Do you and your SO still have passion?

oo0ehxtahcee0oo · Jun 28th, 2008, 07:31 AM

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Originally Posted by bagnshoofetish

17 years later and we are still all over each other.

Get out your barf bags ladies - he LOVES to cuddle.

haha, just a few minutes ago DF and I were both doing our own things and he looks over at me and asks if he can have two minutes of cuddle time. Haha. He needed a quick cuddle fix. Hehee. It's cute, he knows he never has to ask!! I'm always willing to cuddle no matter how tired I am!!

nataliam1976 · Jun 28th, 2008, 07:36 AM

do we PF ladies attract the biggest cuddlers in the world? MY SO can live without sex for long, especially when stressed, but if he doesnt get his cuddle fix daily, he is impossible

chessmont · Jun 28th, 2008, 07:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Schmodi

We're exactly the same. We met back in 2004 and became inseparable. The SO before him though was pure sexual chemistry (although after an engagement found out he was narcissistic and cheating on me left and right).

I have so many great things with my current SO that I've never had with anyone, we're definitely a team, but sometimes I feel sad we don't have that passion either.

- I am in the same situation as the first few posters. I love my DH to death, but I do not feel anywhere near the chemistry I had with two previous SO's. I also sometimes wonder if it was that we had so much sex before married (lived together on and off for 10 years), we were out of the honeymoon phase by the time we married.

WE have been married 20 years. I use to think I was very odd, and something wrong with me, but interestingly, both of my girlfriends and myself) who are over 50, have said we could care less if we never had sex again. We all 3 love our DH's dearly.

None of have kids, but we all have stressful lives for various different reasons. So we don't have the kids = tired excuse.

Y'all probably think we are nuts.

mjlover1977 · Jun 28th, 2008, 11:54 PM

yep - but this is the first time ... my other boyfriends, after 6 months i was like 'dont touch me'. sex was a chore. but not with my current boy ... 3 and half years later its alllll good.

bagnshoofetish · Jun 29th, 2008, 12:07 AM

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Originally Posted by oo0ehxtahcee0oo

haha, just a few minutes ago DF and I were both doing our own things and he looks over at me and asks if he can have two minutes of cuddle time. Haha. He needed a quick cuddle fix. Hehee. It's cute, he knows he never has to ask!! I'm always willing to cuddle no matter how tired I am!!

we can't help it if we are so hugable!

ImASadGiraffe · Jun 29th, 2008, 10:14 PM

I find that the passion comes and goes - I've been with my DH for 5 years, married for little over 1 year. Stress is a killer. I am one of those people that could not have sex for months and be fine, I just need my little hugs and kisses. DH needs sex at least every few days or he starts complaining. I find I just have to do it and I always enjoy myself, but I don't always initiate, kwim?

Rule of thumb, give the guy what he wants once in a while and you won't have nearly as much drama (and will probably get what you want more often).

angel143 · Jun 29th, 2008, 10:27 PM

ahhh.. the honeymoon stage.
I've been with the SO for a year and a half now, he's the first long-term bf i've had and we are already in that stage. I think it's nice that we dont have to put up fronts, and dress to the max all the time. There are times when I do miss the passion, but I find that it shows up every once in awhile still, usually on special occassions.

maddog · Jun 30th, 2008, 01:10 AM

I haven't been with my bf for years yet, but we've fallen into a routine anyway. I wouldn't say there's no passion or sexual chemistry, there certainly are lots, but how things proceed have been pretty routine. I mean, the insertion really goes in one of two ways, forward or backward. I should learn to be more inventive, but what else can you do, you can set different things up but it still ends up being one of those two ways. Am I being too jaded? lol.

Nonetheless, I think when you go on your honeymoon, while you won't be sexing up all day long, you'll still have more passion than at home. It's easier to let loose when you're not the ones changing the sheets.

I personally don't understand when people go on their honeymoon and stay in the hotel the whole time, you can do that for cheaper in your own city!

cristalena56 · Jun 30th, 2008, 03:15 AM

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Originally Posted by abbygirl

Walk into his home office naked. That has to work. What man can turn down a naked woman standing right in front of him?

Unless he is blind.

my husband

i always have the passion and him well not so much... i want it more then he does

though it was the opposite when we first got married... and my dh hates to cuddle.. after 5 minutes, he is like "ok thats enough! i dont hold people.."

Sternchen · Jun 30th, 2008, 03:17 AM

DH and I are not lovey-dovey-all over eachother ALL the time, but we do have our times when we are romantic with eachother. I think stress gets the best of both of us sometimes and we're just too freaking tired for sex, but we do try and be intimate with eachother while watching TV (cuddling) or while we're out and about together (holding hands and such).

Sternchen · Jun 30th, 2008, 03:18 AM

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Originally Posted by nataliam1976

do we PF ladies attract the biggest cuddlers in the world? MY SO can live without sex for long, especially when stressed, but if he doesnt get his cuddle fix daily, he is impossible

Same with mine!! We have sex relatively often, but we do have our "dry spells" where neither of us really want / need it, LOL. But if he doesn't get some cuddle time he becomes whiney!!

Zophie · Jun 30th, 2008, 03:54 AM

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Originally Posted by mjlover1977

yep - but this is the first time ... my other boyfriends, after 6 months i was like 'dont touch me'. sex was a chore. but not with my current boy ... 3 and half years later its alllll good.

yeah, I think it takes finding the right person. I've gotten to that "don't touch me" point very quickly with everyone I've been with except for one. we didn't stay together long though, but I don't think it would have changed. It's hard to explain, but the difference was that I just loved the feel of being next to him and didn't have to be in the mood to want him near me. I just loved him and loved being close to him.

carvedwords · Jun 30th, 2008, 03:57 AM

My boyfriend and I are nearing the 3 year mark and I feel we have lost the passion we had in the beginning of the relationship. We used to love to cuddle all the time, be all romantic and now.. it's SO different. We're going away on a Vegas trip next month to try and find the spark in our relationship again. Don't get me wrong, we love each other more than ever now, but the spark has changed.

Schmodi · Jun 30th, 2008, 04:47 AM

Ok so I'm glad to hear I'm not going crazy. My cousin and I just had this conversation she said "it's a sick joke that a woman's libido speeds up and men's goes down".

My bf is under huge stress the last year...hopefully once that mellows things will get back to normal.

VPT · Jun 30th, 2008, 04:56 AM

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Originally Posted by maddog

I mean, the insertion really goes in one of two ways, forward or backward.

I need mental floss..

Jun 28th, 2008, 07:36 AM	#32
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Jun 28th, 2008, 11:54 PM	#34
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Jun 29th, 2008, 10:14 PM	#36
ImASadGiraffe Relax... Location: IL	I find that the passion comes and goes - I've been with my DH for 5 years, married for little over 1 year. Stress is a killer. I am one of those people that could not have sex for months and be fine, I just need my little hugs and kisses. DH needs sex at least every few days or he starts complaining. I find I just have to do it and I always enjoy myself, but I don't always initiate, kwim? Rule of thumb, give the guy what he wants once in a while and you won't have nearly as much drama (and will probably get what you want more often). __________________

Jun 30th, 2008, 03:17 AM	#40
Sternchen We're having a boy!! Location: Beauty RAOK	DH and I are not lovey-dovey-all over eachother ALL the time, but we do have our times when we are romantic with eachother. I think stress gets the best of both of us sometimes and we're just too freaking tired for sex, but we do try and be intimate with eachother while watching TV (cuddling) or while we're out and about together (holding hands and such). __________________ My 2 wonderful girls, Nicole (5) and Julia (1) will be big sisters soon! My pregnancy blog

Jun 30th, 2008, 03:57 AM	#43
carvedwords ♥ Location: beautiful Southern California!	My boyfriend and I are nearing the 3 year mark and I feel we have lost the passion we had in the beginning of the relationship. We used to love to cuddle all the time, be all romantic and now.. it's SO different. We're going away on a Vegas trip next month to try and find the spark in our relationship again. Don't get me wrong, we love each other more than ever now, but the spark has changed. __________________ WISHLIST: ... LV Galliera GM ... LV Nimbus Anthracite GM LOOKING FOR A LV TISSE BELT!! PLEASE PM IF YOU SEE ONE!

Jun 29th, 2008, 10:27 PM	#37
angel143 Member	ahhh.. the honeymoon stage. I've been with the SO for a year and a half now, he's the first long-term bf i've had and we are already in that stage. I think it's nice that we dont have to put up fronts, and dress to the max all the time. There are times when I do miss the passion, but I find that it shows up every once in awhile still, usually on special occassions.

Jun 30th, 2008, 01:10 AM	#38
maddog Mmmkay	I haven't been with my bf for years yet, but we've fallen into a routine anyway. I wouldn't say there's no passion or sexual chemistry, there certainly are lots, but how things proceed have been pretty routine. I mean, the insertion really goes in one of two ways, forward or backward. I should learn to be more inventive, but what else can you do, you can set different things up but it still ends up being one of those two ways. Am I being too jaded? lol. Nonetheless, I think when you go on your honeymoon, while you won't be sexing up all day long, you'll still have more passion than at home. It's easier to let loose when you're not the ones changing the sheets. I personally don't understand when people go on their honeymoon and stay in the hotel the whole time, you can do that for cheaper in your own city!

Jun 30th, 2008, 04:47 AM	#44
Schmodi Member	Ok so I'm glad to hear I'm not going crazy. My cousin and I just had this conversation she said "it's a sick joke that a woman's libido speeds up and men's goes down". My bf is under huge stress the last year...hopefully once that mellows things will get back to normal. __________________