Fair Weather Friend... On Reverse

[bagnshoofetish]

Originally Posted by Miss Evy Rocks!

I asked some friends if they thought I was overreacting, but they just advised me to cut all ties with her. "She is not your friend," they all agreed.

BINGO!

Originally Posted by Miss Evy Rocks!

I hardly have any girl friends, but I figured I don't need a friend like this one in my life.

double BINGO!

Some people like this "friend" of yours never grow up. You will get better at sorting out people like this as time goes on and you get older and stop putting up with peoples crap. Unfortunately, its people like this who force you to put yourself first when considering friendships. You sound like a very nice and caring person and there are those who seek people like you out because they know they can get what they want out of you. But take heart that there are PLENTY of people out there who actually deserve your kindness and when you focus on them, these other leeches will eventually fade away. You gotta exercise that "muscle" of keeping people like that at arms length and letting them know you are not interested. Been there, done that!

[Angelfangs]

Just out of curiosity, why do you 'hardly have any girlfriends'?

[gucci fan]

Originally Posted by pursecrzy

Cut all ties, but don't burn bridges. If you see her, smile and say Hi but keep on walking.

Yep! Definitely not a friend. Sorry for you. She sounds like she is missing out on a good friend.

[miss_sigh_gone]

To the person who harped at my comment, I meant "revenge" as in NOT giving her the time of day (i.e. listening to her 2am sessions) when the time comes.

To the OP: I had a friend EXACTLY like this and guess what? The next time her ego deflated and she came back to me with her sob stories, I just IGNORED HER!--you don't deserve this crap; you're not her boyfriend, mom, or therapist.

[Miss Evy Rocks!]

Originally Posted by Angelfangs

Just out of curiosity, why do you 'hardly have any girlfriends'?

Because I don't have many I can call my girl friends...

I find it easier to make friends with men than women, it's always been like that... So imagine how happy I was when I met her and saw how we had many things in common *sigh*

[Miss Evy Rocks!]

Thank you everyone for your comments and advise

I'm not looking to get revenge,
I just don't feel that I will get any satisfaction out of it.

I am ending the so called friendship I thought we had, she does not deserve a friend like me While it will be hard to do so at work [mostly because she is a manager and I have to report to her], I will distance myself from her without being disrespectful.

I want to especially thank SunnyFreckles and Bagnshoofetish for your kind words of wisdom. I really appreciate you both

[nickkyvintage]

Wow i *had* a friend just like this! She went through a rough patch with a few bad boyfriends and was calling me all the time for advice. I felt just like her therapist!

At the same time i'd just start seeing my SO. We'd be out for dinner or at home watching a film and she'd call all the time! Then after i'd convinced her to be single for a while - the calling stopped! I was glad that she'd calmed down a bit.

Needless to say i never hear from her now. I noticed on Facebook a few days ago that shes having a private birthday party, and i'm not invited!

I don't truly care, it's just a bit disrespectful to not invite the one person who made her feel better about herself and really picked her up when she needed it.

Same as Evy, I don't have many female friends. I just prefer the non-stess company of males! Women can be so bitchy and hellbent on revenge sometimes that they just aren't worth the hassle. You're better off just not bothering with her anymore.

[miss_sigh_gone]

I think the moral of the story is: don't be a good Samaritan to whiny women you barely know....because the act will hardly ever be reciprocated.

[turboflgrl]

Oh wow. What an immature little girl she is! Well, from the looks of things, you're doing what you should be. I'd let her go and move on - no need for unnecessary drama, ya know?

[bagnshoofetish]

Originally Posted by Miss Evy Rocks!

I want to especially thank SunnyFreckles and Bagnshoofetish for your kind words of wisdom. I really appreciate you both

[~Fabulousity~]

she's not your friend if she were she'd consider "your" feelings at least some of the time. Sounds like she was just using you at her convience, cut her off. When she calls you don't be available let her call someone else at 2am when she's having a problem.

[~Fabulousity~]

Originally Posted by miss_sigh_gone

I think the moral of the story is: don't be a good Samaritan to whiny women you barely know....because the act will hardly ever be reciprocated.

Agreed.

[bagnshoofetish]

Originally Posted by miss_sigh_gone

I think the moral of the story is: don't be a good Samaritan to whiny women you barely know....because the act will hardly ever be reciprocated.

but the very definition of a "good samaritan" is helping out someone others choose to ignore. its not about expecting reciprocation - ever.

[SunnyFreckles]

Miss Evy...its all good!

[QueenCoco]

this is exactly why I have enough girlfriends to count on one hand...with fingers to spare. Don't waste your time with her anymore......