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Originally Posted by Sass
I have a personal situation going on at the moment and i need some advice and suggestions (especially if anyone has been in the same situation).
I am 22 and bf is 28. We have been planning our engagement for this year since January when we decided on rings etc. We discussed it seriously on our 4 year anniversary in April and I knew that we would be getting engaged within the next 4 months after that, although i had a feeling it may be sooner.
My 18 year old sister rang me on the weekend to announce that her and her boyfriend of 5 months were engaged.
Now I know some people will think i am very nasty, but i was totally upset when she told me. I was very polite and acted quite enthusiastic on the phone to her, but she knew something was up. After I got off the phone i cried and cried.
My bf also go quite upset when i told him. He told me that he was planning to ask my father last Sunday when we were down visiting but he chickened out. He was just waiting till my uni exams were over for the semester (which is next this Thursday) then he was going to propose.
I can't believe the irony of it, Initially I thought that we should wait at least 6 months before we make an announcement now because it may come off as tacky or competitive. Bf disagrees and thinks that we should continue as planned. He said if we wait I will just end up resenting my sister. He said that we have both been planning and waiting for this for a real long time and that we shouldn't let what sis does effect us. After a weeks consideration i agreed with him.
I rang my sis and apologised for not being so excited and explain the above situation. She said she felt terrible and if she would have had any idea they could have postponed their engagement (which i would NEVER ask her to do anyway). She was happy for us and begged me to still go ahead as we had planned. Bf rang my parents personally and explain the situation (ie. that he was planning to ask dad, that we had picked out rings and even set a date for possible wedding). The weren't surprised and said that they kind of saw our engagement coming. They agreed that we shouldn't let sis engagement overshadow ours, and we should just continue on as planned!
Before i continue i guess i should mention we both were raised in a small town and local gossip is hard to deal with even for the seasoned experts.
I know it silly but i am afraid of what people will say about me if we still announce engagement??
Anyone have any advice???? Im just confused and still a little upset!
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I think more what she's worried about is the gossip within her town, and I can understand that, I've been in a similar situation and it turned out bad because I didn't control it, I was too young to see it coming.
I would say maybe announce your engagement at a big party or bbq or potluck with your sister present, have her come up and show how happy she is for you so the people around (the busy body's that talk way too much for their own good!) aren't thinking that she might be unhappy that you are engaged as well. Do some public showing of how happy both of you are to be engaged at the same time and that it doesn't bother either of you.
I completely understand how gossip can hurt within a town, but don't let it put a damper on your special time, take the bull by the horns so to say =) and congratulations!!
Engagement Rules
btw thanks for the link hottie ! 
