Ex Husbands and You

lina girl · Dec 25th, 2007, 06:17 PM

Do you get along with your ex husband? My first husband and I have two kids together and we have a really amicable relationship. My other two kids call him uncle and stay over at his house with my other daughter sometimes. If I need carpentry help he'll come to the house and fix things. My second husband and I do not get along at all. He's evil along with his wife (they kidnapped my two younger daughters for six months and I went through hell getting them back). Anyhow, what is your relationship like with your ex? My bf is amazed at how friendly our relationship is and he even comes along with me when we have something to celebrate regarding the children.

lolitakali · Dec 25th, 2007, 08:23 PM

My current DH will be my first and last hopefully!
He's the best.

PuppyB · Dec 25th, 2007, 08:50 PM

I think it might depend on the reason of breaking up at that time.

merika · Dec 25th, 2007, 09:05 PM

We talk - when we have to. We don't socialize.

merde111 · Dec 26th, 2007, 04:31 AM

My ex and I have a businesslike relationship. He occasionally extends an invitation to a party or get-together, but I don't really feel comfortable with that. Once my son is older, (he's 9 now), I'll feel more comfortable--my ex isn't a bad guy, but he can be controlling and I prefer that we maintain a non-friend relationship until my son is old enough to make his own decisions on when he visits with his dad. When visitation is no longer up to me and his dad to negotiate, I'll be much more comfortable with being friends.

anniea · Dec 26th, 2007, 04:57 PM

My first ex-husband, no way! He use to beat me up. Second ex-huband, use to all the time until he remarried.

meowgal · Dec 26th, 2007, 07:07 PM

My ex told me we would stay in touch, but he has no desire to stay in touch. It really hurt but I think I am finally over it.

The last time we spoke it became violent, so I am grateful he is not in my life right now.

simpleplan · Dec 28th, 2007, 07:39 AM

My ex husband and I have a wonderful friendship because we have an 8 yr old together..I've been with my DH for 7 yrs now and he too has a new lover.

But we talk on the phone regarding our son everyday and he even comes to me for advice about his new gf..we've been though some tough times (w/the divorce) and have worked hard to get to this point --where even my ex MIL and his whole family have me over for dinners 3 times a week, Christmases and all special occassions even do things for my birthday..

Someone up there is really taking care of us and I'm soooo thankful. My father was never around after my mom divorced him, so it's extremely important our son have both parents around ALL the time who are working together for his benefit, well beyond him turning 18.
..I thank God everyday.

Speedy · Dec 28th, 2007, 02:01 PM

My first ex and I are friends, although we've been divorced for over 30 years. We doin't "socialize" per ce, but if it has to do with our daughter, we are there for each other. (This was tested some time ago, when our child was assualted and he needed to know. He was there for both of us.)

My son's sperm donor is just that. He used my son as a way to get back at me, and there was a terrible time of about four years I'll never be able to forgive him for. Should something happen to our son, he's the LAST person I would call. Son thinks of my current DH as his dad anyway.

bonybynatur2003 · Dec 28th, 2007, 03:49 PM

My parents always got along and my father would always help my mom out whenever she needed him (help w/ the house, cars, or whatever), even though she was remarried. My step-mother has always hated that and she would always try to stop him from helping her, but he would just say he was doing it for me. I think it made a difference and I am glad that they did get along for my benefit. I'm 25 and to this day they still get along.

missypoo · Dec 28th, 2007, 05:49 PM

I haven't spoken to my first ex husband since our divorce in '93, but have to talk to my second ex because we have a son together. I get along with him at times, but he still drives me NUTS because he needs to grow up. He hardly calls our son. Made me mad when he didn't call on Christmas for him and no gift!! What a jerk. I'm so glad I have wonderful husband now. We have been married for 6 years and love him to death. Third time is definately a charm in this case : )

Dec 25th, 2007, 06:17 PM	#1
lina girl Member Location: Hawaii	Ex Husbands and You Do you get along with your ex husband? My first husband and I have two kids together and we have a really amicable relationship. My other two kids call him uncle and stay over at his house with my other daughter sometimes. If I need carpentry help he'll come to the house and fix things. My second husband and I do not get along at all. He's evil along with his wife (they kidnapped my two younger daughters for six months and I went through hell getting them back). Anyhow, what is your relationship like with your ex? My bf is amazed at how friendly our relationship is and he even comes along with me when we have something to celebrate regarding the children.

Dec 25th, 2007, 08:23 PM	#2
lolitakali Mira Location: Maryland	Re: Ex Husbands and You My current DH will be my first and last hopefully! He's the best.

Dec 25th, 2007, 08:50 PM	#3
PuppyB Member Location: Toronto, Canada	Re: Ex Husbands and You I think it might depend on the reason of breaking up at that time.

Dec 25th, 2007, 09:05 PM	#4
merika Just me Location: In front of a computer	Re: Ex Husbands and You We talk - when we have to. We don't socialize. __________________ I will also gladly authenticate your chocolates for you.

Dec 26th, 2007, 04:31 AM	#5
merde111 Member Location: Forth Worth, TX	Re: Ex Husbands and You My ex and I have a businesslike relationship. He occasionally extends an invitation to a party or get-together, but I don't really feel comfortable with that. Once my son is older, (he's 9 now), I'll feel more comfortable--my ex isn't a bad guy, but he can be controlling and I prefer that we maintain a non-friend relationship until my son is old enough to make his own decisions on when he visits with his dad. When visitation is no longer up to me and his dad to negotiate, I'll be much more comfortable with being friends.

Dec 26th, 2007, 04:57 PM	#6
anniea Member Location: Mitchell, SD	Re: Ex Husbands and You My first ex-husband, no way! He use to beat me up. Second ex-huband, use to all the time until he remarried.

Dec 26th, 2007, 07:07 PM	#7
meowgal Member Location: new jersey	Re: Ex Husbands and You My ex told me we would stay in touch, but he has no desire to stay in touch. It really hurt but I think I am finally over it. The last time we spoke it became violent, so I am grateful he is not in my life right now.

Dec 28th, 2007, 07:39 AM	#8
simpleplan unconventional witt	Re: Ex Husbands and You My ex husband and I have a wonderful friendship because we have an 8 yr old together..I've been with my DH for 7 yrs now and he too has a new lover. But we talk on the phone regarding our son everyday and he even comes to me for advice about his new gf..we've been though some tough times (w/the divorce) and have worked hard to get to this point --where even my ex MIL and his whole family have me over for dinners 3 times a week, Christmases and all special occassions even do things for my birthday.. Someone up there is really taking care of us and I'm soooo thankful. My father was never around after my mom divorced him, so it's extremely important our son have both parents around ALL the time who are working together for his benefit, well beyond him turning 18. ..I thank God everyday. __________________ iHeartMyLexus Last edited by simpleplan; Dec 28th, 2007 at 07:42 AM.

Dec 28th, 2007, 02:01 PM	#9
Speedy Sofa King Banned Location: N. California	Re: Ex Husbands and You My first ex and I are friends, although we've been divorced for over 30 years. We doin't "socialize" per ce, but if it has to do with our daughter, we are there for each other. (This was tested some time ago, when our child was assualted and he needed to know. He was there for both of us.) My son's sperm donor is just that. He used my son as a way to get back at me, and there was a terrible time of about four years I'll never be able to forgive him for. Should something happen to our son, he's the LAST person I would call. Son thinks of my current DH as his dad anyway.

Dec 28th, 2007, 03:49 PM	#10
bonybynatur2003 Member Location: Florida	Re: Ex Husbands and You My parents always got along and my father would always help my mom out whenever she needed him (help w/ the house, cars, or whatever), even though she was remarried. My step-mother has always hated that and she would always try to stop him from helping her, but he would just say he was doing it for me. I think it made a difference and I am glad that they did get along for my benefit. I'm 25 and to this day they still get along. __________________ "Those we love dont go away, They walk beside us everyday, Unseen, unheard, but always near, Still loved, still missed and very dear."-unknown Christina's Collection

Dec 28th, 2007, 05:49 PM	#11
missypoo Que Sera, Sera Location: "The Good Life"	Re: Ex Husbands and You I haven't spoken to my first ex husband since our divorce in '93, but have to talk to my second ex because we have a son together. I get along with him at times, but he still drives me NUTS because he needs to grow up. He hardly calls our son. Made me mad when he didn't call on Christmas for him and no gift!! What a jerk. I'm so glad I have wonderful husband now. We have been married for 6 years and love him to death. Third time is definately a charm in this case : ) __________________ Melissa