Hey Girls...What do you make of this....

[Cheetah7]

Originally Posted by chitowngirl823

Its like two to three times a month. Either he's getting things like his mail, things she doesn't want out of the house. From what he tells me, she's never there when he's there. I think its the fact that he still goes over there period that bugs me. Am I over reacting?

Two or 3x a month isn't that bad especially if she isn't there. From your previous post I thought you meant almost everyday. Anyway, I can see why this is bugging you but since he's recently divorced, it's quite possible he hasn't completely cut ties with her yet. Unfortunately, until your own divorce is finalized, it would be hard to bring this issue up without him trying to throw it back at your face.

[DiorDeVille]

Could it be that he misses going "home" and being in a familiar environment? Maybe its more about being at the house than about "her" specifically, KWIM? With all the stress of a divorce, maybe he's just longing for that feeling of comfy security that comes from being in your old "home".

[petitechouchou]

Originally Posted by shy*violet

I find that odd too. Why is he still getting mail there? Can't he go online and change his address w/ the post office? And does he not have a computer to burn CDs? I don't have anything against being friends, but it's just weird.

I couldn't agree with you more

[nataliam1976]

Originally Posted by shy*violet

I find that odd too. Why is he still getting mail there? Can't he go online and change his address w/ the post office? And does he not have a computer to burn CDs? I don't have anything against being friends, but it's just weird.

Exactly. My ex used to live in the same city as my mum did and we are still friends but the only time when I asked him for some kind of assistance with my matters was when she hurt her ankle and I couldnt be there straight
away. I can understand splitting with class but the reasons for helping her out sound ridiculous, what si she, 5 year old? And why doesnt she pick the mail herself maybe when YOU are there? The question is if its her playing him or him/them playing you.

When the post for her comes over again, ask him to tell her to update her personal data wherever it comes from and go over with him one of the days without prior notice. I would also honestly tell him how it makes you feel if I were you. Sure, no problemw ith helping out when the situation really arises, but not with BS like that.

[chitowngirl823]

I totally trust him. Maybe I'll just slightly touch on it next time. I honestly do think he misses all the "comforts" of a normal home life. I guess I really just need my divorce over NOW!!

Thanks guys..

[nataliam1976]

Originally Posted by chitowngirl823

I totally trust him. Maybe I'll just slightly touch on it next time. I honestly do think he misses all the "comforts" of a normal home life. I guess I really just need my divorce over NOW!! Thanks guys..

definitely do that!

[Prada Psycho]

Originally Posted by chitowngirl823

I totally trust him.

No. You don't. If you did, you wouldn't have started this thread.

Sorry to be blunt, but I call 'em as I see 'em. Continuing in the blunt vein: never ever dance around a concern you have with any man. Ask him straight out. Life's too short to dance around this sort of thing.

[dallas]

I don't understand, if you trust him what is the problem? Is this about control?