how to help my mom?

megsa · Jun 25th, 2008, 05:15 AM

amber11, you have started out doing the right thing already by going to get a movie and being with her. You sound like you already know what to give your mom----love and being there for her.

~Fabulousity~ · Jun 25th, 2008, 05:10 PM

Just be there and let her know if there is anything you can do you will. My grandma was diagnosed last year and has gone through chemo, when she wasn't feeling well I took her fruit baskets (she loves fruit) and just let her know that whatever she needed I was there.

VPT · Jun 26th, 2008, 07:33 PM

My grandma had breast cancer some 40+ yrs ago, but she's still healthy at 92 today. I don't think cancer is the end of the world unless the patient is at the terminal stage, or has it in the vital organs. I lost a dad to secondary liver cancer late last year. He's been suffering for just 1 yr.

dallas · Jun 26th, 2008, 07:58 PM

Just keep being the wonderful, caring daughter you obviously are. Your love for her will tell you what to do. Big hugs.

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Originally Posted by twin53

when i was going thru chemo/radiation - not breast cancer tho - i would just be sitting on my bed watching tv. no pain or anything - just watching tv quietly and my then 7 year old son would hop onto the bed next to me and just intertwine his little fingers in mine and sit silently next to me. he is now 19 and i will never forget those times... just be with her physically and emotionally.

juneping · Jun 28th, 2008, 01:43 AM

be there for her.
so sorry to hear that. best wishes!!

oo0ehxtahcee0oo · Jun 28th, 2008, 07:58 AM

My great grandmother (vulva) and two of my great aunts (cervical) have cancer. It was difficult because my one great aunt (A) was my great grandmother's primary care taker, then when she got diagnosed, my other great aunt (B) come to help take care of my great grandma as my mom took care of my great aunt (A) and the house. then my other great aunt (B) got diagnosed.. and she went home and my Mother and I just took over. Helping out around the house, grocery shopping, bills, and care.. It was a blow to my family but we tried as hard as possible to be there. Sometimes DF and I would just go there and sit with my great grandma and watch her Thai soap operas with her and give her a massage.. Really sweet of DF because they dont even speak the same language but he's still there for her. (I'm a lucky gal.)

imashopaholic · Jun 28th, 2008, 09:03 AM

There's not much you can do to change what's happening so just offer your love and support at all times and tell your Mum that you're there for her through it all. I battled and beat cervical cancer a few years ago within the first year of my marriage and my DH did everything he could to spend time with me, just talking, laughing, taking my mind off the negative, and showing me how much he cared and loved me. While it was the chemo that killed my cancer, it was my hubby that brought my spirit back to life. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Stay strong and have faith that everything will be okay.

Jun 25th, 2008, 05:10 PM	#17
~Fabulousity~ SuperCoolLoveThang	Just be there and let her know if there is anything you can do you will. My grandma was diagnosed last year and has gone through chemo, when she wasn't feeling well I took her fruit baskets (she loves fruit) and just let her know that whatever she needed I was there. __________________ Every adversity, every failure, and every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit - Napoleon Hill

Jun 26th, 2008, 07:33 PM	#18
VPT i ♥ blood oranges Location: Singapore / Vancouver	My grandma had breast cancer some 40+ yrs ago, but she's still healthy at 92 today. I don't think cancer is the end of the world unless the patient is at the terminal stage, or has it in the vital organs. I lost a dad to secondary liver cancer late last year. He's been suffering for just 1 yr. __________________

Jun 28th, 2008, 01:43 AM	#20
juneping couch potato-ing Location: NYC	be there for her. so sorry to hear that. best wishes!! __________________ wish list: purse ban until the cc is paid off

Jun 28th, 2008, 07:58 AM	#21
oo0ehxtahcee0oo ☺Livin the good life Location: ♥In my DF's arms♥	My great grandmother (vulva) and two of my great aunts (cervical) have cancer. It was difficult because my one great aunt (A) was my great grandmother's primary care taker, then when she got diagnosed, my other great aunt (B) come to help take care of my great grandma as my mom took care of my great aunt (A) and the house. then my other great aunt (B) got diagnosed.. and she went home and my Mother and I just took over. Helping out around the house, grocery shopping, bills, and care.. It was a blow to my family but we tried as hard as possible to be there. Sometimes DF and I would just go there and sit with my great grandma and watch her Thai soap operas with her and give her a massage.. Really sweet of DF because they dont even speak the same language but he's still there for her. (I'm a lucky gal.) __________________ [Click photo to read thread!] My blog site has great FREE goodies!! (updated 11/26) www,dearmissie.blogspot.com We did it!! New Crafts Subforum celebration here!!

Jun 25th, 2008, 05:15 AM	#16
megsa Member	amber11, you have started out doing the right thing already by going to get a movie and being with her. You sound like you already know what to give your mom----love and being there for her.

Jun 28th, 2008, 09:03 AM	#22
imashopaholic christmas in 3 weeks Location: Australia	There's not much you can do to change what's happening so just offer your love and support at all times and tell your Mum that you're there for her through it all. I battled and beat cervical cancer a few years ago within the first year of my marriage and my DH did everything he could to spend time with me, just talking, laughing, taking my mind off the negative, and showing me how much he cared and loved me. While it was the chemo that killed my cancer, it was my hubby that brought my spirit back to life. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Stay strong and have faith that everything will be okay.