[LV_Mandy]

Hey y'all! So I'm hoping someone here can help me, since I'm not able to talk to my friends about this yet and my family is being zero help. I was just accepted as a sophomore transfer into the College of William and Mary, which is an amazing school which I've wanted to go to since the beginning of high school, but was originally denied. I've made a ton of amazing friends at the school I am currently at, but I know it's best for my future to leave.

So the problem is, how do I tell my best friend without ruining the rest of our summer? I'm afraid that she'll be upset or not want to hang out with me since she knows that I'm leaving. What's the best way to even bring the subject up? I'd appreciate any input on the subject and what you'd do in my situation. Thank you so much!

[ronsdiva]

One thing about getting older is friends move. That means the friendship will change. How much it changes depends on how much both of you put into keeping up the friendship.

First, just tell her. If yhou are really that close she knows you have wanted to go to W & M for years and she knows you did not get in as a freshman. If she is really a friend, she will want to spend the time she can with you having fun and will do her part in keeping up your friendship when you are at school (e-mail, texting, facebook etc). If she decides not to hang out with you, she was not really a friend.

I got married 3 1/2 years ago and 3 years ago moved from our home state to MD. Before we left my son had lost track of a few friends (long story) He has been able to use myspace, facebook, texting and im'ing to reconnect to those friends, who he has known since kindergarten. He is back home this week and will be meeting up with some of them. If a high schooler can do this you and your friend can also.

[lovinalotofbags]

How about inviting her over or going to lunch and tell how much her friendship means to you and hope that she will be happy and understand your decision to attend W&M. A real friend will understand. Tell her that you will be keeping in touch and hope that she will do the same and you do not want to lose her friendship. Good luck and congratulations. You are right, you have to do what is best for you and your future. What will you be studying?

[fr2nc1z]

I think your friend would understand and want what is best for you :)
It's not like you are going to immediately stop all communication! You can still talk through email/phone/etc, and keep in touch when you come back home

[Janos614]

It's a lot easier to keep in touch now than it even was ten years ago, so yeah- if she really is your best friend, she might even be hurt that you're anticipating this sort of reaction from her. Just tell her and mutually form a plan as to how you'll keep in touch.