How do you prevent yourself from...

~Fabulousity~ · Jul 3rd, 2008, 01:57 PM

falling for a guy too soon?

I've been seeing this guy for about 2 weeks now and I really, really, like him. Of course I know we are still getting to know one another and have a long way to go with that, but I just like him so much

I find myself blushing on the phone and when I read his text messages, and when were together I try to down play it all because I dont want him to know how smitten I am already. I feel kind of embarrassed

I love the way he smells, his jokes and sense of humor, his smile, his height, those kisses, and the way he looks at me when I first walk into a room and sometimes for no reason at all

I'm going with the flow and trying to let things progress naturally, but I knew I had it bad when the thought of him kissing someone else made me jealous

I feel so confued

Cristina · Jul 3rd, 2008, 02:12 PM

RULE #1. Don't hit the sack early on in the relationship!

Others may disagree with me, but if you want to take it slow, holding off on that will help "pace" the relationship.

Think of a relationship as a car. The man is driving the car, and you are the brakes. Yes, he is doing all of these sweet, wonderful things for you, and saying the right things, and looking at you a certain way. It's exhilarating, exciting and scary, all at once

But by you being the "brakes" in the relationship, you help keep things from becoming too much, too soon. Take it slow, enjoy these moments!

IMO, another important thing is to have your own busy life outside of him. It helps keep you grounded, keeps things interesting in the relationship, and allows him to "chase" you a bit when you're not always available for last minute dates. Guys value what they work for!

Just see where things go, and enjoy the attention. Have fun!

lovinalotofbags · Jul 3rd, 2008, 02:13 PM

I say go with it, but keep it cool. It feels good to have those feelings but understand that circumstances can change.

lovinalotofbags · Jul 3rd, 2008, 02:14 PM

Your actions have consequences, good or bad so think with your brain and not your heart doing something that you will regret or leave you hurt.

~Fabulousity~ · Jul 3rd, 2008, 02:18 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by lovinalotofbags

Your actions have consequences, good or bad so think with your brain and not your heart doing something that you will regret or leave you hurt.

that's me and never will change under any circumstances!

~Fabulousity~ · Jul 3rd, 2008, 02:18 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Cristina

RULE #1. Don't hit the sack early on in the relationship!

Others may disagree with me, but if you want to take it slow, holding off on that will help "pace" the relationship.

Think of a relationship as a car. The man is driving the car, and you are the brakes. Yes, he is doing all of these sweet, wonderful things for you, and saying the right things, and looking at you a certain way. It's exhilarating, exciting and scary, all at once

But by you being the "brakes" in the relationship, you help keep things from becoming too much, too soon. Take it slow, enjoy these moments!

IMO, another important thing is to have your own busy life outside of him. It helps keep you grounded, keeps things interesting in the relationship, and allows him to "chase" you a bit when you're not always available for last minute dates. Guys value what they work for!

Just see where things go, and enjoy the attention. Have fun!

Great post, thank you

illinirdhd · Jul 3rd, 2008, 03:24 PM

I have to agree with Cristina here - take it slow. If he's the right guy, he'll wait for you. Or if he's like my DH, he'll make YOU wait for HIM (which is soooo not nice!). Keep those sexy kisses up for a while first, and enjoy each other! Sounds like he might be a keeper.

Couture Dreams · Jul 3rd, 2008, 04:27 PM

I say keep your space. Like the more you talk to him the more you see him, the more you will like him. Only see each other once or twice a week. dont spend your whole day on the phone or texting. spending all the time "together" makes you fall wayyyy too fast for someone.

illinirdhd · Jul 3rd, 2008, 04:30 PM

^^^ I'm kinda the opposite. When I was dating, if a guy was out of sight, he was usually pretty much out of mind too.

ChristyR143 · Jul 3rd, 2008, 04:41 PM

Yeah, I have to agree...don't get intimate too soon. For me, that's usually what would throw me over the edge!

Zophie · Jul 3rd, 2008, 04:58 PM

I can't prevent it. If I like him that much (which RARELY happens to me) I just like him that much and there is no changing it.

BagLadie · Jul 3rd, 2008, 05:13 PM

You can't prevent it. That's what falling in love is all about. It's all out of our control. Enjoy it.

maddog · Jul 3rd, 2008, 06:15 PM

I agree with the others, go slow and keep your own life. If you have other things going on, you'll not be thinking about him constantly, which is good for you and keeps him on his toes.

Are you exclusive yet? Whenever I wasn't, I numbered the guys when I tell my friends things. Guy 1, 2, 3, etc. They only get a name once we are exclusive. It keeps me grounded in reality (he's just a guy I'm dating) and no one would accidentally use the wrong name with my bf when things get serious.

cosmogrl5 · Jul 3rd, 2008, 09:15 PM

It's pretty hard to control strong emotions like the ones you have right now, and there is nothing wrong with feeling happy, giddy and excited. However, guys tend to get spooked by these things, so remember to keep your guard up a bit and don't go blurting out things that may scare him off. Enjoy the giddy honeymoon phase for now. It's fun!

KC1984 · Jul 4th, 2008, 05:32 PM

If you really like him just go with the flow, lifes to short!

Jul 3rd, 2008, 02:12 PM	#2
Cristina Joined: Oct 2005 Location: South Florida Posts: 11,480	RULE #1. Don't hit the sack early on in the relationship! Others may disagree with me, but if you want to take it slow, holding off on that will help "pace" the relationship. Think of a relationship as a car. The man is driving the car, and you are the brakes. Yes, he is doing all of these sweet, wonderful things for you, and saying the right things, and looking at you a certain way. It's exhilarating, exciting and scary, all at once But by you being the "brakes" in the relationship, you help keep things from becoming too much, too soon. Take it slow, enjoy these moments! IMO, another important thing is to have your own busy life outside of him. It helps keep you grounded, keeps things interesting in the relationship, and allows him to "chase" you a bit when you're not always available for last minute dates. Guys value what they work for! Just see where things go, and enjoy the attention. Have fun! __________________ it's nothing i'll forget when the moon gets tired you are stuck to me everyday believe in what i am because it's all i have today and tomorrow who knows where we'll be from here i can hardly see a thing but i will follow anyone who brings me to you for now, forever, for on and on and on - alkaline trio

Jul 3rd, 2008, 02:13 PM	#3
lovinalotofbags Fashion disaster Joined: Mar 2008 Location: Carolinas Posts: 1,577	I say go with it, but keep it cool. It feels good to have those feelings but understand that circumstances can change. __________________ Always forgive your enemies. Nothing annoys them so much.

Jul 3rd, 2008, 02:14 PM	#4
lovinalotofbags Fashion disaster Joined: Mar 2008 Location: Carolinas Posts: 1,577	Your actions have consequences, good or bad so think with your brain and not your heart doing something that you will regret or leave you hurt. __________________ Always forgive your enemies. Nothing annoys them so much.

Jul 3rd, 2008, 03:24 PM	#7
illinirdhd Sofa King Hooked Joined: Dec 2007 Location: Las Vegas, NV Posts: 4,239	I have to agree with Cristina here - take it slow. If he's the right guy, he'll wait for you. Or if he's like my DH, he'll make YOU wait for HIM (which is soooo not nice!). Keep those sexy kisses up for a while first, and enjoy each other! Sounds like he might be a keeper. __________________

Jul 3rd, 2008, 04:27 PM	#8
Couture Dreams spidey kisses Joined: Dec 2007 Location: Lovely CA Posts: 1,165	I say keep your space. Like the more you talk to him the more you see him, the more you will like him. Only see each other once or twice a week. dont spend your whole day on the phone or texting. spending all the time "together" makes you fall wayyyy too fast for someone. __________________ SAN FRANCISCO TPF MEET! August 10, 2008 http://forum.purseblog.com/tpf-meeti...216050-11.html Be there.. or be square! Wishlist - Coach Lindsay Vintage Shopper in Gray

Jul 3rd, 2008, 01:57 PM	#1
~Fabulousity~ Yes we can! Joined: Jan 2006 Location: Creating my life... Posts: 5,390	How do you prevent yourself from... falling for a guy too soon? I've been seeing this guy for about 2 weeks now and I really, really, like him. Of course I know we are still getting to know one another and have a long way to go with that, but I just like him so much I find myself blushing on the phone and when I read his text messages, and when were together I try to down play it all because I dont want him to know how smitten I am already. I feel kind of embarrassed I love the way he smells, his jokes and sense of humor, his smile, his height, those kisses, and the way he looks at me when I first walk into a room and sometimes for no reason at all I'm going with the flow and trying to let things progress naturally, but I knew I had it bad when the thought of him kissing someone else made me jealous I feel so confued __________________ Every adversity, every failure, and every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit - Napoleon Hill

Jul 3rd, 2008, 04:30 PM	#9
illinirdhd Sofa King Hooked Joined: Dec 2007 Location: Las Vegas, NV Posts: 4,239	^^^ I'm kinda the opposite. When I was dating, if a guy was out of sight, he was usually pretty much out of mind too. __________________

Jul 3rd, 2008, 04:41 PM	#10
ChristyR143 But it was on sale!! Joined: Aug 2007 Location: Texas Posts: 2,777	Yeah, I have to agree...don't get intimate too soon. For me, that's usually what would throw me over the edge! __________________

Jul 3rd, 2008, 04:58 PM	#11
Zophie I <3 my Maltese! Joined: Feb 2007 Location: New Orleans, LA Posts: 6,876	I can't prevent it. If I like him that much (which RARELY happens to me) I just like him that much and there is no changing it. __________________

Jul 3rd, 2008, 05:13 PM	#12
BagLadie Got a handle on it Joined: Nov 2006 Location: Red Sox Nation Posts: 4,508	You can't prevent it. That's what falling in love is all about. It's all out of our control. Enjoy it. __________________ "I won't quit to become someone's old lady." - Janis Joplin

Jul 3rd, 2008, 06:15 PM	#13
maddog Mmmkay Joined: Jan 2008 Posts: 1,105	I agree with the others, go slow and keep your own life. If you have other things going on, you'll not be thinking about him constantly, which is good for you and keeps him on his toes. Are you exclusive yet? Whenever I wasn't, I numbered the guys when I tell my friends things. Guy 1, 2, 3, etc. They only get a name once we are exclusive. It keeps me grounded in reality (he's just a guy I'm dating) and no one would accidentally use the wrong name with my bf when things get serious.

Jul 3rd, 2008, 09:15 PM	#14
cosmogrl5 Member Joined: Mar 2007 Posts: 1,313	It's pretty hard to control strong emotions like the ones you have right now, and there is nothing wrong with feeling happy, giddy and excited. However, guys tend to get spooked by these things, so remember to keep your guard up a bit and don't go blurting out things that may scare him off. Enjoy the giddy honeymoon phase for now. It's fun! __________________

Jul 4th, 2008, 05:32 PM	#15
KC1984 Member Joined: Mar 2008 Location: In my own little World Posts: 343	If you really like him just go with the flow, lifes to short!