[Highqueen7]

*Big Sigh*

Hi ladies! I have such a delimna. I met a guy last week that I absolutely cannot get out of my mind! I met him at work in a group setting. He was a perfect gentleman but not sooo nice that I think he felt something. He is sort of a high profile man that undoubtedly has many women chasing him. At the same time he seems to be the typical man that doesn't appreciate a woman unless he has to chase her. I want to send him a friend request on myspace but am a little hesitant. I always like to seperate myself from the pack and not be like most women. So the myspace thing is a little immature and typical. What would you ladies do? The only other way for me to contact him would be for me ask the other lawyer in my office that works with him and I just think that would be unprofessional. What do you guys think?

[nataliam1976]

Originally Posted by Highqueen7

He was a perfect gentleman but not sooo nice that I think he felt something.

Im confused , so was he a perfect gentleman or not ? and what part made you think he felt something?

[nataliam1976]

Originally Posted by Highqueen7

He is sort of a high profile man that undoubtedly has many women chasing him. At the same time he seems to be the typical man that doesn't appreciate a woman unless he has to chase her.

I think you answered your question yourself. One thing I know is that if a man notices a woman and wants to get in touch with her, he will, especially the type you describe.

Stand out from the crowd, be the one who doesnt chase. JMHO.

[guccimamma]

yes, i had a crush on someone throughout school...so aloof.

found out in college he was G-A-Y.

i guess that is better than not interested!

[Highqueen7]

Originally Posted by nataliam1976

Im confused , so was he a perfect gentleman or not ? and what part made you think he felt something?

I'm sorry! I meant he was nice but not so nice I think he felt something. But I do agree with standing out and not chasing! Thanks for the advice!

[IntlSet]

^^^
Good decision.

And if you are going to try to make friends with this high-profile man, don't send him a Myspace friend request! You can find a more elegant way to do it -- maybe run into him again somewhere.

Good luck!

[illinirdhd]

In my experience, a high profile man will be intrigued by someone he runs into on occasion (charity events, etc), who is always cordial to him and offers a pretty smile, but appears aloof and does not act like she's seeking him out, or even necessarily interested in him.

[Highqueen7]

Originally Posted by IntlSet

^^^
Good decision.

And if you are going to try to make friends with this high-profile man, don't send him a Myspace friend request! You can find a more elegant way to do it -- maybe run into him again somewhere.

Good luck!

Thanks ladies! He only comes in to see his lawyer about two or three times a year and even then he doesn't necessarily have to come in himself. Last week was a total fluke because we had a photo shoot for the new website.

BTW, when I say high profile, I mean sorta high-profile. He's not Paul McMartney or Barack Obama or a ball player or anything.

[Highqueen7]

Originally Posted by IntlSet

^^^
Good decision.

And if you are going to try to make friends with this high-profile man, don't send him a Myspace friend request! You can find a more elegant way to do it -- maybe run into him again somewhere.

Good luck!

By the way, like that you used the word "elegant." My mother is a very elegant woman and raised me the same way. You reminded me of that!

[IntlSet]

^^^
LOL "Elegant" is an underappreciated word in this day and age!!

[Zophie]

Highqueen, I met a guy through work almost a year ago that has sort of hung around in the back of my mind ever since. It's weird, and I don't even know why, but I just find myself hoping I run into him again. Then I feel silly because I only met him for a couple hours. But anyway, to answer your question, I wouldn't send him a MySpace invite. I let the man chase me. If he doesn't, oh, well. I'm not chasing him.

[emmalawyer]

Chasing after the untouchables was my favorite sport in college! I am a pro at figuring out how to run into people "accidentally-on-purpose" and make it look like they ran into ME!

I say enjoy the crush.

One exception though: if this guy is one of your firm's clients, don't pursue him in any obvious way and above all, don't confess in any coworker (no matter how nice she seems!). I wouldn't even tell anyone at work that I thought a client was sexy, interesting or anything else that doesn't pertain to our professional relationship. No guy is worth jeopardizing the way you are perceived among your colleagues and starry-eyed swooning over a client could make you look easily impressed and glib.

I wouldn't do MySpace or Facebook and other stuff like that. It's juvenile, and if I'm reading this guy correctly, myspace friends requests aren't what makes him tick.

[Zophie]

Originally Posted by emmalawyer

Chasing after the untouchables was my favorite sport in college! I am a pro at figuring out how to run into people "accidentally-on-purpose" and make it look like they ran into ME!

I say enjoy the crush.

One exception though: if this guy is one of your firm's clients, don't pursue him in any obvious way and above all, don't confess in any coworker (no matter how nice she seems!). I wouldn't even tell anyone at work that I thought a client was sexy, interesting or anything else that doesn't pertain to our professional relationship. No guy is worth jeopardizing the way you are perceived among your colleagues and starry-eyed swooning over a client could make you look easily impressed and glib.

I wouldn't do MySpace or Facebook and other stuff like that. It's juvenile, and if I'm reading this guy correctly, myspace friends requests aren't what makes him tick.

I agree. In my case, I am a court reporter and the particular guy I mentioned is an attorney I worked with. I would NEVER tell any of my coworkers, or anyone really, that I even found myself interested in him. Although I wonder if he maybe was interested in me and didn't want to contact me due to similar circumstances? Who knows. That could just be wishful thinking on my part. The guy is probably married or very taken. And he's definitely not the MySpace type.

But I think if you could "accidentaly" run into him, that's a good idea. Just be sure you don't keep doing it and look like a stalker.

[ranskimmie]

This thread is funny lol!
As a matter of fact, yes, I did have a MAD crush on someone I thought to be untouchable for about 4 years. Finally let him know exactly how I felt and well......we've been married almost 8 yrs. now. He's the love of my life!

[emmalawyer]

^^^ Yup; I married one of mine too... and he did turn out to be the love of my life as well...