[orderandlaw]

I don't know why, but this semester is completely different than last.

None of my friends seem to give two shats about me lately.

They don't wait for me to go to class, they don't save me seats in class, they don't eat lunch with me, when I ask to hang out they come up with excuses...

I feel like last semester I had this tight-knit little group, and now everyone's paired off and decided they don't like me.

I've tried to talk to them individually, and they don't think anything's changed, they say they still like me, and whatever.

I don't understand, I thought I was done with high school. Ughhh.

[missmustard]

*hugsss* I'm sad you're going through this. If it's any help, I'll be your friend

[dlovely51]

Originally Posted by orderandlaw

I don't know why, but this semester is completely different than last.

None of my friends seem to give two shats about me lately.

They don't wait for me to go to class, they don't save me seats in class, they don't eat lunch with me, when I ask to hang out they come up with excuses...

I feel like last semester I had this tight-knit little group, and now everyone's paired off and decided they don't like me.

I've tried to talk to them individually, and they don't think anything's changed, they say they still like me, and whatever.

I don't understand, I thought I was done with high school. Ughhh.

Sorry to hear this. Unfortunately, drama knows no life stage. It hurts now, but the best thing to do is to let those people go, and make new friends. A lot of times these little cliques fall apart, and because you remain above the fray, they'll come back to you.

The choice for you will be, will you want them as close associates, or just keep them at bay

[Cristina]

I'm sorry you're going through this, orderandlaw. I'm going through something similar, an incredibly lonely period in my life where I feel that I have no support or any friends to talk to. It's tough.

Have you tried talking to them and expressing how you feel? Instead of talking individually to them, maybe see if you can pull together a girls' night out, and make it the first thing you talk about? Let them know that you value their friendship and that you don't want things to go sour.

If they still don't listen to you or take your feelings into consideration, then it may be time to do a friend break up and move on. Don't worry, you will develop a group of close knit friends that you will always be able to rely on.

You always have your tPF friends, too Hugs!

[rothjess]

I'm sorry you're going through such a rough time Sometimes, no matter how old you get, you still run into the whole "high school" mentality. I see it at work to this day and i haven't been in high school in awhile. Hang in there *hugs*

[agreenst]

Wow, that is exactly what i have been going through this semester! Crazy, cause i totally thought that i'm great at making friends, but i just suck at keeping them (i've had problems in high school too..)

I haven't hung out with a lot of my friends that i was super close with last semester. I had to leave school early because of mono and it seems they all got up and each found new groups of friends before i came back. They still acknowledge our friendship, just like you say your friends do, but i know how you feel. Saying, "hey! i miss hanging out with you, you're a great friend" and actually DOING IT are very different things.

I wish i could help you, but i don't even know how to help myself
Maybe going up to them and showing them physical evidence: photos, text messages from last semester. Being like, "Why aren't we going out and having fun like this anymore? Why aren't we calling/texting a lot anymore? I really miss spending time with you guys." It's hard to deny that things have changed if you can show them they have.

[agart245]

wow i read this post and couldnt beleive it because the same exact thing happened to me this semester!! i know it is hard and it hurts but honestly i have come to realize that people like that do not deserve to be your friend. if people do not have the decency to explain to you why they are ignoring you then they are simply not nice people and not people you should want to spend time with. my advice to you is to just forget about them and make new friends! i know that it is much easier said than done and i am having a rather hard time doing it myself but i know that i am better off without those immature people...and you will be too! if you ever want to talk you can always PM me...we can be online friends!

[devoted]

Sometimes friends just get distracted with other things and then return and act like nothing is wrong.....my best male friend and I could go weeks without talking and then we'll catch up and be as close as ever. It happens, don't let it bother you and don't keep asking them what is wrong, it could maybe make things worse....not sure.

[oo0ehxtahcee0oo]

sometimes its not you and its not your friends. its just that with time things change. sometimes what i do is just not hold on. i let go, and if theyre really your friends they'll realize what theyre missing and theyll come back to you. :] my BFF and i had this problem years ago. were closer than ever. if you need some sunshine, ill be ur friend!!

[Speedy]

Can't relate because I never really had in the flesh friends who'd do anymore than ask me to do things for them, but I'm sending you cyber hugs.

I hope you make new friends soon though.

[Liz_x3]

Have you asked them to hang out, go see a movie, shop, etc.? Maybe some quality time will bring you guys closer together?

[IntlSet]

Some girls are *very odd.* It's like they don't have the intellectual or emotional capacity to have more than one close friend: hence the tendency to pair off.

I'm sorry you're going through this (and sorry that you are, too, Cristina). Friendships are never really ideal...

I think it's time to stop trying to hang out with these girls and move on to a different group. I was in a sorority in college and although I loved it, I really wish now that I had branched out and met new, different, interesting people with different perspectives than my own. Take this as an opportunity to reach out to new people who have always caught your eye and interested you. Don't be afraid to get friendly with others in class. I'm rather shy, but I was always happy and responsive whenever someone struck up a random conversation with me. Please do reach out.

[helium]

God I hated high school and the high school girls! So much backstabbing, and so much pretending 'nothing is wrong', so much unneeded drama...

I'm so sorry this is happening to you really. It happened to me, um so I uh... left my group and made new friends. Which sounds really hard for people, but honest to God I had nothing to lose. When your supposed 'friends' think you're 'acting suicidal to get attention' when you were depressed, it's really time to make new friends.

My friends now are wonderful people, we're not a normal 'girly bunch' (considering most of them are men, with two girls from my all girl high school), you know like 'let's go to the movies!' or 'let's go shopping!'. None of them really saved me seats or anything. We ate lunch together, that was really it. But I could trust them, if I needed help I could go to them with anything from assignments to depression, and even if we weren't physically closely knit nothing comes between us. That is what a real friend is. Distance doesn't separate real friends.

I know my reply wasn't helpful at all. You should probably read the other ones lol! I don't think you'd want friends like the ones I want... the ones that don't want to hang on with me every weekend. I like being by myself, with occasional lunch trips or something.

[Sternchen]

You are done with High School, so that means time to go out and make new friends! Don't sit around waiting for these people to decide to let you back into their little group, sit with someone new in a lecture class, walk to the dining hall with someone from your floor that you don't really know.

I'm still in college, and really only have one friend there. I'm just there to get my degree, not to really make friends. But that's just me

[wordpast]

Originally Posted by lamiastella

You are done with High School, so that means time to go out and make new friends! Don't sit around waiting for these people to decide to let you back into their little group, sit with someone new in a lecture class, walk to the dining hall with someone from your floor that you don't really know.

I'm still in college, and really only have one friend there. I'm just there to get my degree, not to really make friends. But that's just me

I agree. Just get out there and meet some new people!

I remember those days from HS. Girls suck sometimes. Funny, it was NEVER like that with my guy friends.