Engagements... how long and how old?

wordbox · Jun 25th, 2008, 12:31 PM

Just curious for the married and engaged folks here, how long did you date your husband/fiance before you were engaged, and how old were you when you got married (or how old will you be)?

chessmont · Jun 25th, 2008, 12:40 PM

We met 10 years before we married, and had on/off relationship during then.

Finally he asked me if we could get back together, and I said, "not if it's starting over- It had better lead to marriage." He said OK. We became engaged about 4 months later, and married 11 months after that. He was in NJ , I was in CA and we had logistics to work out, I had to leave my job and move to NJ.

I was 31, he was 30 when we married.

Fortunately I convinced him to move to CA After 2-1/2 years of marriage.

FebbysBigSis · Jun 25th, 2008, 12:51 PM

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Originally Posted by chessmont

Fortunately I convinced him to move to CA After 2-1/2 years of marriage.

That's nice to know~! Personally, I would move to the Bay area in an instant compared to NYC or NJ!

I am in a similar situation as you were with your DH.

My DH and I have been together 8 years before we married and had a long distance relationship.

Because of family (mainly mine) being so controlling and unsupportive, we decided to elope, and I moved closer to him (Toronto).
We worked on a compromise (because of business and job issues) closer to the ON/NY border.

Anyhow, we didn't have any set time or pressure. Maybe it was partly due to the long distance situation, but we refused to let us down.

As long as you (the individual) and your SO are committed and patient, no time (whether long or short) should make a difference!

cutter333 · Jun 25th, 2008, 01:02 PM

I got married at 20. We had been together for 3 years before we got married. We've been very happily married now for 6 years and have a baby on the way.

The right time is different for everyone.

kbell · Jun 25th, 2008, 01:50 PM

It's definitely different for everyone.

Me - dated a tad over 3 years, got engaged, married 10 mos later at age 30.

One of my bfs didn't meet "the one" till right before turning 34. They were engaged about a yr after dating, married about 6 mos later, she was 35.

sarahloveslouis · Jun 25th, 2008, 01:55 PM

Well I'm NEWLY engaged (just got so on MONDAY!) and I'm 22. My boyfriend and I had been together exactly 2 years, but best friends for 6 or so.

We plan on a normal-long engagement, about a year or so.

illinirdhd · Jun 25th, 2008, 02:03 PM

We had been together for almost exactly 2 years when we got married. I was 30 (almost 31) and DH was 37 (almost 38). We were only engaged from Oct - Feb. We really didn't see the point of a long engagement. Looking back, if we had been planning the wedding 6 months or a year or longer in advance, we probably would have spent more $$$ on it! There were a few things that were just done very simply because we actually only planned the wedding for about 1.5 months. Centerpieces were simple, invitations were simple, no place cards/seating chart, etc. None of that was needed anyway, and we had a very elegant wedding & reception.

artjen · Jun 25th, 2008, 02:09 PM

We were together for almost 2 1/2 years when he proposed. We were only engaged for a couple of months before we got married. We already knew that we were going to get married and it was easy to plan since we had a pretty small wedding.

I was 34 and he was 46 when we got married. We've been married a year and a half now.

LadyLinda · Jun 25th, 2008, 02:23 PM

I married my first husband with no engagement, though we'd known each other about a year. I was 19 and he was 35.

My second husband and I decided to be an exclusive couple after knowing each other two years and maintained another two years of our long distance relationship until my eldest son went off to college. At that point I moved to Philadelphia to see if we could survive actually seeing each other on a daily basis. We did, announced our engagement and married a year later (last July). I was 52 at the time of the marriage and he was 43.

couturequeen · Jun 25th, 2008, 02:43 PM

A year after we knew each other we were engaged. When we were married I was 25 and he was 31.

cascratchfever · Jun 25th, 2008, 03:09 PM

We dated for 2 years before we got engaged and we were engaged for about one year. I was 23 when he proposed and got married a few days before I turned 24.

bagnshoofetish · Jun 25th, 2008, 03:10 PM

lived together for 4 years.
engaged for one year.
married for 12 years.

scarlett_2005 · Jun 25th, 2008, 03:16 PM

DH and I had a really fast courtship. We met in December, got engaged in February and were married in July. Next month will be our 7th wedding anniversary.

Eta: I was 21 when I got married.

hell_lo_kitty · Jun 25th, 2008, 03:24 PM

My husband and I are going on 4 years total together this Aug. 17th.

We dated for 1 year and then got engaged.

We then were engaged for 2 years before we got married, at age 24 (me) and 25 (him).

Our 1 year wedding ann. will be this Oct. 27th.

bagnshoofetish · Jun 25th, 2008, 03:30 PM

its so wonderful to read a positive love story in here for a change! congrats! you guys sound like 2 peas in a pod!

Jun 25th, 2008, 12:31 PM	#1
wordbox spay, neuter, adopt! Location: The North Pole	Engagements... how long and how old? Just curious for the married and engaged folks here, how long did you date your husband/fiance before you were engaged, and how old were you when you got married (or how old will you be)? __________________ "This is your life, and it's ending one minute at a time." Wish List: * Ignes Sofia (Midi?) * another Tano Boogie Bucket * Rebecca Minkoff Matinee, MAM * more Marc Jacobs! * MbMJ London Bus Tote Bag

Jun 25th, 2008, 01:02 PM	#4
cutter333 Member	I got married at 20. We had been together for 3 years before we got married. We've been very happily married now for 6 years and have a baby on the way. The right time is different for everyone. __________________ Courtney It's a boy!

Jun 25th, 2008, 01:50 PM	#5
kbell Member Location: MA	It's definitely different for everyone. Me - dated a tad over 3 years, got engaged, married 10 mos later at age 30. One of my bfs didn't meet "the one" till right before turning 34. They were engaged about a yr after dating, married about 6 mos later, she was 35. __________________ Is it football season yet? All out ban in progress

Jun 25th, 2008, 01:55 PM	#6
sarahloveslouis Blessed.	Well I'm NEWLY engaged (just got so on MONDAY!) and I'm 22. My boyfriend and I had been together exactly 2 years, but best friends for 6 or so. We plan on a normal-long engagement, about a year or so. __________________ Click the picture to read the story!

Jun 25th, 2008, 02:03 PM	#7
illinirdhd Sofa King Hooked Location: Las Vegas, NV	We had been together for almost exactly 2 years when we got married. I was 30 (almost 31) and DH was 37 (almost 38). We were only engaged from Oct - Feb. We really didn't see the point of a long engagement. Looking back, if we had been planning the wedding 6 months or a year or longer in advance, we probably would have spent more $$$ on it! There were a few things that were just done very simply because we actually only planned the wedding for about 1.5 months. Centerpieces were simple, invitations were simple, no place cards/seating chart, etc. None of that was needed anyway, and we had a very elegant wedding & reception. __________________

Jun 25th, 2008, 12:40 PM	#2
chessmont Member Location: CA, USA	We met 10 years before we married, and had on/off relationship during then. Finally he asked me if we could get back together, and I said, "not if it's starting over- It had better lead to marriage." He said OK. We became engaged about 4 months later, and married 11 months after that. He was in NJ , I was in CA and we had logistics to work out, I had to leave my job and move to NJ. I was 31, he was 30 when we married. Fortunately I convinced him to move to CA After 2-1/2 years of marriage.

Jun 25th, 2008, 02:09 PM	#8
artjen Young @ Art Location: Arizona	We were together for almost 2 1/2 years when he proposed. We were only engaged for a couple of months before we got married. We already knew that we were going to get married and it was easy to plan since we had a pretty small wedding. I was 34 and he was 46 when we got married. We've been married a year and a half now.

Jun 25th, 2008, 02:23 PM	#9
LadyLinda Member Location: Philadelphia	I married my first husband with no engagement, though we'd known each other about a year. I was 19 and he was 35. My second husband and I decided to be an exclusive couple after knowing each other two years and maintained another two years of our long distance relationship until my eldest son went off to college. At that point I moved to Philadelphia to see if we could survive actually seeing each other on a daily basis. We did, announced our engagement and married a year later (last July). I was 52 at the time of the marriage and he was 43.

Jun 25th, 2008, 02:43 PM	#10
couturequeen addict	A year after we knew each other we were engaged. When we were married I was 25 and he was 31. __________________ My updated collection pictures are here. Wishlist Diamond halo stud earrings Bedat No. 7 watch

Jun 25th, 2008, 03:09 PM	#11
cascratchfever Member	We dated for 2 years before we got engaged and we were engaged for about one year. I was 23 when he proposed and got married a few days before I turned 24. __________________

Jun 25th, 2008, 03:10 PM	#12
bagnshoofetish napping.	lived together for 4 years. engaged for one year. married for 12 years. __________________ click here.

Jun 25th, 2008, 03:16 PM	#13
scarlett_2005 Crazy 4 LV Location: USA	DH and I had a really fast courtship. We met in December, got engaged in February and were married in July. Next month will be our 7th wedding anniversary. Eta: I was 21 when I got married. __________________ I did it, I lost all my baby weight! Last edited by scarlett_2005; Jun 25th, 2008 at 03:19 PM.

Jun 25th, 2008, 03:24 PM	#14
hell_lo_kitty Proud Freak!!!!! Location: Ohio	My husband and I are going on 4 years total together this Aug. 17th. We dated for 1 year and then got engaged. We then were engaged for 2 years before we got married, at age 24 (me) and 25 (him). Our 1 year wedding ann. will be this Oct. 27th. __________________

Jun 25th, 2008, 03:30 PM	#15
bagnshoofetish napping.	its so wonderful to read a positive love story in here for a change! congrats! you guys sound like 2 peas in a pod! __________________ click here.