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Miss Evy Rocks! · Sep 24th, 2009, 12:48 PM

Thanks everyone

I have just gotten to work and I was putting my stuff away in the locker room, when she came in. No one else was there. She suddenly had a huge smile on her face when she saw me

She looked up and said: "Hiii Evy!!!" [she sounded quite happy]. I replied: "Oh, hey;" as I went about my business and ignored her. I could tell she was put off by it and I don't care.

I'm starting to feel very annoyed by how fake people are at my job sometimes... I don't know what I was thinking trying to make friends there

Vendrazi · Sep 24th, 2009, 02:39 PM

Trying to make friends at work is a natural impulse! You spend a huge portion of your waking hours there -- wanting to relate on a personal level to other people is completely NORMAL. I've made loads of friends at work, and most of my husband's closest friends come from his various work situations.

You just may not be able to make them in the immediate circle of THIS job. If you feel too distant from other people, this job may not in the whole work out, but if you don't need *close* friends at work -- ie, you just need people you can talk to about everyday regular stuff, nothing personal or intimate -- then your work situation may be just fine as is.

candygurl · Sep 26th, 2009, 11:50 PM

Thank you to the person who started this topic! I read so much good advice that I think will help me make better decisions about who is in and out of my life!

Someone said something about people who seek nice people out just to use them.Sometimes I feel like I have a bulls eye on my back!I am thinking as I am writing that there are people you help, just because you are a nice person, and you expect nothing in return. Then there are people you want a reciprocal relationship, so if the relationship is one-sided, it is not a good relationship??? Just thinking loudly.

flowerbobon · Sep 27th, 2009, 05:11 AM

what a jerk!!!I hate the feeling that I've been used for their own benefit.Once I start to feel that way, I will try avoid them slowly. That is what I do every time. Sometimes I realized that my act will make me lose friends and I will be a loner, but hey, if they don't care my feelings, why should I care?

LOREBUNDE · Sep 28th, 2009, 07:57 AM

She sounds like a real jerk, a user. I would smile, say hi but whenever she calls don't call her back, say you are busy, etc. Who needs friends like that?

sophiae · Sep 28th, 2009, 01:03 PM

I agree with Nieners.

Miss Evy Rocks! · Sep 28th, 2009, 06:13 PM

Well guys, I went into work on Thursday and she informed me that I wouldn't be working in my regular area because of my low number of memberships? I was annoyed to hear this yet again, since they remind us of this every day... I said: "sure." I was getting ready to get to my assigned area and she began to explain to my co-worker why she too had to get on the floor more [note that she was *not* talking to *me*]. After she finished talking to her, she turned to me and asked: "Did you hear what I said to L?" and I said no, then she asked if I wanted to know what it was and I said no and proceeded to start my task. She followed me and told me it was not very nice to just leave. I explained that I've heard all that before and that I will continue to do my job to the best of my abilities and that I left to get on the floor because I didn't think it was fair one of my co-workers was alone on the sales floor while 3 others were just hanging out at the cashwrap. She said that I should have told her someone else has explained this to me already, but seriously, after working together for almost 3 years I think we both know that I get reminded of the task every.single.day. I get the feeling that she just wanted to get my attention since I ignore her when off the floor.
She finally walked away and my co-worker asked me why I looked so mad, I told her what had happened and she said: "would you like me to tell you something that will make you feel better?" I replied: "sure." She then said that M's last day will be this Monday

I was shocked, then I felt bad for arguing with her...

My co-worker didn't know why, so I asked another who is friends with M and I was even more shocked to find out that she has been demoted and forced to transfer to another location

That made me feel really bad for her, but I'm somewhat glad that the drama at work will now be over.

bagnshoofetish · Sep 28th, 2009, 08:11 PM

its called Karma. hopefully she will learn something from being demoted.

gina2328 · Sep 29th, 2009, 08:09 AM

Really, you feel bad after the way she has treated you, pretty much like cr@p? I would be glad she was leaving, and I wouldn't feel bad for her at all.

Miss Evy Rocks! · Sep 29th, 2009, 02:32 PM

^^I'm not glad that she is leaving, I don't take pleasure in the misfortune of others... I do feel bad because even thought she's a crappy friend [to me], she was a rather nice manager to all. That I can say.

I am, however, glad that I won't have to deal with this lousy pseudo-friendship at work any longer

Miss Evy Rocks! · Sep 29th, 2009, 02:33 PM

Originally Posted by bagnshoofetish

its called Karma. hopefully she will learn something from being demoted.

That is what my best friend said too

"She just got hers."
I too hope she learns from this situation.

Weekend shopper · Oct 2nd, 2009, 12:49 PM

Cut this lady out of your life. Since you have to work with her just speak and keep it moving. Do not engage in any conversations with her. She is a user and does not know how to treat people. I would not bring it up to her about what she did, because it would not do any good.

Sep 24th, 2009, 12:48 PM	#31
Miss Evy Rocks! OP ♥Handbag Collector♥ Joined: Dec 2007 Location: Where My Purse Obsession Reigns! Posts: 2,954	Thanks everyone I have just gotten to work and I was putting my stuff away in the locker room, when she came in. No one else was there. She suddenly had a huge smile on her face when she saw me She looked up and said: "Hiii Evy!!!" [she sounded quite happy]. I replied: "Oh, hey;" as I went about my business and ignored her. I could tell she was put off by it and I don't care. I'm starting to feel very annoyed by how fake people are at my job sometimes... I don't know what I was thinking trying to make friends there
	__________________ "Try To Be A Rainbow In Someone's Cloud." -From Letter To My Daughter, by Maya Angelou.

Sep 24th, 2009, 02:39 PM	#32
Vendrazi Member Joined: Oct 2008 Location: California Posts: 276	Trying to make friends at work is a natural impulse! You spend a huge portion of your waking hours there -- wanting to relate on a personal level to other people is completely NORMAL. I've made loads of friends at work, and most of my husband's closest friends come from his various work situations. You just may not be able to make them in the immediate circle of THIS job. If you feel too distant from other people, this job may not in the whole work out, but if you don't need close friends at work -- ie, you just need people you can talk to about everyday regular stuff, nothing personal or intimate -- then your work situation may be just fine as is.
	__________________ For someone who had no fancy shoes as of Jan. 1, 2009, I SURE have made up for lost time...

Sep 26th, 2009, 11:50 PM	#33
candygurl Member Joined: Sep 2009 Posts: 21	Thank you to the person who started this topic! I read so much good advice that I think will help me make better decisions about who is in and out of my life! Someone said something about people who seek nice people out just to use them.Sometimes I feel like I have a bulls eye on my back!I am thinking as I am writing that there are people you help, just because you are a nice person, and you expect nothing in return. Then there are people you want a reciprocal relationship, so if the relationship is one-sided, it is not a good relationship??? Just thinking loudly.
candygurl Member Joined: Sep 2009 Posts: 21

Sep 27th, 2009, 05:11 AM	#34
flowerbobon meow! Joined: Mar 2009 Posts: 970	what a jerk!!!I hate the feeling that I've been used for their own benefit.Once I start to feel that way, I will try avoid them slowly. That is what I do every time. Sometimes I realized that my act will make me lose friends and I will be a loner, but hey, if they don't care my feelings, why should I care?
flowerbobon meow! Joined: Mar 2009 Posts: 970	__________________ my wishlist: boy, too many to list, I guess I just grab everything that I want.

Sep 28th, 2009, 01:03 PM	#36
sophiae Member Joined: Sep 2006 Location: six feet under the stars Posts: 2,955	I agree with Nieners.
	__________________ Sophia I've learned not to judge anyone based on the past... People are always changing.

Sep 28th, 2009, 07:57 AM	#35
LOREBUNDE Member Joined: Nov 2006 Location: Rhode Island Posts: 5,090	She sounds like a real jerk, a user. I would smile, say hi but whenever she calls don't call her back, say you are busy, etc. Who needs friends like that?

Sep 28th, 2009, 06:13 PM	#37
Miss Evy Rocks! OP ♥Handbag Collector♥ Joined: Dec 2007 Location: Where My Purse Obsession Reigns! Posts: 2,954	Well guys, I went into work on Thursday and she informed me that I wouldn't be working in my regular area because of my low number of memberships? I was annoyed to hear this yet again, since they remind us of this every day... I said: "sure." I was getting ready to get to my assigned area and she began to explain to my co-worker why she too had to get on the floor more [note that she was not talking to me]. After she finished talking to her, she turned to me and asked: "Did you hear what I said to L?" and I said no, then she asked if I wanted to know what it was and I said no and proceeded to start my task. She followed me and told me it was not very nice to just leave. I explained that I've heard all that before and that I will continue to do my job to the best of my abilities and that I left to get on the floor because I didn't think it was fair one of my co-workers was alone on the sales floor while 3 others were just hanging out at the cashwrap. She said that I should have told her someone else has explained this to me already, but seriously, after working together for almost 3 years I think we both know that I get reminded of the task every.single.day. I get the feeling that she just wanted to get my attention since I ignore her when off the floor. She finally walked away and my co-worker asked me why I looked so mad, I told her what had happened and she said: "would you like me to tell you something that will make you feel better?" I replied: "sure." She then said that M's last day will be this Monday I was shocked, then I felt bad for arguing with her... My co-worker didn't know why, so I asked another who is friends with M and I was even more shocked to find out that she has been demoted and forced to transfer to another location That made me feel really bad for her, but I'm somewhat glad that the drama at work will now be over.
	__________________ "Try To Be A Rainbow In Someone's Cloud." -From Letter To My Daughter, by Maya Angelou.

Sep 28th, 2009, 08:11 PM	#38
bagnshoofetish keep smiling.... Joined: Feb 2006 Posts: 20,383	its called Karma. hopefully she will learn something from being demoted.
	__________________

Sep 29th, 2009, 08:09 AM	#39
gina2328 Member Joined: Jul 2007 Location: Michigan Posts: 625	Really, you feel bad after the way she has treated you, pretty much like cr@p? I would be glad she was leaving, and I wouldn't feel bad for her at all.
	__________________ Dress shabbily and they remember the dress; dress impeccably and they remember the woman -- Coco Chanel

Sep 29th, 2009, 02:32 PM	#40
Miss Evy Rocks! OP ♥Handbag Collector♥ Joined: Dec 2007 Location: Where My Purse Obsession Reigns! Posts: 2,954	^^I'm not *glad* that she is leaving, I don't take pleasure in the misfortune of others... I do feel bad because even thought she's a crappy friend [to me], she was a rather nice manager to all. That I can say. I am, however, glad that I won't have to deal with this lousy pseudo-friendship at work any longer
	__________________ "Try To Be A Rainbow In Someone's Cloud." -From Letter To My Daughter, by Maya Angelou.

Oct 2nd, 2009, 12:49 PM	#42
Weekend shopper Member Joined: May 2009 Location: California Posts: 201	Cut this lady out of your life. Since you have to work with her just speak and keep it moving. Do not engage in any conversations with her. She is a user and does not know how to treat people. I would not bring it up to her about what she did, because it would not do any good.

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