Do you and your SO still have passion?

bagnshoofetish · Jun 27th, 2008, 11:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Schmodi

Which I've tried and I get told "I'm in the middle of something" or "I'm not in the mood"!!! He works at home and has been really stressed the last year so he works round the clock outside on his computer.

stress is a sex killer. he's gonna have to make time to get away from the computer. remind him that too much stress is also not healthy for his heart. maybe pick one day out of the week to excercise together. physical exertion and getting into shape can be an aphrodisiac. got to kick start that libido. being sedentary will not do it for either of you. he needs to eliminate the stress, that is number one though. but don't nag him about it either. you'll only add to his stress. maybe when he is done at the end of the evening, give him a nice massage but don't expect it to turn into anything. Ask him for one when he isn't busy. eventually all this touching will lead to something unless you both are dead. if he still isn't into it, you need to talk to him and ask him what he thinks the solution is. anything you guys can do to make each other relax is really important.

abbygirl · Jun 28th, 2008, 12:04 AM

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Originally Posted by Schmodi

Which I've tried and I get told "I'm in the middle of something" or "I'm not in the mood"!!! He works at home and has been really stressed the last year so he works round the clock outside on his computer.

Walk into his home office naked. That has to work. What man can turn down a naked woman standing right in front of him?

Unless he is blind.

Irishgal · Jun 28th, 2008, 12:15 AM

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Originally Posted by bagnshoofetish

17 years later and we are still all over each other.

Get out your barf bags ladies - he LOVES to cuddle.

bagnshoofetish · Jun 28th, 2008, 12:16 AM

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Originally Posted by Irishgal

merika · Jun 28th, 2008, 12:18 AM

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Originally Posted by abbygirl

Walk into his home office naked. That has to work. What man can turn down a naked woman standing right in front of him?

Unless he is blind.

Or he asks you: "Are you looking for the towels? I did do the laundry!"

bagnshoofetish · Jun 28th, 2008, 12:21 AM

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Originally Posted by merika

Or he asks you: "Are you looking for the towels? I did do the laundry!"

I would have to check his pulse at that point. Or check his computer to see if he's been surfing gay porn...

nooch · Jun 28th, 2008, 12:28 AM

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Originally Posted by merika

Or he asks you: "Are you looking for the towels? I did do the laundry!"

rofl! been there, done that, have the t shirt!

caitlin1214 · Jun 28th, 2008, 12:28 AM

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Originally Posted by bagnshoofetish

*does little dance*

Nausea
Heartburn
Indigestion
Upset stomach
Diarrhea!

abbygirl · Jun 28th, 2008, 12:34 AM

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Originally Posted by merika

Or he asks you: "Are you looking for the towels? I did do the laundry!"

I would then walk outside naked and yell, I need SEXXXXX.

I'm with shoo, he has got to be surfing for gay dudes.

Sex is a great stress reliever, and you may even get some excercise and burn calories at the same time. Better than pills any day.

HauteMama · Jun 28th, 2008, 12:34 AM

I lived with dh before we were married, too, and we kind of fell into a routine. But after the wedding... I can't say our lives totally changed or anything, but the passion/sexual chemistry was totally on high for the honeymoon. The wedding reminded both of us how much we meant to each other, and it just put everything into high gear for a while.

We've been married for 11 years now and the passion waxes and wanes, just like most relationships, I imagine. It is hard to stay in passionate high gear all day, every day when there are children and school and jobs and home improvements going on. But it always comes back!

HauteMama · Jun 28th, 2008, 12:36 AM

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Originally Posted by bagnshoofetish

I would have to check his pulse at that point. Or check his computer to see if he's been surfing gay porn...

Lululovebags · Jun 28th, 2008, 02:08 AM

i still worry though, about the passion and all..7 years and not married is a long time and we will be staying together soon-ish..sometimes i guess being in a comfort zone is being in a danger zone. that we are so used to each other's ways and then nothing else will spark the chemistry that we once have for each other..

Nymph · Jun 28th, 2008, 02:17 AM

I've been with the bf for 7.5 years now, and while it's mostly just comfortable and loving, I still get the butterflies in the stomach, and "omg I have to jump you NOW" phases from time to time. And it's fun to relive that passion all over again while being in a stable relationship

lolitakali · Jun 28th, 2008, 03:54 AM

Yes, I can say 110 % plus on my part & I don't care if he'd match me....

I still love to just stare & observe him like tomorrow will be the day I go blind...

For him, its like we have the rest of our life together... but for me, tomorrow might be our last....

And yes, I do love him more... but I don't mind.

KristyDarling · Jun 28th, 2008, 04:31 AM

We've been together for almost 11 years, and married for almost 7. I love my husband to bits. But, the passion is hanging on by a thread. There is *extreme* stress in our household right now, and there has been for about a year. And before that, there was the daily stress around having two very demanding babies-->toddlers-->preschoolers that are close in age. We love each other dearly, but both of us have been so preoccupied with big life stressors that we're just barely able to keep our sanity and function effectively as parents!

BUT, we know we'll weather this storm and things WILL look up....one way or another. So in the meantime, we've put our passion for each other on the backburner. Yup, unfortunate, but right now it's more about just getting through this rough phase in one piece!!

Jun 28th, 2008, 02:08 AM	#27
Lululovebags Member Location: Earth	i still worry though, about the passion and all..7 years and not married is a long time and we will be staying together soon-ish..sometimes i guess being in a comfort zone is being in a danger zone. that we are so used to each other's ways and then nothing else will spark the chemistry that we once have for each other.. __________________ "keep your head up high. there are ppl that would kill to see you fall".

Jun 28th, 2008, 02:17 AM	#28
Nymph Black WE please! Location: Singapore	I've been with the bf for 7.5 years now, and while it's mostly just comfortable and loving, I still get the butterflies in the stomach, and "omg I have to jump you NOW" phases from time to time. And it's fun to relive that passion all over again while being in a stable relationship __________________ "If women didn't exist, all the money in the world would have no meaning"

Jun 28th, 2008, 03:54 AM	#29
lolitakali Mira Location: Maryland	Yes, I can say 110 % plus on my part & I don't care if he'd match me.... I still love to just stare & observe him like tomorrow will be the day I go blind... For him, its like we have the rest of our life together... but for me, tomorrow might be our last.... And yes, I do love him more... but I don't mind. __________________ *Best way to diet is to eat what you hate, not eat what you love.* *$$$$$ / GOLD = "my precious".* -ME to be a dragon hoarding gold-

Jun 28th, 2008, 04:31 AM	#30
KristyDarling Member	We've been together for almost 11 years, and married for almost 7. I love my husband to bits. But, the passion is hanging on by a thread. There is extreme stress in our household right now, and there has been for about a year. And before that, there was the daily stress around having two very demanding babies-->toddlers-->preschoolers that are close in age. We love each other dearly, but both of us have been so preoccupied with big life stressors that we're just barely able to keep our sanity and function effectively as parents! BUT, we know we'll weather this storm and things WILL look up....one way or another. So in the meantime, we've put our passion for each other on the backburner. Yup, unfortunate, but right now it's more about just getting through this rough phase in one piece!! Last edited by KristyDarling; Jun 28th, 2008 at 04:37 AM.

Jun 28th, 2008, 12:34 AM	#25
HauteMama Member	I lived with dh before we were married, too, and we kind of fell into a routine. But after the wedding... I can't say our lives totally changed or anything, but the passion/sexual chemistry was totally on high for the honeymoon. The wedding reminded both of us how much we meant to each other, and it just put everything into high gear for a while. We've been married for 11 years now and the passion waxes and wanes, just like most relationships, I imagine. It is hard to stay in passionate high gear all day, every day when there are children and school and jobs and home improvements going on. But it always comes back!