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lorihmatthews · Sep 30th, 2009, 11:13 PM

Originally Posted by sphere99

All of this my brain understands, but for the first time in my life, my heart actually hurts, I can feel it hurt.

I know this feeling, I've had it myself.

Please, get out there and make yourself better -- it is possible.

kcf68 · Oct 1st, 2009, 11:08 AM

You know it not about him and what he is doing. It is about you! You need to really decide what you loved about that relationship and what you didn't like. I think you really need to move on and maybe think of yourself for once.

purse freak 69 · Oct 1st, 2009, 02:00 PM

I've been where you are and it's very hard. Taking a chance and making changes in your life can be very scary. YOu cant worry about the ex. He probably is not sitting around thinking about how bad he hurt you. You should find a new therapist,doesnt sound like the one you have is doing much good. YOu need to think about yourself first before you can be truly happy. Best of luck

rainrowan · Oct 1st, 2009, 03:12 PM

The fact that your husband hooked up with someone new just 2 weeks after your breakup says enough about his character. It appears he was already divested of the marriage even before you chose to leave him. Your leaving was his easy way out, almost? Did he ever call for not being there in mind or soul for you and causing you so much hurt?

Try not to rely too much on the meds to ease your pain... it's not a chemical issue as it is a mental issue you are going through. Sure you miss him, because you have a heart and conscience. Remind yourself you left him not because of some flippant reason, but because you had to leave for mental self preservation. No one wants ever to feel that their feelings or thoughts don't exist. Now is the time to take control, you can do almost all the things you need to without expectation of another. There's no time frame for getting over heartache, you know it the day it's completely fine.

MidNiteSun · Oct 1st, 2009, 03:17 PM

op...im so sorry that u're going thru all this. it will get better. i know its hard but please stay strong, for u & ur son. u will find someone a lot better. hugs to u.

chitowngirl823 · Oct 2nd, 2009, 03:08 PM

I totally know what you are going thru. The best thing I ever did was after I filed I got myself into counseling and kept it up for 18 months until I felt comfortable enough with myself to get up and get going again.

I've been blogging my trials, dating and interesting experiences on my personal blog. Feel free to check it out. You are not alone!

Oct 1st, 2009, 03:12 PM	#34
rainrowan INFJ Joined: Apr 2006 Posts: 3,932	The fact that your husband hooked up with someone new just 2 weeks after your breakup says enough about his character. It appears he was already divested of the marriage even before you chose to leave him. Your leaving was his easy way out, almost? Did he ever call for not being there in mind or soul for you and causing you so much hurt? Try not to rely too much on the meds to ease your pain... it's not a chemical issue as it is a mental issue you are going through. Sure you miss him, because you have a heart and conscience. Remind yourself you left him not because of some flippant reason, but because you had to leave for mental self preservation. No one wants ever to feel that their feelings or thoughts don't exist. Now is the time to take control, you can do almost all the things you need to without expectation of another. There's no time frame for getting over heartache, you know it the day it's completely fine.
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Oct 1st, 2009, 03:17 PM	#35
MidNiteSun Member Joined: Mar 2009 Posts: 364	op...im so sorry that u're going thru all this. it will get better. i know its hard but please stay strong, for u & ur son. u will find someone a lot better. hugs to u.
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Oct 2nd, 2009, 03:08 PM	#36
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Oct 1st, 2009, 11:08 AM	#32
kcf68 Hopelessly Addicted! Joined: May 2007 Location: Everywhere but Home! Posts: 1,559	You know it not about him and what he is doing. It is about you! You need to really decide what you loved about that relationship and what you didn't like. I think you really need to move on and maybe think of yourself for once.

Oct 1st, 2009, 02:00 PM	#33
purse freak 69 my baby girl Joined: Jul 2009 Location: Centerville MN Posts: 228	I've been where you are and it's very hard. Taking a chance and making changes in your life can be very scary. YOu cant worry about the ex. He probably is not sitting around thinking about how bad he hurt you. You should find a new therapist,doesnt sound like the one you have is doing much good. YOu need to think about yourself first before you can be truly happy. Best of luck

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