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BagAngel · Oct 9th, 2009, 09:40 PM

Report it!

Irishgal · Oct 9th, 2009, 10:22 PM

What would you hope someone did for you, or a sister, mom, girlfriend?

Do that.

babieejae1101 · Oct 9th, 2009, 10:57 PM

I would most definitely report it! If you need anymore information on how to go about reporting it, confidentiality, etc., I would contact the domestic abuse hotline. They can help you with that.

rainedrop1019 · Oct 9th, 2009, 11:28 PM

Please report it. If she makes it through the ICU, you could be saving her from a lifetime of being continually battered.....

karmenzsofia · Oct 9th, 2009, 11:32 PM

I like Shimma's idea.

You can report it, but if she isn't willing to admit it and press charges, it'll likely go nowhere. But I would definitely try to help somehow.

Roo · Oct 9th, 2009, 11:36 PM

If this woman works with you, I'd report this to the company HR department. I would hate for you to get in trouble for going to the authorities without letting the management at work know what is going on also. If she is being beaten by a partner, you do NOT need him showing up at the workplace later.

frenchtoast · Oct 10th, 2009, 12:28 AM

Originally Posted by Swanky Mama Of Three

I couldn't live w/ my self if I didn't report it.

Exactly. Yes I think it needs to be reported.

EMMY · Oct 10th, 2009, 07:57 AM

Originally Posted by Roo

If this woman works with you, I'd report this to the company HR department. I would hate for you to get in trouble for going to the authorities without letting the management at work know what is going on also. If she is being beaten by a partner, you do NOT need him showing up at the workplace later.

^Great advice Roo..I was thinking the same thing..Gosh is this woman OK?

bagnshoofetish · Oct 10th, 2009, 10:09 PM

I would think that the doctors would be able to determine if her clot was caused by blunt force trauma? Regardless, if you know for a fact her husband is beating her, I would contact a local womans shelter and ask them for advice on how to proceed.

gacats · Oct 11th, 2009, 02:30 PM

OP, somehow, let someone know this is going on, even if you call the hospital anonymously. Please help her.
And please come back and let us know what happens.

JNH14 · Oct 11th, 2009, 04:02 PM

As a teacher-I am required by law to report anything I just "suspect" with my students. You need to do the same and let them know-next time she may not survive and you woldn't want that on your conscience if she did die.

SOLIDGOLD2 · Oct 11th, 2009, 06:26 PM

I hope you reported it OP any updates?

EMMY · Oct 11th, 2009, 08:15 PM

^ Yeah I came back to see how she was doing too...OP keep us updated!!!!

legsieloveslamb · Oct 11th, 2009, 11:58 PM

OP- Yes, report it! Speaking from experience- it is so sad when people just sit back and when they know something is happening they don't do anything because they "do not want to get involved". So much could be prevented! I sure wish some would've stepped up for me. But I got smart and strong and got out! I sure hope your co-worker is doing ok and will be fine and GET OUT of that relationship while sending him to jail!

turboflgrl · Oct 12th, 2009, 12:29 AM

As much as my heart SCREAMS report it... part of me wouldn't. My reasoning is because in a lot of cases of domestic abuse, unless there is absolute proof, nothing can be done. What if he gets pissed off and then ends up hurting her again - or worse? THAT I could not live with myself for.

As an example, when a friend gets raped and doesn't say anything about it - should we report it? I remember a thread not too long ago about a member's friend being raped and everyone saying not to. Rape is a form of abuse that is destructive physically and emotionally - just like this.

I think that if you do anything at all, check out women's advocacy groups and see how they would like you to take action. IMO, they'll know best.

Good luck and I'll keep her in my prayers!

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Oct 9th, 2009, 11:32 PM	#20
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Oct 9th, 2009, 11:36 PM	#21
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Oct 9th, 2009, 10:57 PM	#18
babieejae1101 Banned from shopping Joined: Nov 2006 Location: The middle of the desert, AZ Posts: 1,012	I would most definitely report it! If you need anymore information on how to go about reporting it, confidentiality, etc., I would contact the domestic abuse hotline. They can help you with that.

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Oct 11th, 2009, 02:30 PM	#25
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Oct 11th, 2009, 04:02 PM	#26
JNH14 Midlife...no crisis! Joined: Nov 2006 Location: Somewhere South... Posts: 2,428	As a teacher-I am required by law to report anything I just "suspect" with my students. You need to do the same and let them know-next time she may not survive and you woldn't want that on your conscience if she did die.
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Oct 11th, 2009, 06:26 PM	#27
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Oct 11th, 2009, 11:58 PM	#29
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Oct 12th, 2009, 12:29 AM	#30
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