no big deal and walk away.

sammy deer · Sep 22nd, 2009, 11:50 PM

It's definitely not a good idea to tell him you know he's gay. If you invite him shopping or out to lunch with some of your female friends, he would definitely get it.

DreamingBeauty · Sep 22nd, 2009, 11:58 PM

Just talk to him when you cross paths/work together, you will get to know him better and things can evolve from there. Don't say anything about him being gay-do you even know for sure that he is, or is it just a rumor/assumption? Some things are better left unsaid until the other person says it.

Gimmethebag · Sep 23rd, 2009, 01:04 AM

Since you are interested in his exciting life, I would ask him as many questions about it. I think since you are showing an interest in his hobbies, he may invite you along.

Or when you are heading out for lunch, maybe just casually ask if he would like to join you? If he brought his lunch that day, it is no biggie. But if he didn't, he may take you up on your invitation.

Sep 22nd, 2009, 08:32 PM	#17
juneping couch potato-ing Joined: Jun 2007 Location: NYC Posts: 4,355	i find making small talks is a nice and safe beginning of a beautiful friendship. small talks can open the door about his life besides of work. i find some men are into shoes/fashion...and you can compliment his style/fashion...
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Sep 22nd, 2009, 10:58 PM	#18
Bella Earth to Bella Joined: Mar 2006 Posts: 4,348	Just be confident.. throws any awkwardness you or he could feel right out the window. When you're making small talk in the office, say, " Hey, if you'd ever like some company for lunch, I'd be interested to hear more about (whatever you're talking about)." Just throw it out there with a smile like it's no big deal and walk away.
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Sep 22nd, 2009, 11:50 PM	#19
sammy deer Member Joined: Jun 2009 Posts: 58	It's definitely not a good idea to tell him you know he's gay. If you invite him shopping or out to lunch with some of your female friends, he would definitely get it.
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Sep 22nd, 2009, 11:58 PM	#20
DreamingBeauty Member Joined: Aug 2008 Posts: 1,610	Just talk to him when you cross paths/work together, you will get to know him better and things can evolve from there. Don't say anything about him being gay-do you even know for sure that he is, or is it just a rumor/assumption? Some things are better left unsaid until the other person says it.
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Sep 23rd, 2009, 01:04 AM	#21
Gimmethebag Gimme Gimme Gimme Joined: Dec 2008 Location: STL-Nashville-Chicago Posts: 1,109	Since you are interested in his exciting life, I would ask him as many questions about it. I think since you are showing an interest in his hobbies, he may invite you along. Or when you are heading out for lunch, maybe just casually ask if he would like to join you? If he brought his lunch that day, it is no biggie. But if he didn't, he may take you up on your invitation.
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Sep 22nd, 2009, 07:18 PM	#16
floridasun8 OP Member Joined: Nov 2008 Location: Under a Palm Tree Posts: 1,893	Thanks everyone for your advice. I think I will just let things happen and if we become friends, thats great. When I posed the question, it wasnt so much about him being gay as worried how I could come across inviting him somewhere without him thinking "uh oh, she must like me, but Im not interested" type of thing. I actually wanted to ask him today, however I just felt awkward. I think also part of it is that right about now I have no life it seems lol and making a new friend with an exciting lifestyle (not the gay lifestyle, just everything else he is into) makes me excited to make a new friend to do stuff with. Thanks again for the advice. We'll see what happens.

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