[luvhautecouture]

If anyone has the patience to read through this... I'll be so grateful!

I'm a first-year university student and my friend and I both live in on-campus housing. We ended up not rooming together because of some complications with room assignments. We both live in triple rooms (rooms MADE for 2... but they stuff 3 in each room :(!!!)

Ok, so her 2nd roommate is moving out next quarter, and she wants me to move in with her. Initially it sounds awesome, but then I think about it more, and I don't really want to.

Reasons for:
1. moving in with my friend! It will be great so I can actually see her more
2. getting away from my roommate, because I can't STAND her!

Reasons against:
1. We are going to live together next year... don't wanna spoil it
2. It's only for 10 weeks and I have all of my stuff already plopped in here- and knowing that I'm a true tpfer, I have my closet bursting to the doors (and the closet in the other room is about 3/4 of the size!)
3. I have a microfridge in here that I fully paid for the renting (my roommates did not chip in :(, yet they use it a lot)
4. Right now, even though I technically have 2 roommates, it's like I have one, because the other girl spends about 30 minutes in here each day (goes home the rest of the time, doesn't even sleep here)
5. My parking spot is right next to the dorm I'm currently in
6. My mom is not encouraging me to move there- she doesn't want to move my stuff
7. The other dorm is smaller- and if you haven't already picked this up.. i have A LOT of belongings...


I don't know what to do... I am pretty sure that I don't want to move in with her, but I really don't know how to say it. Am I being unreasonable? I mean I really really really can't stand my roommate, and I love my friend... But even with all that, it seems like moving ALL of my stuff for 10 weeks isn't really worth it? I need some wise tpfer advice! Please!!

[rainrowan]

Will you share the same room next year? If so, it might be ok to move in with alot of planning so you don't miss out on your studies. But if it's going to be completely different room, I'd just wait it out till next semester.

[lilflobowl]

I think you shouldn't... one of the other girls started a thread recently on how she's living under the same roof as her best friend but things have really soured since living together.

It's one thing to be good friends & another to be living together! Plus with so many pros in favour of staying where you are, just stick to it..!

[gillianna]

There is no reason for you to move. You have a room and are happy, you don't have to be out and looking for another place. I would stay. It sounds comfortable where you are.

[wordpast]

Sounds like you don't want to move and I agree. Tell her why with some of the reasons you mentioned above.

[luvhautecouture]

thanks friends! does anyone have any advice on how I can get the courage to speak what I feel? It's often very difficult for me to give my opinion verbally... :(

[shasha17a]

Even though you don't like one of your current roommates I think you should just stick it out for the next 10 weeks. Moving is such a PITA anyways and you will have to do it in 10 weeks either way. And you will be living with her next year.

[glamgirl84]

Don't move- 10 weeks is nothing and thats a lot of work to move all your stuff- especially when you should really be concentrating on school!