Do you and your SO still have passion?

heat97 · Jul 1st, 2008, 03:22 PM

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Originally Posted by VPT

^ otherwise you won't be able to feel them.

DF and I have been together almost 5 years ( we just got engaged 3 months ago) he is such a snuggler/cuddler too!!!!! We have always had great chemistry and our sex life is still great. Every couple i think goes through a dry spell when work/life is stressful. I think its so important to make sure you have date nights where you just completely enjoy time together with no distractions. Also, my hunny travels every 3 months or so at a time for about two weeks, when he comes back though, i barely let him walk in the door before I jump his bones.

Schmodi · Jul 1st, 2008, 03:55 PM

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Originally Posted by heat97

Also, my hunny travels every 3 months or so at a time for about two weeks, when he comes back though, i barely let him walk in the door before I jump his bones.

Yeah my bf went away for a long weekend (which I was looking forward to having some time alone) after 2 nights I missed him. 2 weeks-I might want to jump his bones. Oh maybe he'll go on a business trip soon.

I think part of the problem is my sex drive is always very low. I can tell now at my age it's starting to perk up a bit, but man is it slow. I'm jealous of all of you with great sex drives!

guccimamma · Jul 1st, 2008, 04:01 PM

a couple times a week we do. not like it was when i was 21, but different...we have so many things that keep us together, that is just one part of it.

i'd relate it to our fico score, excellent in many areas!

windycityaj · Jul 1st, 2008, 11:55 PM

Well, everyday life, kids, stress and lots of extended family "drama" get in the way, but we are pretty equal on the passion scale....even after almost 14 years. I'm embarrassed to even talk about an spontaneous moment that happened while we were out shopping on Sunday.......

LOL!!

Anne

stellamaried · Jul 2nd, 2008, 12:58 AM

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Originally Posted by Schmodi

I think part of the problem is my sex drive is always very low. I can tell now at my age it's starting to perk up a bit, but man is it slow. I'm jealous of all of you with great sex drives!

Are you on any medication? Some drugs can interfere with your libido. If you haven't always felt that way, it may be worth seeing a doctor.

Schmodi · Jul 2nd, 2008, 01:03 AM

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Originally Posted by stellamaried

Are you on any medication? Some drugs can interfere with your libido. If you haven't always felt that way, it may be worth seeing a doctor.

I've been using birth control for years, but my libido has always been on the low side.

QueenOfDa702 · Jul 2nd, 2008, 08:17 AM

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Originally Posted by VPT

^ otherwise you won't be able to feel them.

omg lmfao

xoxomandylyn · Jul 2nd, 2008, 11:53 AM

You can have both! Trust me!
My fiance and I have been very best friends for almost four years now.
And we are still absolutely crazy about each other, without getting too graphic here haha. Our love life hasn't dwindled whatsoever, I don't think it will.
Lots of times couples get stuck in ruts and end up with too many other responsibilities so then when the day is finally over, both are simply too wiped out to even try to kindle romance. I see many older married couples around me who seem to lack passion completely and be simply "roommates" but then I see those few who are married for 50 years and still steal smiles and giggles at each other and still hold hands. We will be one of those couples, and you can too! Just discover what makes the both of you happy, figure out a way to limit other responsibilities, and work at it. =)

xoxomandylyn · Jul 2nd, 2008, 11:55 AM

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Originally Posted by galligator

Been with my hubby 19 years, married almost 17 of those. Hot crazy passion comes & goes. Life throws things at you. Part of growing with someone involves a deepening intimacy in a relationship that is more than the physical excitement of a younger relationship. And believe me, passion is more than just excitement & intimacy. My hubby said it this way - when he was younger he thought he couldn't live without me; now he knows he can't. We may seem mellow much of the time, but just because it doesn't always look like fireworks to passersby doesn't mean that passion isn't there.

Very well said!

There are many kinds of passion and love and the best kind is a deep contentment that doesn't need sex 5 times a day anymore.

lunatwinkle · Jul 2nd, 2008, 03:51 PM

BF and I have been together for 3 1/2 years and our passion is just as hot as day #1! I'll admit, we both have very high sex drives. We need it at least a couple times a week.

I don't see us going through "dry spells," but I also know to never say never.

Jul 1st, 2008, 11:55 PM	#64
windycityaj Member Location: Chicago, IL	Well, everyday life, kids, stress and lots of extended family "drama" get in the way, but we are pretty equal on the passion scale....even after almost 14 years. I'm embarrassed to even talk about an spontaneous moment that happened while we were out shopping on Sunday....... LOL!! Anne __________________ Purse ban is officially over!!! My wishlist..... Black Blondie flap......It's here!!!! 4/8/2008 Chanel Cambon Tote w/accessories YSL black Mombasa (snagged a Vincennes bag)...it's here!! 6/16/08 Black Coach "Mandy" So many bags...so little time (and money)!!!

Jul 2nd, 2008, 11:53 AM	#68
xoxomandylyn Back and MARRIED! :) Location: Pennsylvania	You can have both! Trust me! My fiance and I have been very best friends for almost four years now. And we are still absolutely crazy about each other, without getting too graphic here haha. Our love life hasn't dwindled whatsoever, I don't think it will. Lots of times couples get stuck in ruts and end up with too many other responsibilities so then when the day is finally over, both are simply too wiped out to even try to kindle romance. I see many older married couples around me who seem to lack passion completely and be simply "roommates" but then I see those few who are married for 50 years and still steal smiles and giggles at each other and still hold hands. We will be one of those couples, and you can too! Just discover what makes the both of you happy, figure out a way to limit other responsibilities, and work at it. =) __________________ i w i s h i w i s h i w i s h . . . * RM Nikki - Glazed Espresso * RM MAM - Ruby * RM Mini Nikki - Ruby * * RM Mini Nikki - Cobalt * RM Nikki - Kelly Green * RM MAM - Berry *

Jul 2nd, 2008, 03:51 PM	#70
lunatwinkle RM SF SS 12/12 & 13! Location: SF Bay Area, California	BF and I have been together for 3 1/2 years and our passion is just as hot as day #1! I'll admit, we both have very high sex drives. We need it at least a couple times a week. I don't see us going through "dry spells," but I also know to never say never. __________________ COME MEET MISS DUSTY!!! And the rest of the family here! Click on my profile to view my small but well-loved handbag collection!

Jul 1st, 2008, 04:01 PM	#63
guccimamma guccimamma	a couple times a week we do. not like it was when i was 21, but different...we have so many things that keep us together, that is just one part of it. i'd relate it to our fico score, excellent in many areas!