Ex BF left me a vm...Part Deux

Pursegrrl · Jun 15th, 2008, 08:03 PM

Maybe a few of y'all will remember this thread, eh?
A little freaked out: ex BF left me a vm...

This guy just won't let up. I had a long talk with my GF (who ex had called in that older thread) this morning, and she finally said "OK, are you ready to hear about S?" I about fell out of my chair. I laughed and said well, can't stop now, what's the deal?

A few days ago he called her yet AGAIN wondering why I hadn't called or emailed him. He started reaching out to me back in late April or so and I didn't return his calls/email. I decided that anything I did, even telling him to eff off, would be somehow twisted in his mind as if I wanted to restart contact with him, which is SO not the case.

L didn't tell me about this 2nd phone call right away because I've been having a pretty bad week and she didn't want to plop this on me right in the heat of the moment. But she's not the type to withhold stuff from me; she knows me pretty well and was just waiting for a slightly better time to bring it up.

She is an awesome friend. She pretty much told him to back off and that I don't want to be in contact with him. He was asking how I was doing and if I had found another job, and she just said I'm doing great and I have a job (didn't say where, phew).

She was firm with him, firmer than the last time, so let's hope he got the hint.

She said he just sounds really lonely. The guy is 48; he's a big boy and can get out there and do any number of things to meet up with people.

I don't mean to sound cold-hearted, but for those who have not plodded through this drama with me this past year...this was a verbally/emotionally abusive relationship. I'm never EVER looking back at that one.

Thank you all for your virtual hugs and support! Let's put a fork in this one...IT'S sofa king DONE!

QueenOfDa702 · Jun 15th, 2008, 08:13 PM

Oh lord. Hopefully he got the memo this time! Sheesh!

You arent being cold hearted at all girl, this guy sounds...well...wacko.

candace117 · Jun 15th, 2008, 09:23 PM

I love you, PG. I hope the younger gals on this board that have various issues take note of how you are acting in a situation like this. They have a lot to learn from you!

Pursegrrl · Jun 15th, 2008, 09:51 PM

^^ Well, shucks, candace, that's very sweet of you! Love you too, baby.

I resent the fact he's chosen to bug a very close GF of mine for yet a second time in about 2-3 months, when she already told him to forgettaboudit and to leave me alone. Thank goodness L's got my back, always. [For those who may not know, L was also his realtor so they have a business relationship as well as the link they have through me.]

Remember, this was the guy who YELLED that he wanted to marry me when I broke up with him...the guy who left me hanging with a very large hotel bill we agreed to split on what ended up being our last getaway together. The one who left his cr*p in my garage because he didn't have any storage and never came by to pick it up after we split. Know what I did with it? I took it to the dump and yelled "F YOU" at the top of my lungs when I threw it in the big hole.

Soooo...I don't know if that's mature or not, but dang it felt good.

keodi · Jun 15th, 2008, 10:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Pursegrrl

^^ Well, shucks, candace, that's very sweet of you! Love you too, baby.

I resent the fact he's chosen to bug a very close GF of mine for yet a second time in about 2-3 months, when she already told him to forgettaboudit and to leave me alone. Thank goodness L's got my back, always. [For those who may not know, L was also his realtor so they have a business relationship as well as the link they have through me.]

Remember, this was the guy who YELLED that he wanted to marry me when I broke up with him...the guy who left me hanging with a very large hotel bill we agreed to split on what ended up being our last getaway together. The one who left his cr*p in my garage because he didn't have any storage and never came by to pick it up after we split. Know what I did with it? I took it to the dump and yelled "F YOU" at the top of my lungs when I threw it in the big hole.

Soooo...I don't know if that's mature or not, but dang it felt good.

Yikes! I think you did the right thing by NOT responding it's not cool being with someone that abuses you emotionally it's soo not worth the cost of therapy..I should know..

Hugs Pursgrrl.

Jun 15th, 2008, 08:03 PM	#1
Pursegrrl Oh! That Joe! Location: Seattle	Ex BF left me a vm...Part Deux Maybe a few of y'all will remember this thread, eh? A little freaked out: ex BF left me a vm... This guy just won't let up. I had a long talk with my GF (who ex had called in that older thread) this morning, and she finally said "OK, are you ready to hear about S?" I about fell out of my chair. I laughed and said well, can't stop now, what's the deal? A few days ago he called her yet AGAIN wondering why I hadn't called or emailed him. He started reaching out to me back in late April or so and I didn't return his calls/email. I decided that anything I did, even telling him to eff off, would be somehow twisted in his mind as if I wanted to restart contact with him, which is SO not the case. L didn't tell me about this 2nd phone call right away because I've been having a pretty bad week and she didn't want to plop this on me right in the heat of the moment. But she's not the type to withhold stuff from me; she knows me pretty well and was just waiting for a slightly better time to bring it up. She is an awesome friend. She pretty much told him to back off and that I don't want to be in contact with him. He was asking how I was doing and if I had found another job, and she just said I'm doing great and I have a job (didn't say where, phew). She was firm with him, firmer than the last time, so let's hope he got the hint. She said he just sounds really lonely. The guy is 48; he's a big boy and can get out there and do any number of things to meet up with people. I don't mean to sound cold-hearted, but for those who have not plodded through this drama with me this past year...this was a verbally/emotionally abusive relationship. I'm never EVER looking back at that one. Thank you all for your virtual hugs and support! Let's put a fork in this one...IT'S sofa king DONE!

Jun 15th, 2008, 08:13 PM	#2
QueenOfDa702 Misunderestimated. Location: I've gone RAOKing crazy!	Oh lord. Hopefully he got the memo this time! Sheesh! You arent being cold hearted at all girl, this guy sounds...well...wacko. __________________ ~Valeen~ Happy Holidays to all my tPF friends! Click HERE to visit MySpace Please help get justice for Karley! http://forum.purseblog.com/animalici...ey-385571.html

Jun 15th, 2008, 09:23 PM	#3
candace117 Pirate Trash Location: Hardcorvallis	I love you, PG. I hope the younger gals on this board that have various issues take note of how you are acting in a situation like this. They have a lot to learn from you! __________________ "With so much drama in the L-B-C, it's kinda hard bein Snoop D-O-double G."

Jun 15th, 2008, 09:51 PM	#4
Pursegrrl Oh! That Joe! Location: Seattle	^^ Well, shucks, candace, that's very sweet of you! Love you too, baby. I resent the fact he's chosen to bug a very close GF of mine for yet a second time in about 2-3 months, when she already told him to forgettaboudit and to leave me alone. Thank goodness L's got my back, always. [For those who may not know, L was also his realtor so they have a business relationship as well as the link they have through me.] Remember, this was the guy who YELLED that he wanted to marry me when I broke up with him...the guy who left me hanging with a very large hotel bill we agreed to split on what ended up being our last getaway together. The one who left his cr*p in my garage because he didn't have any storage and never came by to pick it up after we split. Know what I did with it? I took it to the dump and yelled "F YOU" at the top of my lungs when I threw it in the big hole. Soooo...I don't know if that's mature or not, but dang it felt good.