Do I cut my losses or keep trying??? (Advice needed)

maddog · Jul 1st, 2008, 10:37 PM

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Originally Posted by SimplyMe

If you're confirmed and ready to kick his ass out, then this is what I would suggest you doing. First, plan things out and act cool. Pretend like you don't know what's happening (I know..it'll be hard!). Then sweet talk him into selling the car because I'm assuming it's under his name. Remember YOU KEEP THE CASH! He has intentions of selling it and keeping it as HIS, no way! Tell him you plan to "upgrade" to a better car so you'd need to sell this one first. Then I would take about marriage. If he can pretend, so can you. Tell him marriage requires a lot of money and you're better at planning. Come up with a number that you think is reasonable (the debt that he owes you) and say it's what he should contribute and you'll contribute the other half. If he does fall into the trap, take the money and kick him out of the house immediately! Tell him who's playing who.

Wow! This is good thinking! I wish my thought process works this well.

OP, just do this! You'll feel so much happier when you get back what was really yours! Your heart will heal with time, but now's your chance to take it all back. It's not love anymore, it's now just a game to see who wins, and you have so many more moves than him at the moment.

angel143 · Jul 2nd, 2008, 03:44 AM

The way that he's acting suggests a really selfish, self-absorbed man. He doesn't feel guilt when he lies to you to your face and just accepts all these nice things you do for him. It's time to get rid of the excess baggage. You do not deserve to be used like this, and although confronting him may mean that he takes off, you can afford it. Although it might be a stretch, you have to take care of yourself first, because he clearly is only looking out for himself.

barcreperie · Jul 2nd, 2008, 08:00 AM

Ack! When I hear of one person taking advantage of another person the way your boyfriend is using you, it makes my blood boil. I know it seems daunting because breaking up with him means you have to take a new life path without him, but in this case, you are definitely better off without him.

If I was in that situation, I'd rip the bandaid off quickly and get him out FAST, regardless of the financial burden it put me under. Even though it probably doesn't seem like this now, you will find a new life path more quickly than you anticipate, and you will be SO much happier without this abuser in your life.

I agree with the other - KICK HIM TO THE CURB!!!!

Allisonfaye · Jul 2nd, 2008, 09:29 AM

I stopped reading when you said 'he is a notorious liar'. This is a no brainer. Dump him. You can do better.

guccimamma · Jul 2nd, 2008, 03:22 PM

think how wonderful it will feel to come home to a clean home (YOUR home!!!) without his liar butt sitting on your sofa.

dump that useless dog, no matter how cute he may be.

simseema17 · Jul 2nd, 2008, 03:42 PM

Like others have stated, get out now! Get back what you can first, then just get out...it's not worth even spending another second trying to negotiate w/him, so take what you can and leave (so yes, cut your losses, learn a big lesson), but the most important thing to do is leave asap

It will not be easy because you're emotions are involved, but you have to put yourself first! I'm sorry that you're in this situation, so just learn from this and move on. Good luck and keep us posted with how things go. Dump his a@@, we're all here supporting you!

Jul 2nd, 2008, 09:29 AM	#34
Allisonfaye Member	I stopped reading when you said 'he is a notorious liar'. This is a no brainer. Dump him. You can do better. __________________ Ink City, tomato first, white first, violet first, black flat brass first, rouge vif city, white city.

Jul 2nd, 2008, 03:44 AM	#32
angel143 Member	The way that he's acting suggests a really selfish, self-absorbed man. He doesn't feel guilt when he lies to you to your face and just accepts all these nice things you do for him. It's time to get rid of the excess baggage. You do not deserve to be used like this, and although confronting him may mean that he takes off, you can afford it. Although it might be a stretch, you have to take care of yourself first, because he clearly is only looking out for himself.

Jul 2nd, 2008, 08:00 AM	#33
barcreperie Member	Ack! When I hear of one person taking advantage of another person the way your boyfriend is using you, it makes my blood boil. I know it seems daunting because breaking up with him means you have to take a new life path without him, but in this case, you are definitely better off without him. If I was in that situation, I'd rip the bandaid off quickly and get him out FAST, regardless of the financial burden it put me under. Even though it probably doesn't seem like this now, you will find a new life path more quickly than you anticipate, and you will be SO much happier without this abuser in your life. I agree with the other - KICK HIM TO THE CURB!!!!

Jul 2nd, 2008, 03:22 PM	#35
guccimamma guccimamma	think how wonderful it will feel to come home to a clean home (YOUR home!!!) without his liar butt sitting on your sofa. dump that useless dog, no matter how cute he may be.

Jul 2nd, 2008, 03:42 PM	#36
simseema17 Homo sapien Location: NY	Like others have stated, get out now! Get back what you can first, then just get out...it's not worth even spending another second trying to negotiate w/him, so take what you can and leave (so yes, cut your losses, learn a big lesson), but the most important thing to do is leave asap It will not be easy because you're emotions are involved, but you have to put yourself first! I'm sorry that you're in this situation, so just learn from this and move on. Good luck and keep us posted with how things go. Dump his a@@, we're all here supporting you!