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Aslan · Oct 9th, 2009, 07:27 AM

You are twenty-one and never had a job, yet feel entitled to his money that he works hard for? If your income from your parents is 400 dollars a month, you shouldn't be buying a LV bag at all. You can't afford it. If your bf has to pay rent and feed himself, 1k a month sounds like poverty to me.

Nieners · Oct 9th, 2009, 07:41 AM

So the only thing that you find ''nice'' is an LV Speedy?
Heck - I wouldn't even care about what my SO would get me for Christmas, instead...
I'd be happy he's so thoughtful to get me anything, no matter what it is.

And a little over $1k is... little. Plus not so nice towards him to put it on a public forum as well.

Kitsunegrl · Oct 9th, 2009, 09:00 AM

Wow..........

$1000 is not a lot of money at all. Especially if he is paying bills and feeding you on a regular basis. That is less than the poverty line.

He sounds like a very nice responsible boyfriend. $200 is a lot for a birthday present.

Why is it so important he pay for half of the purse? If he is uncomfortable with it and does it anyways, will you feel like you "won"? If it is so important, you could put $20 a week away from your allowance and have your purse within a few months.

I would rethink this. You could end up losing a very nice man down the line.

Jahpson · Oct 9th, 2009, 09:05 AM

a little over $1,000 a month?

Does he own his own place? drive a car? If he does those are barely pennies.

My former SO made more then that and he had to charge it for my bag. Then pay it back

if you think him lack of buying stuff for you means that he doesn't care about you, the I seriously wonder if you really care about him. You are young (I assume) and have[will] have plenty of opportunities to have gifts thrown at you.

what are you getting HIM for christmas?

Jahpson · Oct 9th, 2009, 09:09 AM

Originally Posted by lightdays

More like $1,295. I am sorry if I sound ungrateful and selfish in this post. He just got really pissed at me when I nicely asked what he does with his money. He said none of your f*cking business. And this is how it instigated the fight. He cusses at me a lot when he's mad and I have a hard time accepting this. I don't appreciate it. I guess I just want him to do nice things for me to patch that up.

asking someone what they do with their money (even if its moms) is a private and personal matter. Why get upset over that? You can't expect his whole paycheck to go to you.

One day when you make your own money, you will look back at this situation and laugh....hard!!

HauteMama · Oct 9th, 2009, 09:13 AM

Wow, the gift of a designer bag when you have known someone for 6 months would be OTT. To buy it when a person makes "a little over "$1K a month" would be downright stupid. That kind of money is below the poverty line, and he likely works hard for what he has. You are asking him to spend ALL of his extra money for a month on you, which is unreasonable.

Many people, myself included, had next to nothing when we started out. Not everyone was born able to afford luxury items. We (and our partners or dh's if we have one) have worked hard to get to the point of being comfortable financially. Your posts make you sound naive and entitled.

NYCBelle · Oct 9th, 2009, 09:15 AM

$1000 a month is not a lot of money at all OP. and if he works for his money he's entitled to spend how he wants you guys aren't married nor do you share bills like a mortgage.

My DF and I each make that a week and he's not buying me bags. we have bills and a wedding to pay for. For my bday he got me Tory Burch shoes but they're like $195 bucks and i was ecstatic with that.

what if you guys get married? you're going to have to focus on the priorities like bills, mortgage, food, necessities, etc. i'm more than happy to go out with DF for a nice sushi dinner to treat ourselves. it's tough during these economic times so try to be a bit more appreciative and grateful...at least he has a job unlike many others who are laid off and unemployed.

NYCBelle · Oct 9th, 2009, 09:17 AM

Originally Posted by Jahpson

asking someone what they do with their money (even if its moms) is a private and personal matter. Why get upset over that? You can't expect his whole paycheck to go to you.

One day when you make your own money, you will look back at this situation and laugh....hard!!

so true when i was her age i was in college surviving on $40 a week for food and transportation given to me by my mom. when you make your own money and pay for your own things you appreciate it more for the hard work you put in. i've always bought my own bags.

MySharona · Oct 9th, 2009, 09:29 AM

Originally Posted by lightdays

You know how much I get a month for allowance? Less than $400!!

You're 21 and you still get an allowance? Do you think your parents would adopt me?

elizat · Oct 9th, 2009, 10:07 AM

Originally Posted by dallas

I have only 3 points to make:

Your boyfriend does not sound selfish, he sounds responsible.

The cost of a gift has nothing to do with how much a person cares.

Your sense of entitlement is astonishing.

I agree. I also feel sorry for this boyfriend.

domlee · Oct 9th, 2009, 10:20 AM

I'm one of the few guys on this forum.

You need to appreciate your bf. If you don't, you WILL NOT have a bf any longer. I guarantee you that much. You have a lot of growing up to do still. It is obvious in the words you choose to post in this thread. You need to learn HOW to be in a relationship. If you don't resolve and apologize to your bf immediately for your immature sense of entitlement (because you're the one that is wrong), then I guarantee you yet again that you're firmly planting into your relationship the seeds that will ALWAYS arise whenever you get into an argument that isn't going your way. Because he will ALWAYS remember this and bring it up.

Call it spoiled. Call it feeling entitled. Call it whatever you want. But you have NO RIGHT to ANY part of his income.

I'm telling you right now before you have NO BF. Clock is ticking. What are you going to do?

kmarney · Oct 9th, 2009, 10:46 AM

A person who makes $12,000 per year is well below the POVERTY level. If your relationship is based on real love, you should welcome thoughtful gestures like picnics in the park. People who make an income below the poverty level are generally approved for food stamps and such. What in the world are you focused on a speedy when he probably can barely afford to take you out on dates. I know Doctors wives who feel uncomfortable buying much more than Coach. You need some perspective. Sorry to come down so hard, but it really sounds like you need a good dose of reality.

NYCBelle · Oct 9th, 2009, 10:48 AM

Originally Posted by kmarney

A person who makes $12,000 per year is well below the POVERTY level. If your relationship is based on real love, you should welcome thoughtful gestures like picnics in the park. People who make an income below the poverty level are generally approved for food stamps and such. What in the world are you focused on a speedy when he probably can barely afford to take you out on dates. I know Doctors wives who feel uncomfortable buying much more than Coach. You need some perspective. Sorry to come down so hard, but it really sounds like you need a good dose of reality.

well said

surferchick2 · Oct 9th, 2009, 11:08 AM

On top of that, you live in the LA area? Rent for 1 bedrooms alone are over 1000/ mo in most areas now. Does he have a cell, pay utilities, insurance, eat food, use gas, med bills, car registration and maintenance? Maybe what little he does have left, he wants to put it in savings. I understand why he's upset. Someone who makes a poverty level income is probably flabbergasted by the price of the LV and I'm sure he's frustrated that you're harrassing him about this. I'd have less respect for him if he did pay half for it. I'd question his financial responsibility. If you care about HIM at all, you'd understand his situation and get off his back.

mimi14 · Oct 9th, 2009, 11:26 AM

Material things = love.

Please learn this, digest it, understand it, comprehend this idea otherwise you are always going to be upset that the guy you love doesn't reafirm his love for you by buying you the material things you feel you deserve. By the way I'm only a year older than you and the way you have presented yourself here makes me wonder what the world is coming it. At the end of the day it's only a friggin handbag.

Oct 9th, 2009, 07:27 AM	#31
Aslan liberty+compassion Joined: Nov 2006 Location: New York Posts: 3,372	You are twenty-one and never had a job, yet feel entitled to his money that he works hard for? If your income from your parents is 400 dollars a month, you shouldn't be buying a LV bag at all. You can't afford it. If your bf has to pay rent and feed himself, 1k a month sounds like poverty to me.
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Oct 9th, 2009, 07:41 AM	#32
Nieners ♥ Loubounista ♥ Joined: Dec 2008 Location: Alaska in winter Posts: 2,359	So the only thing that you find ''nice'' is an LV Speedy? Heck - I wouldn't even care about what my SO would get me for Christmas, instead... I'd be happy he's so thoughtful to get me anything, no matter what it is. And a little over $1k is... little. Plus not so nice towards him to put it on a public forum as well.
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Oct 9th, 2009, 09:00 AM	#33
Kitsunegrl Cartier in 2009! Joined: Nov 2006 Location: Cajun Country Posts: 7,774	Wow.......... $1000 is not a lot of money at all. Especially if he is paying bills and feeding you on a regular basis. That is less than the poverty line. He sounds like a very nice responsible boyfriend. $200 is a lot for a birthday present. Why is it so important he pay for half of the purse? If he is uncomfortable with it and does it anyways, will you feel like you "won"? If it is so important, you could put $20 a week away from your allowance and have your purse within a few months. I would rethink this. You could end up losing a very nice man down the line.
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Oct 9th, 2009, 09:05 AM	#34
Jahpson Member Joined: Aug 2007 Location: The Playground Posts: 22,432	a little over $1,000 a month? Does he own his own place? drive a car? If he does those are *barely* pennies. My former SO made more then that and he had to charge it for my bag. Then pay it back if you think him lack of buying stuff for you means that he doesn't care about you, the I seriously wonder if you really care about him. You are young (I assume) and have[will] have plenty of opportunities to have gifts thrown at you. what are you getting HIM for christmas?
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Oct 9th, 2009, 09:13 AM	#36
HauteMama Member Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 6,845	Wow, the gift of a designer bag when you have known someone for 6 months would be OTT. To buy it when a person makes "a little over "$1K a month" would be downright stupid. That kind of money is below the poverty line, and he likely works hard for what he has. You are asking him to spend ALL of his extra money for a month on you, which is unreasonable. Many people, myself included, had next to nothing when we started out. Not everyone was born able to afford luxury items. We (and our partners or dh's if we have one) have worked hard to get to the point of being comfortable financially. Your posts make you sound naive and entitled.
HauteMama Member Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 6,845

Oct 9th, 2009, 09:15 AM	#37
NYCBelle Yahtzee anyone?? Joined: Oct 2006 Location: 57th & 5th Ave Posts: 5,556	$1000 a month is not a lot of money at all OP. and if he works for his money he's entitled to spend how he wants you guys aren't married nor do you share bills like a mortgage. My DF and I each make that a week and he's not buying me bags. we have bills and a wedding to pay for. For my bday he got me Tory Burch shoes but they're like $195 bucks and i was ecstatic with that. what if you guys get married? you're going to have to focus on the priorities like bills, mortgage, food, necessities, etc. i'm more than happy to go out with DF for a nice sushi dinner to treat ourselves. it's tough during these economic times so try to be a bit more appreciative and grateful...at least he has a job unlike many others who are laid off and unemployed.
	__________________ "Is there blood in my hair?" On a serious ban...Have a wedding to plan

Oct 9th, 2009, 10:20 AM	#41
domlee Member Joined: Jan 2007 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 956	I'm one of the few guys on this forum. You need to appreciate your bf. If you don't, you WILL NOT have a bf any longer. I guarantee you that much. You have a lot of growing up to do still. It is obvious in the words you choose to post in this thread. You need to learn HOW to be in a relationship. If you don't resolve and apologize to your bf immediately for your immature sense of entitlement (because you're the one that is wrong), then I guarantee you yet again that you're firmly planting into your relationship the seeds that will ALWAYS arise whenever you get into an argument that isn't going your way. Because he will ALWAYS remember this and bring it up. Call it spoiled. Call it feeling entitled. Call it whatever you want. But you have NO RIGHT to ANY part of his income. I'm telling you right now before you have NO BF. Clock is ticking. What are you going to do?

Oct 9th, 2009, 10:46 AM	#42
kmarney Member Joined: Sep 2007 Location: Kansas Posts: 204	A person who makes $12,000 per year is well below the POVERTY level. If your relationship is based on real love, you should welcome thoughtful gestures like picnics in the park. People who make an income below the poverty level are generally approved for food stamps and such. What in the world are you focused on a speedy when he probably can barely afford to take you out on dates. I know Doctors wives who feel uncomfortable buying much more than Coach. You need some perspective. Sorry to come down so hard, but it really sounds like you need a good dose of reality.

Oct 9th, 2009, 11:08 AM	#44
surferchick2 Member Joined: Jan 2006 Location: Fidalgo Island Posts: 2,122	On top of that, you live in the LA area? Rent for 1 bedrooms alone are over 1000/ mo in most areas now. Does he have a cell, pay utilities, insurance, eat food, use gas, med bills, car registration and maintenance? Maybe what little he does have left, he wants to put it in savings. I understand why he's upset. Someone who makes a poverty level income is probably flabbergasted by the price of the LV and I'm sure he's frustrated that you're harrassing him about this. I'd have less respect for him if he did pay half for it. I'd question his financial responsibility. If you care about HIM at all, you'd understand his situation and get off his back.

Oct 9th, 2009, 11:26 AM	#45
mimi14 Member Joined: Feb 2007 Posts: 104	Material things = love. Please learn this, digest it, understand it, comprehend this idea otherwise you are always going to be upset that the guy you love doesn't reafirm his love for you by buying you the material things you feel you deserve. By the way I'm only a year older than you and the way you have presented yourself here makes me wonder what the world is coming it. At the end of the day it's only a friggin handbag.
mimi14 Member Joined: Feb 2007 Posts: 104

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