Flirting with married men

LaurelLee123 · Jun 25th, 2008, 04:30 PM

So, just to clarify, this isn't a personal issue - I am just sort of a nosy people watcher and have observed a common occurence at work.

At work, there are a lot of older men in higher positions and most of them are married. A lot of the employees under them are young women. A lot of these girls seem to flirt shamelessly with these married men.

Today a girl invited a married guy twice her age to go clubbing with her and her friends saying 'oh, you have to go, I totally want you to go, it will be much more fun with you there'. This other young employee is always telling these older guys they smell good and look hot and she wants to hug them so that she can smell them. And then this other girl will ask these men to take a picture of her on their cell phone so that when she texts them, her picture will show up - and then she sort of hits this provacative pose for the picture.

Is this a common interaction between a male boss and his young employees? The guys seem to like the flirting - whether it goes beyond flirting, I don't know. I mean, I am not a flirtatious person, and even though I am in my thirties, I still find 50 - 60 year old men to be OLD. These girls are in their 20's and sometimes 30's. Anyways, this doesn't affect me in any way at work - I just find it unusual and a little gross.

nooch · Jun 25th, 2008, 04:35 PM

I find it more repulsive that they're acting like 13 year old girls in love with their camp counselors more than anything else, honestly. "Tee, hee! We should like totally go clubbing! It would be, like, totally awesome!" Yuck. Especially in the workplace. Ick. Maybe I am too uptight but I totally agree with you.

That said, I definitely find men older than I am attractive... but I'm too young to be hitting up the 50s and 60s. If I suddenly became single I can think of a LOT of men in their 30s and 40s with whom I would enjoy sex

meluvs2shop · Jun 25th, 2008, 04:38 PM

Well, I wouldn't say men in their 50's or 60's are old necessarily but there is a line of respect that has been crossed. However, if these men don't stand up for themselves and their married counterparts then where does the flirtation start and where does it end.

It's sad to say that some single (and sometimes married) women love her some married men.

leothelnss · Jun 25th, 2008, 05:11 PM

Repulsive. I'm married and have had a girl try to get with my husband before... I think if I worked with these girls I might get involved and talk to them if for no other reason than to defend the women who can't defend themselves in this situation.
People who flirt with married men have no respect, and don't understand the damage they could cause to another person's relationship.

Charles · Jun 25th, 2008, 05:16 PM

Girls using their sexuality in the workplace?? Have you been under a rock since....forever?

bagnshoofetish · Jun 25th, 2008, 05:20 PM

it's called having no class. but what goes around comes around. someday they will be older and (maybe) married and some young chick will put the moves on their guy. karma is a beeyotch!

moi et mes sacs · Jun 25th, 2008, 05:33 PM

Yuk, how cheap. It is common in the workplace. It can be messy too as many men have little self control when they see a skirt

jan228 · Jun 25th, 2008, 05:35 PM

I'm glad my man is 1 million percent mine and he puts other women in their place when they flirt. He tells me that this kind of behavior is even worse when people go on a corporate trip with colleagues.

TTucker · Jun 25th, 2008, 05:39 PM

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Originally Posted by bagnshoofetish

it's called having no class. but what goes around comes around. someday they will be older and (maybe) married and some young chick will put the moves on their guy. karma is a beeyotch!

I couldn't have said it better. I totally agree.

bagnshoofetish · Jun 25th, 2008, 05:40 PM

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Originally Posted by jan228

I'm glad my man is 1 million percent mine and he puts other women in their place when they flirt. He tells me that this kind of behavior is even worse when people go on a corporate trip with colleagues.

mine gets nervous and embarrassed (he's a musician). if I'm around, he looks for me and pulls me towards him so they see he is taken. when I'm not around, he calls and tells me what happened cause he thinks its funny!

guccimamma · Jun 25th, 2008, 06:13 PM

yes, and then this girl will scream harassment as loud as possible...if he were to put a move on her in the club..she may have motives...or she just may be a skank.

illinirdhd · Jun 25th, 2008, 06:51 PM

When I was younger (20, 22?), I thought it was cute and fun to flirt with married men. But now, I wouldn't even think about it. I would never have an inappropriate relationship with a married man (even if I were single), so what's the point in even showcasing the goods, KWIM? Why should I give his wife a reason to wonder if anything inappropriate is going on? And what if karma did come back and bite me by bringing around some bimbo to come on to my husband? Yuck. I'm glad my husband's corporate office is a LONG way away, and he works from home or out in the field.

artjen · Jun 25th, 2008, 07:06 PM

Ugh, I'm so glad my husband doesn't work in an office like that.

The older men are probably flattered when the younger girls are flirty like that. The younger girls know that the older men are pretty safe and it is easy to flirt with them and know that nothing will happen. It is wrong and beyond annoying, to me.

chag · Jun 25th, 2008, 07:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Charles

Girls using their sexuality in the workplace?? Have you been under a rock since....forever?

stellamaried · Jun 25th, 2008, 07:33 PM

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Originally Posted by artjen

Ugh, I'm so glad my husband doesn't work in an office like that.

The older men are probably flattered when the younger girls are flirty like that. The younger girls know that the older men are pretty safe and it is easy to flirt with them and know that nothing will happen. It is wrong and beyond annoying, to me.

I agree. Flirting goes on all of the time in my office (not to that degree, thankfully), especially at out of office events. It is creepy, but I think the (younger) girls think it's fun, and maybe they are attracted to the "power" of the guys' positions and the (older) guys are flattered. It's usually relatively harmless/meaningless, which is not to say that I wouldn't be furious if someone I were involved with behaved that way. It also bothers me as a woman, because women who do act that way are often rewarded for their behavior. Fortunately, most of the men I work with on a daily basis barely notice that I'm a woman, and I appreciate that!

Jun 25th, 2008, 04:35 PM	#2
nooch Member Joined: Apr 2008 Location: new mexico via BROOKLYN NY Posts: 1,026	I find it more repulsive that they're acting like 13 year old girls in love with their camp counselors more than anything else, honestly. "Tee, hee! We should like totally go clubbing! It would be, like, totally awesome!" Yuck. Especially in the workplace. Ick. Maybe I am too uptight but I totally agree with you. That said, I definitely find men older than I am attractive... but I'm too young to be hitting up the 50s and 60s. If I suddenly became single I can think of a LOT of men in their 30s and 40s with whom I would enjoy sex __________________ http://www.natreasures.com Authentic American Indian jewelry & crafts All orders ship free PM me for discount codes Support local artists & their work!

Jun 25th, 2008, 05:11 PM	#4
leothelnss Loves sales... Joined: Jan 2008 Location: Burtonsville, MD Posts: 1,610	Repulsive. I'm married and have had a girl try to get with my husband before... I think if I worked with these girls I might get involved and talk to them if for no other reason than to defend the women who can't defend themselves in this situation. People who flirt with married men have no respect, and don't understand the damage they could cause to another person's relationship. __________________

Jun 25th, 2008, 05:20 PM	#6
bagnshoofetish No More 4 Me Thanks! Joined: Feb 2006 Posts: 15,060	it's called having no class. but what goes around comes around. someday they will be older and (maybe) married and some young chick will put the moves on their guy. karma is a beeyotch! __________________ click here.

Jun 25th, 2008, 05:33 PM	#7
moi et mes sacs Member Joined: Sep 2007 Posts: 3,222	Yuk, how cheap. It is common in the workplace. It can be messy too as many men have little self control when they see a skirt __________________ Just back from Venice

Jun 25th, 2008, 05:35 PM	#8
jan228 très petite Joined: May 2008 Posts: 267	I'm glad my man is 1 million percent mine and he puts other women in their place when they flirt. He tells me that this kind of behavior is even worse when people go on a corporate trip with colleagues. __________________

Jun 25th, 2008, 04:30 PM	#1
LaurelLee123 Member Joined: Feb 2008 Posts: 197	So, just to clarify, this isn't a personal issue - I am just sort of a nosy people watcher and have observed a common occurence at work. At work, there are a lot of older men in higher positions and most of them are married. A lot of the employees under them are young women. A lot of these girls seem to flirt shamelessly with these married men. Today a girl invited a married guy twice her age to go clubbing with her and her friends saying 'oh, you have to go, I totally want you to go, it will be much more fun with you there'. This other young employee is always telling these older guys they smell good and look hot and she wants to hug them so that she can smell them. And then this other girl will ask these men to take a picture of her on their cell phone so that when she texts them, her picture will show up - and then she sort of hits this provacative pose for the picture. Is this a common interaction between a male boss and his young employees? The guys seem to like the flirting - whether it goes beyond flirting, I don't know. I mean, I am not a flirtatious person, and even though I am in my thirties, I still find 50 - 60 year old men to be OLD. These girls are in their 20's and sometimes 30's. Anyways, this doesn't affect me in any way at work - I just find it unusual and a little gross.

Jun 25th, 2008, 04:38 PM	#3
meluvs2shop mi isla Joined: Jul 2007 Posts: 1,133	Well, I wouldn't say men in their 50's or 60's are old necessarily but there is a line of respect that has been crossed. However, if these men don't stand up for themselves and their married counterparts then where does the flirtation start and where does it end. It's sad to say that some single (and sometimes married) women love her some married men.

Jun 25th, 2008, 05:16 PM	#5
Charles Sucks at budgeting Joined: Jan 2007 Location: Jacksonville, Fl Posts: 3,400	Girls using their sexuality in the workplace?? Have you been under a rock since....forever?

Jun 25th, 2008, 06:13 PM	#11
guccimamma guccimamma Joined: Aug 2006 Posts: 2,628	yes, and then this girl will scream harassment as loud as possible...if he were to put a move on her in the club..she may have motives...or she just may be a skank.

Jun 25th, 2008, 06:51 PM	#12
illinirdhd Sofa King Hooked Joined: Dec 2007 Location: Las Vegas, NV Posts: 3,502	When I was younger (20, 22?), I thought it was cute and fun to flirt with married men. But now, I wouldn't even think about it. I would never have an inappropriate relationship with a married man (even if I were single), so what's the point in even showcasing the goods, KWIM? Why should I give his wife a reason to wonder if anything inappropriate is going on? And what if karma did come back and bite me by bringing around some bimbo to come on to my husband? Yuck. I'm glad my husband's corporate office is a LONG way away, and he works from home or out in the field. __________________

Jun 25th, 2008, 07:06 PM	#13
artjen Young @ Art Joined: Oct 2007 Location: Arizona Posts: 619	Ugh, I'm so glad my husband doesn't work in an office like that. The older men are probably flattered when the younger girls are flirty like that. The younger girls know that the older men are pretty safe and it is easy to flirt with them and know that nothing will happen. It is wrong and beyond annoying, to me.