[BagLadie]

Originally Posted by rainyjewels

i feel like if you're not in love, there's really nothing that can magically happen in the relationship that will make you fall in love. in other words i think if you're in love, and there are missing pieces in the relationship or flaws, those pieces don't make you fall out of love. you work on them. but if you're not in love, working on those missing pieces/flaws won't bring you back to being in love again.

I totally agree with this. You can't fix something if there is nothing there to fix. If you're not in love with the guy - do HIM a favor and end it.

[amber11]

thats a really tough question that i don't know the answer too, but if you let yourself imagine him with someone else or moving on without you those kinds of thing- and it doesn't upset you, I would say your meant to be with someone else

[digby723]

Its a good question, one I ask myself a lot. I have no advice for you really, but, I think that when you know that there really isn't anything else that you can say or do to change anything in the relationship anymore, it's time to move on.

I'd move on in a heartbeat if I could tell the future about his family. We come from different cultures and his family (mainly his sister) hates me. I really don't care, but, he does. I don't want to stay any longer if this isn't going to work out, but, I don't want to leave it knowing that it could. There are other issues too, but, this is just one of them. I think in my situation, when I'm really sick of waiting, I will end it, when nothing else will change. Until that point, there are still conversations and topics we can discuss that might change outcomes. I think when you run out of these conversations, it's time to end the relationship. Until then, you never know what could happen, as no one can tell the future.

[amber11]

Originally Posted by digby723

Its a good question, one I ask myself a lot. I have no advice for you really, but, I think that when you know that there really isn't anything else that you can say or do to change anything in the relationship anymore, it's time to move on.

I'd move on in a heartbeat if I could tell the future about his family. We come from different cultures and his family (mainly his sister) hates me. I really don't care, but, he does. I don't want to stay any longer if this isn't going to work out, but, I don't want to leave it knowing that it could. There are other issues too, but, this is just one of them. I think in my situation, when I'm really sick of waiting, I will end it, when nothing else will change. Until that point, there are still conversations and topics we can discuss that might change outcomes. I think when you run out of these conversations, it's time to end the relationship. Until then, you never know what could happen, as no one can tell the future.

thats good! i totally agree! once you've exercised all the possibilities then its time to move on(hopefully i can practice this advice on day)