Does your SO suffer from SID: Sports-Induced Depression?

bellafleur · Oct 6th, 2008, 12:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Jahpson

OMG! yes!!

when his team wins he is the happiest ever. when they lose, you would have thought his best friend just died.

college football that is. and don't watch him during the games, he gets so angry and starts yelling at the screen. I always laugh inside because its so funny.

Once, Ohio State (the infamous game with USC) was losing, on commercial break he said that he wanted to be alone and walked into the closet and was in there for 5 minutes! I checked in and he wasn't crying or anything. just still. very weird

Oh how funny!! My boyfriend gets sooo angry at the tv, telling the coach what a piece of crap he is, berating the players, etc. He doesn't really swear in "real" life, but turn on a game where his team is losing, and the potty mouth comes out full force! I'm always like, "they can't hear you, honey, but the neighbors probably can!"

RowanOak · Oct 6th, 2008, 02:25 PM

Honestly, I can relate to you both. When we first got married I couldn't understand the depression when "his" team lost. Many years later, I'm more obsessed with sports than he is (depression time longer, etc.).

Maybe try getting into the game with him. Couldn't hurt. :)

candace117 · Oct 6th, 2008, 02:57 PM

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Originally Posted by bellafleur

. Which is probably why he spent most of the day yesterday comiserating with fellow Cubs fans on the sports forum he belongs to. Similar to the Purse Forum. But all about sports and video games.

what forum is this? I want to join! It sounds awesome!!!!!

Sorry, hehehehehe.....I am just like your boyfriend

I feel bad for my DH. I am not as bad as I used to be....at all...so that's good, but I can understand where he is coming from. And coming from a sports-nut-psychopath, thank you for understanding....it's hard to find people that are willing to stick it out! LOL

bellafleur · Oct 6th, 2008, 03:09 PM

Hi Candace!:) It's called Operation Sports. Please, be my guest:)

I'm willing to stick it out for sure. I just wanted some advice on what I can do to make him feel better. So far, I've heard sex, bike rides, cooking lessons, working out, going to a sporting event, becoming obsessed myself, and doing nothing. You guys are funny!:) Maybe I'll try sex first, that one sounds like the most fun...:)

Jahpson · Oct 6th, 2008, 03:23 PM

My SO also goes on a forum dedicated to the Ohio State. and he checks that religiously (doesnt help that he has an iPhone with unlimited access to the web)

sometimes it drives me crazy, because he is always on that forum. although he doesnt really respond to it.

I don't think he can be cured. We can go walk in the park etc. but if the game is on, there isn't a man or event alive that will stop him from watching.

Chamber Doll · Oct 6th, 2008, 03:45 PM

I'm a huge sports fan!!.........I do the whole fantasy football thing.........and not a day goes by where I don't watch a game........I'm ALWAYS watching sports......and all day long I listen to sports radio........and YES I get upset and cry and throw fits and get depressed when my team does bad......put on sportscenter when I wake up and before going to bed..........I have weird superstitions......blue nail polish during playoffs lol.......purple underwear on game days, etc........lol

a good or bad game can dictate my mood

sorry for your husband........I'm a HUGE Dodger fan (hehehehehehe)......I already got my tickets for the next series

when the Lakers lost horribly to the Celtics a couple months ago........I cried for days after the game.......I killed a bottle of tequila cuz I was so upset.........I wasn't talkative at all to anybody.........it HURT to see the color green.........I don't know how to describe........it just HURT!!

now when I'm upset......I just want to be left alone........it'll go away.......the good thing about being a sports fan is that there are other sports to keep you distracted.......I was really upset about my Lakers.......but then baseball started picking up and I'm excited about my Dodgers now..........and now Laker basketball is gonna start in 3 weeks and 1 day!!.......(Yes I have been counting down!!!).........so if he's upset now.......he can find comfort in another sport........there's always a sport in season.........that's what's wonderful about it all :) and sooner than later he's gonna find that baseball season will start up again

he'll be fine.......and no I think it's perfectly normal behavior for a sick obsessed sport's fan :)

Chamber Doll · Oct 6th, 2008, 03:50 PM

oh and my guy is a huge baseball fan too......and we often mess around between innings......sex and baseball together is absolute heaven!!........go to a game with him next season!!........ask him to teach you about the rules of baseball........it'll make him feel good and smart and important!!

lcterp · Oct 6th, 2008, 03:55 PM

My bf used to get really depressed when we were both in undergrad and our basketball team (Maryland terrapins) would lose. It was an annoying funk that would last a night or two and then I finally got fed up and started yelling at him, telling him it was ridiculous to be THAT upset about something you have absolutely NO control over and you can't let it run everything else around you. It may not have been the best course of action but it worked. While he still is absolutely in love with sports (notably football (american) goes in a slight funk when his teams lose (Ravens, Orioles, MD (that loss to UVA this weekend was ridiculous)) but he lets it go and moves on.

BagLadie · Oct 6th, 2008, 04:43 PM

My guy is more into sports than anyone I have ever known. But honestly he doesn't get depressed about it. He also has never put sports before me, bless his heart.

If I were you I would just try to cheer him up (think of something men really like as much as sports....need I say more?) Also, one thing I have learned not to say to a guy is..."it's just a game!" Never say that...they don't seem to get that!

Jahpson · Oct 6th, 2008, 04:45 PM

oh yeah, Ohio State won a game over the weekend and he was so excited he grabbed the nearest person near him (his 7 year old niece) picked her up, tossed her around and kissed her repeatedly on the cheeks LOL

Wish I was there at the time.

FrancescaAveiro · Oct 6th, 2008, 06:00 PM

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Originally Posted by bellafleur

OMG Francesca!! You guys are guessing all the right teams!! I thought I was trying to be sneaky and protect his identity...:) Not that he ever comes on here, but sometimes I accidentally leave tPF up on the computer screen...:) Yes, it's AC Milan. His parents are actually Italian immigrants from that area, so he and his brother and dad are waaaaay into it. I actually like watching soccer better than any other sport so far, because it's non-stop action, and it's just so difficult to score. And you know that roughly 90 minutes after a game starts, it's truly over, and you can get [him] on with your [his] day! No foolish stopping the clock for injuries, time outs, commercials, etc.:)

That must be really hard for you to be a long distance relationship. I did that once, and it just wasn't meant to be. Hopefully things work out for you two:)

And I think I'm learning that I can't "fix" everything, as sports disappointment can't be fixed. I do just need to let it be and be supportive of his sports obsession. He's actually happy for me when I come home with a new bag, so I have to offer my support!:)

hehehheehe I only figured it out since milan is one of my fave teams! "didn't make the champions league" totally gave it away lol

i'm sure he was real happy last week when they beat rivals inter. Anyways, there isn't much you can really do except what has already been mentioned in the thread. Good luck!

BagLadie · Oct 6th, 2008, 06:03 PM

Oh another piece of advice? Start getting interested in some of the sports he watches. Nothing excites a man more than to hear his woman be able to discuss a game. I can't tell you the amount of football games I have watched (his team) just to be able to understand what he is talking about and be able to chime in every now and then.

ShelleyBaby · Oct 6th, 2008, 06:12 PM

I can honestly say, it's nothing like that with men and there sports here. Sure, maybe one or two, but nothing over-the-top like you have there.
It's a sport for god sake, not a matter of life and death. I couldn't be bothered with that. Any man who takes his sports to that extreme, would be too much hard work for me. Why should you you compete with a sports team? Sad.

illinirdhd · Oct 6th, 2008, 06:48 PM

I must admit that I'm more sports-obsessed than my DH. And I, too, am a die-hard Cubs fan. For me, the blow this weekend was lessened a little bit by the Fighting Illini kicking a little Wolverine a$$ at the Big House on Saturday!

As for the Cubbies, maybe next year...

bellafleur · Oct 6th, 2008, 06:56 PM

Thanks everyone:) I actually am starting to be more interested in sports, and I always ask him questions so I can learn something. He likes to teach me about it, so that makes him happy. And last week I did accompany him to the first Cubs playoff game, which I thought was really fun until everyone around me started looking like their dog died.

So I have taken all of your advice into consideration, and I have written a guide to help all of womankind (well, the womankind who are like me and not as sports-obsessed). Here it is:

Helping Your Man Deal With SID (Sports-Induced Depression) Guide

Lesson 1: Do not tell him it's ok, because it's not.
Lesson 2: Do not try to distract him, because he won't have fun anyway.
Lesson 3: You are possibly able to distract him with brownies or sex. But only momentarily.
Lesson 4: NEVER tell him "it's just a game".
Lesson 5: Hug him, then get out of his way.
Lesson 6: Be patient and wait for SID to fade when he becomes interested in the next sport.
Lesson 7: Be prepared to repeat, unless next the sports team goes all the way!

How did I do?:) Anything to add?)

Oct 6th, 2008, 03:09 PM	#19
bellafleur Member	Hi Candace!:) It's called Operation Sports. Please, be my guest:) I'm willing to stick it out for sure. I just wanted some advice on what I can do to make him feel better. So far, I've heard sex, bike rides, cooking lessons, working out, going to a sporting event, becoming obsessed myself, and doing nothing. You guys are funny!:) Maybe I'll try sex first, that one sounds like the most fun...:) __________________ Have you signed up at www.Bonanzle.com yet?? Join us in the mass exodus from you-know-where!!

Oct 6th, 2008, 03:23 PM	#20
Jahpson Member Location: The Playground	My SO also goes on a forum dedicated to the Ohio State. and he checks that religiously (doesnt help that he has an iPhone with unlimited access to the web) sometimes it drives me crazy, because he is always on that forum. although he doesnt really respond to it. I don't think he can be cured. We can go walk in the park etc. but if the game is on, there isn't a man or event alive that will stop him from watching. __________________ Amazingly Sophisticated Happy Holidays to all my TPF friends!

Oct 6th, 2008, 03:45 PM	#21
Chamber Doll Member	I'm a huge sports fan!!.........I do the whole fantasy football thing.........and not a day goes by where I don't watch a game........I'm ALWAYS watching sports......and all day long I listen to sports radio........and YES I get upset and cry and throw fits and get depressed when my team does bad......put on sportscenter when I wake up and before going to bed..........I have weird superstitions......blue nail polish during playoffs lol.......purple underwear on game days, etc........lol a good or bad game can dictate my mood sorry for your husband........I'm a HUGE Dodger fan (hehehehehehe)......I already got my tickets for the next series when the Lakers lost horribly to the Celtics a couple months ago........I cried for days after the game.......I killed a bottle of tequila cuz I was so upset.........I wasn't talkative at all to anybody.........it HURT to see the color green.........I don't know how to describe........it just HURT!! now when I'm upset......I just want to be left alone........it'll go away.......the good thing about being a sports fan is that there are other sports to keep you distracted.......I was really upset about my Lakers.......but then baseball started picking up and I'm excited about my Dodgers now..........and now Laker basketball is gonna start in 3 weeks and 1 day!!.......(Yes I have been counting down!!!).........so if he's upset now.......he can find comfort in another sport........there's always a sport in season.........that's what's wonderful about it all :) and sooner than later he's gonna find that baseball season will start up again he'll be fine.......and no I think it's perfectly normal behavior for a sick obsessed sport's fan :) Last edited by Chamber Doll; Oct 6th, 2008 at 03:46 PM. Reason: .

Oct 6th, 2008, 03:55 PM	#23
lcterp La bella vita Location: Pittsburgh	My bf used to get really depressed when we were both in undergrad and our basketball team (Maryland terrapins) would lose. It was an annoying funk that would last a night or two and then I finally got fed up and started yelling at him, telling him it was ridiculous to be THAT upset about something you have absolutely NO control over and you can't let it run everything else around you. It may not have been the best course of action but it worked. While he still is absolutely in love with sports (notably football (american) goes in a slight funk when his teams lose (Ravens, Orioles, MD (that loss to UVA this weekend was ridiculous)) but he lets it go and moves on. __________________ Terp Grad '07 Pitt Law '10 Currently on an EVERYTHING ban!!

Oct 6th, 2008, 04:43 PM	#24
BagLadie Got a handle on it Location: Red Sox Nation	My guy is more into sports than anyone I have ever known. But honestly he doesn't get depressed about it. He also has never put sports before me, bless his heart. If I were you I would just try to cheer him up (think of something men really like as much as sports....need I say more?) Also, one thing I have learned not to say to a guy is..."it's just a game!" Never say that...they don't seem to get that! __________________ One good thing about music, when it hits you, you feel no pain. - Bob Marley

Oct 6th, 2008, 02:25 PM	#17
RowanOak Member Location: Deep South	Honestly, I can relate to you both. When we first got married I couldn't understand the depression when "his" team lost. Many years later, I'm more obsessed with sports than he is (depression time longer, etc.). Maybe try getting into the game with him. Couldn't hurt. :)

Oct 6th, 2008, 03:50 PM	#22
Chamber Doll Member	oh and my guy is a huge baseball fan too......and we often mess around between innings......sex and baseball together is absolute heaven!!........go to a game with him next season!!........ask him to teach you about the rules of baseball........it'll make him feel good and smart and important!!

Oct 6th, 2008, 04:45 PM	#25
Jahpson Member Location: The Playground	oh yeah, Ohio State won a game over the weekend and he was so excited he grabbed the nearest person near him (his 7 year old niece) picked her up, tossed her around and kissed her repeatedly on the cheeks LOL Wish I was there at the time. __________________ Amazingly Sophisticated Happy Holidays to all my TPF friends!

Oct 6th, 2008, 06:03 PM	#27
BagLadie Got a handle on it Location: Red Sox Nation	Oh another piece of advice? Start getting interested in some of the sports he watches. Nothing excites a man more than to hear his woman be able to discuss a game. I can't tell you the amount of football games I have watched (his team) just to be able to understand what he is talking about and be able to chime in every now and then. __________________ One good thing about music, when it hits you, you feel no pain. - Bob Marley

Oct 6th, 2008, 06:12 PM	#28
ShelleyBaby Member Location: Scotland	I can honestly say, it's nothing like that with men and there sports here. Sure, maybe one or two, but nothing over-the-top like you have there. It's a sport for god sake, not a matter of life and death. I couldn't be bothered with that. Any man who takes his sports to that extreme, would be too much hard work for me. Why should you you compete with a sports team? Sad.

Oct 6th, 2008, 06:48 PM	#29
illinirdhd Sofa King Hooked Location: Las Vegas, NV	I must admit that I'm more sports-obsessed than my DH. And I, too, am a die-hard Cubs fan. For me, the blow this weekend was lessened a little bit by the Fighting Illini kicking a little Wolverine a$$ at the Big House on Saturday! As for the Cubbies, maybe next year... __________________

Oct 6th, 2008, 06:56 PM	#30
bellafleur Member	Thanks everyone:) I actually am starting to be more interested in sports, and I always ask him questions so I can learn something. He likes to teach me about it, so that makes him happy. And last week I did accompany him to the first Cubs playoff game, which I thought was really fun until everyone around me started looking like their dog died. So I have taken all of your advice into consideration, and I have written a guide to help all of womankind (well, the womankind who are like me and not as sports-obsessed). Here it is: Helping Your Man Deal With SID (Sports-Induced Depression) Guide Lesson 1: Do not tell him it's ok, because it's not. Lesson 2: Do not try to distract him, because he won't have fun anyway. Lesson 3: You are possibly able to distract him with brownies or sex. But only momentarily. Lesson 4: NEVER tell him "it's just a game". Lesson 5: Hug him, then get out of his way. Lesson 6: Be patient and wait for SID to fade when he becomes interested in the next sport. Lesson 7: Be prepared to repeat, unless next the sports team goes all the way! How did I do?:) Anything to add?) __________________ Have you signed up at www.Bonanzle.com yet?? Join us in the mass exodus from you-know-where!!