His frds TRIED TO DRUG ME!! & he didnt do anything!!!

straw227 · Dec 19th, 2007, 06:12 AM

Okay, should I be mad at him and have broken up with him? I am downright pissed outta my mind and want to back hand him across the face. So this is what happened:

Last night, I went to see him when he went drinking at night incase he was too drunk and needed a ride home. I sit down and play some games for a while, and one of his friends decide it would be FUNNY to put some K in my alcohol. (K is a type of drug that gets you high similar to esctacy, except it is a powder) Just to clear things up, I do NOT and WILL NOT do drugs because I am just not into it. So his friend tries to drug me, and he is watching but not saying anything as I take a gulp.

*LUCKILY*, I taste the bitterness, look down the cup and see the drug floating on top. (BTW, my bf is laughing at me while i am drinking it and later denies he knew anything about it because he was "too drunk"), i then rush to the washroom to spit out the drink and puke everything out. (nasty, i know). I come out of the washroom, and OTHER PPL tell me: "Oh, dont drink anything in the pitcher, its all drugged just now u were gone."
My bf comes out of the room and talks normally to me and talks on the phone with one of his buddies VERY NORMALLY.

the next day, he felt bad and rung my doorbell, so i just bitched him and told him i dont wanna see him anymore. but i kinda miss him.
the question is......

would you forgive ur bf for not being able to protect u?
(i know this is long...!!!)

rupbasoli · Dec 19th, 2007, 06:17 AM

NO! This is a fundamental abuse of trust.

Irissy · Dec 19th, 2007, 06:18 AM

I would be piss if this happens to me. It shows no respect when he didn't try to stop his friends from drugging you, especially when he knows you don't do drugs. I would have a long talk with him and set him straight.

straw227 · Dec 19th, 2007, 06:22 AM

well, i saw him today, and we didnt really talk, it was just more of me yelling "get the f--k out please". i think hes scared of calling me now...:(

Glamorous_girl · Dec 19th, 2007, 06:25 AM

NO It's inexcusable and if he didn't care to stop this there is other things he might not care to stop. And I would be highly concerned that he is even hanging out with people like that.

missisa07 · Dec 19th, 2007, 06:30 AM

^I agree. Drunk or not, those are inexcusable actions.

rubylola · Dec 19th, 2007, 06:31 AM

This is at the very least- unpleasant, disrespectful behaviour, or worse- sinister. The fact your boyfriend didn't step in to warn you about what was going on should set huge alarm bells ringing.

I am not coming from a puritanical anti drugs position- when I was a bit younger my friends and I were around stuff like this alot- so I am not judging the drug taking.

But the secret drugging of someone who doesn't take drugs (or even of someone who does) is REALLY, REALLY DODGY-particularly something like ketamine, it is not funny at all and oversteps so many boundaries. In my opinion you should stay away from this crowd of folk, including your boyfriend.

straw227 · Dec 19th, 2007, 06:31 AM

but i am going out of my mind from not being able to talk to him and its only been 1 day...ARRRRRG!!!

_bella_ · Dec 19th, 2007, 06:39 AM

I wouldn't be just angry, I'd be dialing 911.
Life is too short for people like that.

rubylola · Dec 19th, 2007, 06:40 AM

Straw, I know how hard this sort of thing can be- but you should really try and stay out of touch- let him crawl back to you over this- so he finds out how you will not accept being treated. If you cave over this he will find that he doesn't need to bother about how to treat you properly. And if he doesn't put the effort in to make amends, well, he doesn't care enough to warrant being your BF.

Unfortunately you are in a really sh*tty situation through no actions of your own. But you need to sit it out and let things resolve themselves through others behaviour even if you want to make up with your BF. See what he does, don't forgive him until he has jumped through a few hoops, because last night was so wrong, and if he was sober enough to speak at all, he was sober enough to warn you his friends were trying to drug you for a laugh. There is a big respect issue (or lack of) going on here.

rubylola · Dec 19th, 2007, 06:44 AM

-And I don't think you should be with him at all. But what I am saying about making him jump through hoops, if you don't think you are going to split up with him over it, you have to make sure he suffers about what happened. so he learns you will not accept this sort of BS.

cute_lil_fiend · Dec 19th, 2007, 06:52 AM

I've known quite a few girls who've hung out with/dated guys similar to your bf and his friends. They went through alot of sh*t before their relationships ended.
I think that being ur bf he should look out for your welfare...even a true friend would do something like that. He didn't...and if he were my bf I would have kicked him to the curb for being such an idiot. I agree that this is a trust issue and whether ur friends or a couple, if trust is gone there's nothing else to work with. If he's willing to do this what other sh*t do you think he'll pull in the future. You're worth more than that...respect urself and think about it.

straw227 · Dec 19th, 2007, 07:01 AM

yeah... thanks guys...
i still cant believe it was random people that came up to me and told me the pitcher was drugged and not him telling me!!!

helium · Dec 19th, 2007, 07:38 AM

Considering that random people who didn't know you cared enough about your welfare to tell you about the pitcher and your boyfriend didn't care at all, you must kick him right out.

Who should be looking out for the welfare of other people? Everyone! Not just people who know someone, hell i'd definitely go up and say 'hey your drink is drugged' if I saw it, even if they weren't my significant other/friend/family/etc.

So the fact that your boyfriend did this to you is absolutely inexcusable. You must get rid of him, i'd even report his friends to authorities if it were possible!

elegantegotist · Dec 19th, 2007, 07:42 AM

Not only is this a trust issue but something SERIOUS could have happened to you. What would have happened if you didn't notice and drank that CRAP and something happened to you ? You never know with illicit substances and the CRAP that's inside them... some people are fine, some people have SERIOUS reactions and end up in the hospital and even die. This is SO serious and I urge you to seriously think long and hard about this.

If it were my man:

1) He would not be hanging around LOSERS who drug people in the first place.

2) If some wanker in a bar tried to put something in my drink, his face would be on the floor quicker than you can say Rohypnol.

Seriously this is going beyond a prank. A prank is putting a laxative in someones coffee, this is just sooo much more severe not to mention illegal.

Dec 19th, 2007, 06:12 AM	#1
straw227 Member Location: Canada	His frds TRIED TO DRUG ME!! & he didnt do anything!!! Okay, should I be mad at him and have broken up with him? I am downright pissed outta my mind and want to back hand him across the face. So this is what happened: Last night, I went to see him when he went drinking at night incase he was too drunk and needed a ride home. I sit down and play some games for a while, and one of his friends decide it would be FUNNY to put some K in my alcohol. (K is a type of drug that gets you high similar to esctacy, except it is a powder) Just to clear things up, I do NOT and WILL NOT do drugs because I am just not into it. So his friend tries to drug me, and he is watching but not saying anything as I take a gulp. LUCKILY, I taste the bitterness, look down the cup and see the drug floating on top. (BTW, my bf is laughing at me while i am drinking it and later denies he knew anything about it because he was "too drunk"), i then rush to the washroom to spit out the drink and puke everything out. (nasty, i know). I come out of the washroom, and OTHER PPL tell me: "Oh, dont drink anything in the pitcher, its all drugged just now u were gone." My bf comes out of the room and talks normally to me and talks on the phone with one of his buddies VERY NORMALLY. the next day, he felt bad and rung my doorbell, so i just bitched him and told him i dont wanna see him anymore. but i kinda miss him. the question is...... would you forgive ur bf for not being able to protect u? (i know this is long...!!!)

Dec 19th, 2007, 06:17 AM	#2
rupbasoli Member	Re: His frds TRIED TO DRUG ME!! & he didnt do anything!!! NO! This is a fundamental abuse of trust.

Dec 19th, 2007, 06:18 AM	#3
Irissy Meow?! Location: California	Re: His frds TRIED TO DRUG ME!! & he didnt do anything!!! I would be piss if this happens to me. It shows no respect when he didn't try to stop his friends from drugging you, especially when he knows you don't do drugs. I would have a long talk with him and set him straight. __________________ Wish List: black suhali lockit MM damier azur speedy 25 B-bag RED twiggy

Dec 19th, 2007, 06:22 AM	#4
straw227 Member Location: Canada	Re: His frds TRIED TO DRUG ME!! & he didnt do anything!!! well, i saw him today, and we didnt really talk, it was just more of me yelling "get the f--k out please". i think hes scared of calling me now...:(

Dec 19th, 2007, 06:25 AM	#5
Glamorous_girl LVOE Location: Tokyo, Japan & Hanover, PA	Re: His frds TRIED TO DRUG ME!! & he didnt do anything!!! NO It's inexcusable and if he didn't care to stop this there is other things he might not care to stop. And I would be highly concerned that he is even hanging out with people like that. __________________ Wish list (LV): Trunks and bags mini pochette Inclusion bracelet PM Grey-on it's way Speedy undecided Sunset boulevard amarante Lambskin Rivets Bag black

Dec 19th, 2007, 06:30 AM	#6
missisa07 (Isabel) Location: Hawaii	Re: His frds TRIED TO DRUG ME!! & he didnt do anything!!! ^I agree. Drunk or not, those are inexcusable actions. __________________ ^link to my blog!

Dec 19th, 2007, 06:31 AM	#7
rubylola Member	Re: His frds TRIED TO DRUG ME!! & he didnt do anything!!! This is at the very least- unpleasant, disrespectful behaviour, or worse- sinister. The fact your boyfriend didn't step in to warn you about what was going on should set huge alarm bells ringing. I am not coming from a puritanical anti drugs position- when I was a bit younger my friends and I were around stuff like this alot- so I am not judging the drug taking. But the secret drugging of someone who doesn't take drugs (or even of someone who does) is REALLY, REALLY DODGY-particularly something like ketamine, it is not funny at all and oversteps so many boundaries. In my opinion you should stay away from this crowd of folk, including your boyfriend.

Dec 19th, 2007, 06:39 AM	#9
_bella_ wannabe cloggie Location: Republic of Cocktailand	Re: His frds TRIED TO DRUG ME!! & he didnt do anything!!! I wouldn't be just angry, I'd be dialing 911. Life is too short for people like that.

Dec 19th, 2007, 06:40 AM	#10
rubylola Member	Re: His frds TRIED TO DRUG ME!! & he didnt do anything!!! Straw, I know how hard this sort of thing can be- but you should really try and stay out of touch- let him crawl back to you over this- so he finds out how you will not accept being treated. If you cave over this he will find that he doesn't need to bother about how to treat you properly. And if he doesn't put the effort in to make amends, well, he doesn't care enough to warrant being your BF. Unfortunately you are in a really sh*tty situation through no actions of your own. But you need to sit it out and let things resolve themselves through others behaviour even if you want to make up with your BF. See what he does, don't forgive him until he has jumped through a few hoops, because last night was so wrong, and if he was sober enough to speak at all, he was sober enough to warn you his friends were trying to drug you for a laugh. There is a big respect issue (or lack of) going on here.

Dec 19th, 2007, 06:44 AM	#11
rubylola Member	Re: His frds TRIED TO DRUG ME!! & he didnt do anything!!! -And I don't think you should be with him at all. But what I am saying about making him jump through hoops, if you don't think you are going to split up with him over it, you have to make sure he suffers about what happened. so he learns you will not accept this sort of BS.

Dec 19th, 2007, 06:52 AM	#12
cute_lil_fiend Member Location: Vancity	Re: His frds TRIED TO DRUG ME!! & he didnt do anything!!! I've known quite a few girls who've hung out with/dated guys similar to your bf and his friends. They went through alot of sht before their relationships ended. I think that being ur bf he should look out for your welfare...even a true friend would do something like that. He didn't...and if he were my bf I would have kicked him to the curb for being such an idiot. I agree that this is a trust issue and whether ur friends or a couple, if trust is gone there's nothing else to work with. If he's willing to do this what other sht do you think he'll pull in the future. You're worth more than that...respect urself and think about it.

Dec 19th, 2007, 07:01 AM	#13
straw227 Member Location: Canada	Re: His frds TRIED TO DRUG ME!! & he didnt do anything!!! yeah... thanks guys... i still cant believe it was random people that came up to me and told me the pitcher was drugged and not him telling me!!! __________________ It wasn't me!! It's Chanel's fault!

Dec 19th, 2007, 07:38 AM	#14
helium Member	Re: His frds TRIED TO DRUG ME!! & he didnt do anything!!! Considering that random people who didn't know you cared enough about your welfare to tell you about the pitcher and your boyfriend didn't care at all, you must kick him right out. Who should be looking out for the welfare of other people? Everyone! Not just people who know someone, hell i'd definitely go up and say 'hey your drink is drugged' if I saw it, even if they weren't my significant other/friend/family/etc. So the fact that your boyfriend did this to you is absolutely inexcusable. You must get rid of him, i'd even report his friends to authorities if it were possible!

Dec 19th, 2007, 07:42 AM	#15
elegantegotist Member	Re: His frds TRIED TO DRUG ME!! & he didnt do anything!!! Not only is this a trust issue but something SERIOUS could have happened to you. What would have happened if you didn't notice and drank that CRAP and something happened to you ? You never know with illicit substances and the CRAP that's inside them... some people are fine, some people have SERIOUS reactions and end up in the hospital and even die. This is SO serious and I urge you to seriously think long and hard about this. If it were my man: 1) He would not be hanging around LOSERS who drug people in the first place. 2) If some wanker in a bar tried to put something in my drink, his face would be on the floor quicker than you can say Rohypnol. Seriously this is going beyond a prank. A prank is putting a laxative in someones coffee, this is just sooo much more severe not to mention illegal. Last edited by elegantegotist; Dec 19th, 2007 at 07:50 AM.