help me with my best friend
Gals i need your adivices, cause i'm having an hard time.
The problem is my bestfriend. first of all even if i'm going to paint her like a childish girl, i have to say she's def the best person i've ever met in my life. no doubts about the fact she loves me like a sister as i love her.
The fact is she's planning to move away. To be honest she plans to move away every 6 months, everytime with a different idea, everytime in a different place.
Now seems she's really going. no needs to say i really feel bad for this,i'll miss her so much ican't even imagine (she's leaving the country). we had a phone talk 4 days ago it was about our next holydays we're going to spent togheter and her voice sounded in pain. i've asked her about it, i had to ask more than once and finally she ended telling about an hard time with is father because of her willing of moving. well, i have to say, i agree with her father. i know she needs my support on this, but i think - as her father- she's moving for the wrong reason. you can't tell to your father (and in general to who cares of you) that you want to leave because you want to feel indipendent (imo you don't need to leave the country to feel indipendent, you can simply leave your parents home), and most of all because of your bad attitude to approach men. she had to bad experiences with two different guys that ended to treat her in the worst way you may ever think. the fact is that she always act as a gheisha in her relationships without having care of her own feelings, even if the guy cheats her. but this is a personal problem she have to fight with, not a problem of the place she lives in. this is not going to change even if she leave the country. plus to the eyes of her father you continue to be a child if you came every 3 or 3 months with a new idea of what to do and where to go in your life. (consider that she's going to have the same job she has here and she hates it).
now, iì'm not supposed to lie her, this is not gonna help her. i have to say what i think about this even if it seems to her eyes that i don't want her to go for a selfish reason. i mean, i'd love to live our friendship in the same way we had for the last 15 years, but i also know that she has to take her way if she needs it. so i did it. i told her that imo opinion her father was right about telling her she's doing the wrong thing, that she was moving for the wrong reason, and that she'll have all my support but only if she'll understand that the only good reason to go is to feel better inside, not running away as far as possible from her "heart" problems . we didn't fight, she simply ended the phone call telling she was busy and that she'd call me back in a few minutes. then, obviously, she disappeared. this is quite strange in the first time in 15 years we do not talk everyday, and i don't know what to do. i mean, i know i could call at her right now, but i know also i can't lie about my way to see all this story, i can't lie at her if she asks my opininon, and i know she wants me to be by her side, but i simply can't plus, in all this, i'm so much sad because of her leaving (trying to keep it for me cause i know she doesn't need me to say also this). so i'm trying to not call her at the moment waiting for i don't know what...
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