How many crushes have people usually had :P

[plain jane doe]

I think some of it may just be how he's defining "crush." If I'd answered the question initially, I would have said about 5 for my "serious" crushes, where I actually really liked the guys. I couldn't bother counting up my silly list of all crushes including celebrity crushes. I'm guessing as a guy OP's BF never had a numbered list, so maybe he's just saying he never seriously liked any girl before.

[ηαя¢ιςςα]

Haha, I asked him about this definition of a crush, too. He thought about it and said, someone he'd be more excited to talk to than his guy friends. By another definition, though, he said he has admired girls before--not in a crush way, but because they were good at math. But he's admired more guys in the same way as well.

Haha, I remember asking one of his schoolmates (he goes to boarding school) whether or not he thought I was pretty, and the guy said, "I don't think he likes girls.."

[ηαя¢ιςςα]

This story must sound queerer and queerer, now that I'm rereading it from an online stranger point of view

[vhdos]

asexuality describes lack of sexual attraction or interest in or desire for sex.
You've also made several comments that insinuate that he might be homosexual (you said that one of his schoolmates told you that he didn't think that he liked girls).
OP- perhaps he is confused about sexuality, so I'd tread lightly if I were you.

[ηαя¢ιςςα]

Originally Posted by vhdos

asexuality describes lack of sexual attraction or interest in or desire for sex.

Okay. Don't think he's asexual.

[vhdos]

what about homosexual?

[ηαя¢ιςςα]

Lmao...definitely not.

IDK. that's just how he is. It may be unusual but that's why I love him

[vhdos]

What makes you say definitely not? Then why do you suppose that one of his schoolmates told you that he didn't think that he was interested in girls? Or why his friends questioned him about having a crush when he's never had one before? Obviously, other people are sensing something about him. Lots of homosexuals feel very conflicted and confused about their feelings. It's not uncommon for a person who is homosexual to date or even have sex with members of the opposite sex in an effort to sort through their feelings and/or disguise things.
What you have posted just doesn't seem to add up. Maybe some of it is difficult for you to see, but an outside perspective can sometimes help shed some light. I'm certainly not saying that he is gay, asexual, heterosexual, etc but I'm just saying that your story is very confusing.

[ηαя¢ιςςα]

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Or why his friends questioned him about having a crush when he's never had one before?

Gay people creep him out. No offense.

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Then why do you suppose that one of his schoolmates told you that he didn't think that he was interested in girls?

As in, he didn't care about relationships/crushes, not "he's not interested in girls, he's interested in guys."

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Or why his friends questioned him about having a crush when he's never had one before?

They didn't?

Is it impossible for a guy to not be attracted to any girls/have flings/random crushes until he meets someone he loves? What part of that story doesn't add up?

[ηαя¢ιςςα]

I feel like a lot of what I'm saying is being misinterpreted :) No, he's not gay and the comments from his friends that insinuate anything may come off like that but were not meant that way.

However, the people here seem to think that his story of not being attracted to girls until he met me isn't plausible, however. It may be unusual, but why not?

[plain jane doe]

Originally Posted by vhdos

What makes you say definitely not?

I think we all know what that means

[vhdos]

Originally Posted by ηαя¢ιςςα

Gay people creep him out. No offense. As in, he didn't care about relationships/crushes, not "he's not interested in girls, he's interested in guys." They didn't? Is it impossible for a guy to not be attracted to any girls/have flings/random crushes until he meets someone he loves? What part of that story doesn't add up?

Saying, "gay people creep him out" means nothing. As I mentioned before, lots of homosexuals feel extremely conflicted in regards to their sexuality and that can be expressed in many different ways. Sometimes people try to mask their true feelings by dating members of the opposite sex, gay-bashing, etc.
I'm not sure why you are picking things apart? If a schoolmate said "I don't think he's interested in girls" I would take that to mean that he's interested in guys instead. Perhaps I interpreted it incorrectly (or perhaps you did)?
I don't think it's likely for a young guy to only "crush" on someone he "loves" and that's the part that doesn't add up. Has he been attracted to other girls in the past? I know that you had mentioned that he has admired girls, but that it was in a different way (ike for their math ability).
Most young guys I know (and girls too for that matter) express lots of sexual interest and/or attraction to their objects of desire regardless of whether or not they are heavily involved in work, math, sports, school, etc.
Oh well, I guess it doesn't have to add up. I hope that you are not offended by my misunderstanding. I mean no disrespect and I wish you the best in your relationship.

[vhdos]

Originally Posted by plain jane doe

I think we all know what that means

Um, if you are referring to sex, lots of gay people have sex with members of the opposite sex - some even get married and have babies. That doesn't necessarily mean that they are not gay. Sadly, it is not uncommon for gay people to try and hide and/or change the fact that they are gay for different reasons (religion, societal norms, social pressure, etc.)

[meganfm]

I don't think his lack of interest could necessarily mean he is homosexual-I was friends with a lot of "nerdy" people in high school-and even NOW that we're almost finished university, they still have never expressed interest in the opposite sex. The one couple in that group can't even hold hands without getting a bunch of giggles from the others (we're 21 now BTW).

I wouldn't take "He doesn't seem interested in girls" as meaning "he's interested in guys". Yes, for most people in high school hormones are raging and you can't stop thinking about that cute guy/girl sitting in front of you in English class....but some people don't. Some people just develop more slowly than others, which could explain why he hasn't shown much interest.

I guess the big question is what your physical relationship is like-is he affectionate with you?

[vhdos]

Good points meganfm. I'm certainly not jumping to conclusions about his sexuality - heck, I don't even know the guy. I think you're right that some people are just focused on different things at different times.