How do you deal with height differences?

lv_forever · Jun 16th, 2008, 03:13 AM

(either way)

Okay, this is a silly question but I've been dying to know for a long time.

Okay, I am a shortie @ 5'3". Though I like tall men aesthetically, I've never really felt comfortable dating anyone over 6'. My ideal guys are b/w 5'7" - 5'10". I once dated a 6'3" guy and while everything was great, I always felt somewhat awkward/weird when walking together, etc.
How do you deal with awkwardness or do you feel awkward at all?

As my breakup is finally winding down, I am beginning to put myself back on the market and somewhat feel silly that I have this limit. Maybe I am missing out on a great guy?
I dunno. But I do feel super awkward!!

helium · Jun 16th, 2008, 03:19 AM

Lol you mean in bed

?

Seriously, when you find the right guy even if he's like three meters tall you wouldn't care. If the tall man is interesting enough, he'll catch you in different ways.

QueenOfDa702 · Jun 16th, 2008, 03:20 AM

Well, Im 5'8'' so there arent really many guys who are 'out of my reach' lol. My SO is 5'11'' so the only time anyone feels awkward is when I have my 4 inch heels on!

Chipper · Jun 16th, 2008, 03:37 AM

While it's great that you are being honest to yourself about dating preferences, don't be afraid to give taller guys a chance.

Like others have posted, height will become trivial if the relationship is an amazing one. You could be inches away from love and not know it!

cheburashka · Jun 16th, 2008, 03:41 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by lv_forever

(either way)

Okay, this is a silly question but I've been dying to know for a long time.

Okay, I am a shortie @ 5'3". Though I like tall men aesthetically, I've never really felt comfortable dating anyone over 6'. My ideal guys are b/w 5'7" - 5'10". I once dated a 6'3" guy and while everything was great, I always felt somewhat awkward/weird when walking together, etc.
How do you deal with awkwardness or do you feel awkward at all?

As my breakup is finally winding down, I am beginning to put myself back on the market and somewhat feel silly that I have this limit. Maybe I am missing out on a great guy?
I dunno. But I do feel super awkward!!

You really shouldn't limit yourself, like you said, you might miss out on a really great guy. I used to date all these really gorgeous tall guys over 6'0
( I'm between 5'7 and 5'8). When my boyfriend came along (he is 5'9), I thought he was waaaaay too short. Luckily, his sweet caring personality won me over. Now I am scared to think, that have I not dropped that stupid superficial standard, there is a really good chance I could have not dated him.

VPT · Jun 16th, 2008, 03:50 AM

Lie down.

lv_forever · Jun 16th, 2008, 03:53 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by helium

Lol you mean in bed

?

Seriously, when you find the right guy even if he's like three meters tall you wouldn't care. If the tall man is interesting enough, he'll catch you in different ways.

Lol helium!

Seriously, I do want to expand my horizon and but it's so hard to get over that awkwardness. During my brief romance with 6'3" guy, he literally had to lift me up to give me a hug. I was like whoa, this is too weird.

CleoCouture · Jun 16th, 2008, 03:58 AM

I'm 5'5" and I once dated a guy who was 6'10"....yes, 6'10"! I really didnt mind the huge height difference. I actually liked that I never had to feel awkward in heels for being taller than him...I'd have to have some huge-o heels to reach that!

Ever since him I love tall men...tall men have some great assets

!!!

oo0ehxtahcee0oo · Jun 16th, 2008, 04:01 AM

im (almost) 5'4 and i like taller guys as well (when i dated a guy OVER a whooole foot taller than me!! 14 inches to be exact!).. however, one day an "average" 5'8 guy came walking around... and i fell in love with him. for the first 2 years i was bummed not comfortable enough to wear heels in his presence because i'd be the same height or a bit taller. ehh, now i dont care (as much) and just wear whatever i want!! and i know im getting more and more comfortable with it because i just bought 4 pair of heels the other week!!

when you really find the guy, his height wont matter.

TresChic35 · Jun 16th, 2008, 04:17 AM

I also do feel very awkward with the height difference...or should I say lack of height difference because I'm a very tall gal (5'9). I love wearing my high heels, but it makes me over 6-feet-tall!! So I don't date any guys that are shorter than 6' tall. I know its shallow, but when we're sitting down and cuddling it just doesn't feel comfortable at all!!

VPT · Jun 16th, 2008, 04:22 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by oo0ehxtahcee0oo

im (almost) 5'4 and i like taller guys as well (when i dated a guy OVER a whooole foot taller than me!! 14 inches to be exact!).. however, one day an "average" 5'8 guy came walking around... and i fell in love with him. for the first 2 years i was bummed not comfortable enough to wear heels in his presence because i'd be the same height or a bit taller. ehh, now i dont care (as much) and just wear whatever i want!! and i know im getting more and more comfortable with it because i just bought 4 pair of heels the other week!!

when you really find the guy, his height wont matter.

Sorry OP for hijacking this thread, but I think this shoe is perfect for oo0ehxtahcee0oo

oo0ehxtahcee0oo · Jun 16th, 2008, 06:13 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by VPT

Sorry OP for hijacking this thread, but I think this shoe is perfect for oo0ehxtahcee0oo

is it for the diamonds or the heel?? im looost. ahahaa.

VPT · Jun 16th, 2008, 06:32 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by oo0ehxtahcee0oo

is it for the diamonds or the heel?? im looost. ahahaa.

both heehee! style model is aptly called 'marry me'.

Demosthenes · Jun 16th, 2008, 06:36 AM

There's about a 13 inch difference between us, and I like it! I feel all dainty next to him, lol. Our hugs are super cute- I'm tucked in and hugging his chest, and he kisses the top of my head. When you fall in love the details like height don't really matter after a while.

LadyLinda · Jun 16th, 2008, 07:52 AM

I like tall men aesthetically, too, but somehow end up with short ones. Kind of like I like dark men aesthetically, but end up with pale ones. I think we like what we like, and mate in our comfort zone, whatever that might be. It is what it is.

I'm 5'7" and my first husband was 5'3" and I think he added an inch. The only awkwardness was on his end (I really didn't care if I towered over him), because he insisted I wear ballet flats on our wedding day

and he would have me take off my high heels for group pictures (I was tall enough to usually end up in the back row). My second husband is 5'9" and we have no shoe issues.

I think if women are willing to date shorter men (under 5'10"), they have a great pool of potential partners. One gripe I hear a lot from men in my circle is that too many women have a minimum height requirement they don't meet. The only bigger complaints are that women want men with more hair (I'm in an age group where that becomes an issue). So these guys are thrilled with every women who finds them wonderful, doubly because they get ruled out so often. This is, in fact, the pet peeve of one of my sons, who is 5'8". He's 32, Ivy League educated, well-traveled, fluent in three languages, good looking and successful. He's dated plenty. But almost every time he gets turned down, it's because he's too short. I tell him to blame his father.

Jun 16th, 2008, 03:13 AM	#1
lv_forever Member	How do you deal with height differences? (either way) Okay, this is a silly question but I've been dying to know for a long time. Okay, I am a shortie @ 5'3". Though I like tall men aesthetically, I've never really felt comfortable dating anyone over 6'. My ideal guys are b/w 5'7" - 5'10". I once dated a 6'3" guy and while everything was great, I always felt somewhat awkward/weird when walking together, etc. How do you deal with awkwardness or do you feel awkward at all? As my breakup is finally winding down, I am beginning to put myself back on the market and somewhat feel silly that I have this limit. Maybe I am missing out on a great guy? I dunno. But I do feel super awkward!! __________________ i love love

Jun 16th, 2008, 03:20 AM	#3
QueenOfDa702 Misunderestimated. Location: I've gone RAOKing crazy!	Well, Im 5'8'' so there arent really many guys who are 'out of my reach' lol. My SO is 5'11'' so the only time anyone feels awkward is when I have my 4 inch heels on! __________________ ~Valeen~ Happy Holidays to all my tPF friends! Click HERE to visit MySpace Please help get justice for Karley! http://forum.purseblog.com/animalici...ey-385571.html

Jun 16th, 2008, 03:37 AM	#4
Chipper formerly ChocoG**** Location: By the sea in SD...	While it's great that you are being honest to yourself about dating preferences, don't be afraid to give taller guys a chance. Like others have posted, height will become trivial if the relationship is an amazing one. You could be inches away from love and not know it! __________________ Chipper We are tPF, restoring the U.S. economy, one purse at a time.

Jun 16th, 2008, 03:50 AM	#6
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Jun 16th, 2008, 03:58 AM	#8
CleoCouture no will power Location: Stockton (boo!) but plan on moving back to Santa Barbara at some point~!	I'm 5'5" and I once dated a guy who was 6'10"....yes, 6'10"! I really didnt mind the huge height difference. I actually liked that I never had to feel awkward in heels for being taller than him...I'd have to have some huge-o heels to reach that! Ever since him I love tall men...tall men have some great assets!!! __________________ Wish List: Cherry Spy!!! My Collection (find purses and accessories on pg 1, 2, 3, 5, 6 and 7!) http://forum.purseblog.com/your-bag-showcase/cleocoutures-collection-214086.html

Jun 16th, 2008, 03:19 AM	#2
helium Member	Lol you mean in bed ? Seriously, when you find the right guy even if he's like three meters tall you wouldn't care. If the tall man is interesting enough, he'll catch you in different ways.

Jun 16th, 2008, 04:01 AM	#9
oo0ehxtahcee0oo ☺Livin the good life Location: ♥In my DF's arms♥	im (almost) 5'4 and i like taller guys as well (when i dated a guy OVER a whooole foot taller than me!! 14 inches to be exact!).. however, one day an "average" 5'8 guy came walking around... and i fell in love with him. for the first 2 years i was bummed not comfortable enough to wear heels in his presence because i'd be the same height or a bit taller. ehh, now i dont care (as much) and just wear whatever i want!! and i know im getting more and more comfortable with it because i just bought 4 pair of heels the other week!! when you really find the guy, his height wont matter. __________________ [Click photo to read thread!] My blog site has great FREE goodies!! (updated 11/26) www,dearmissie.blogspot.com We did it!! New Crafts Subforum celebration here!!

Jun 16th, 2008, 04:17 AM	#10
TresChic35 The Newbie? Location: Boston	I also do feel very awkward with the height difference...or should I say lack of height difference because I'm a very tall gal (5'9). I love wearing my high heels, but it makes me over 6-feet-tall!! So I don't date any guys that are shorter than 6' tall. I know its shallow, but when we're sitting down and cuddling it just doesn't feel comfortable at all!! __________________ LVoe Nay for eBay..... hooray for bonanzle!

Jun 16th, 2008, 06:36 AM	#14
Demosthenes Member	There's about a 13 inch difference between us, and I like it! I feel all dainty next to him, lol. Our hugs are super cute- I'm tucked in and hugging his chest, and he kisses the top of my head. When you fall in love the details like height don't really matter after a while. __________________

Jun 16th, 2008, 07:52 AM	#15
LadyLinda Member Location: Philadelphia	I like tall men aesthetically, too, but somehow end up with short ones. Kind of like I like dark men aesthetically, but end up with pale ones. I think we like what we like, and mate in our comfort zone, whatever that might be. It is what it is. I'm 5'7" and my first husband was 5'3" and I think he added an inch. The only awkwardness was on his end (I really didn't care if I towered over him), because he insisted I wear ballet flats on our wedding day and he would have me take off my high heels for group pictures (I was tall enough to usually end up in the back row). My second husband is 5'9" and we have no shoe issues. I think if women are willing to date shorter men (under 5'10"), they have a great pool of potential partners. One gripe I hear a lot from men in my circle is that too many women have a minimum height requirement they don't meet. The only bigger complaints are that women want men with more hair (I'm in an age group where that becomes an issue). So these guys are thrilled with every women who finds them wonderful, doubly because they get ruled out so often. This is, in fact, the pet peeve of one of my sons, who is 5'8". He's 32, Ivy League educated, well-traveled, fluent in three languages, good looking and successful. He's dated plenty. But almost every time he gets turned down, it's because he's too short. I tell him to blame his father.