Diamond necklace down the drain ='(

SimplyMe · Dec 18th, 2007, 12:27 PM

I got into a heated argument with my boyfriend and I threw the diamond necklace he gave me at him. I took it off already and I had it in my hands. He got up to get ready for work and he took the necklace with him to the bathroom. He flushed it down the toilet! Omg..I'm so sad =(. That was his first gift to me. It happened just earlier today and we're still not talking. Should I apologize first because I feel like I went over the line for throwing it at him..but although it was from him..now it's mine! He took it and dumped it. Should I be mad?!

Not to mention that's the ONLY gift he has ever given to me.

Jahpson · Dec 18th, 2007, 12:29 PM

dont worry about the necklace, it might show up days later. that happened with a ring of mine.

next time, try not to use objects to express your anger. I learned that its better to walk away and get some air.

you should apologize for throwing the necklace at him

Swanky Mama Of Three · Dec 18th, 2007, 12:33 PM

JMO but you shouldn't have thrown it. . . you showed him you didn't have any regards for it or it's sentimental value by doing that.
I'd apologize for that, even if you're still mad at whatever caused you to do it.

sred2 · Dec 18th, 2007, 12:35 PM

You should apologize for throwing the necklace at him... but I think you should expect an apology in return for him flushing it...

I'm sorry you guys are still not talking

... hopefully if you apologize it'll go from there and you can work/talk things out. best of luck!!

rubylola · Dec 18th, 2007, 12:38 PM

Did he definitely flush it? Or maybe put it in his pocket and pretend to flush it?

itsnicole · Dec 18th, 2007, 12:40 PM

I think you should definitely apologize for throwing the necklace at him. It is possible that he didn't really flush it, you never know. I hope everything works out.

paintednightsky · Dec 18th, 2007, 01:04 PM

Yeah apologize. Hopefully it'll turn up.

By throwing it at him, you definitely showed him you didn't care about his gift or him for that matter. I'd be mad to if someone threw a present at me.

gtomad · Dec 18th, 2007, 01:36 PM

ITA with other posts on here - the first thing to do would be to apologise but also think that he may not have flushed the necklace down the toilet just pretended to - to see your reaction.

kristie · Dec 18th, 2007, 02:24 PM

Yep, ITA about apologizing to him for throwing the necklace and it is highly possible that he did not really flush it.......although my ex husband was a complete a$$hole and he would have flushed it for real...so who knows. I hope you guys get it worked out

babypebblezz · Dec 18th, 2007, 04:13 PM

People do and say stupid things when we're mad so I don't blame you for throwing the necklace at him. If you started the argument then maybe you should apologize and he should also apologize for flushing the necklace. I'll be really angry if I was in your shoes.

sarahcantiik · Dec 18th, 2007, 04:36 PM

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Originally Posted by babypebblezz

People do and say stupid things when we're mad so I don't blame you for throwing the necklace at him. If you started the argument then maybe you should apologize and he should also apologize for flushing the necklace. I'll be really angry if I was in your shoes.

ITA!

lorihmatthews · Dec 18th, 2007, 04:58 PM

Sorry about the fight. In my opinion, it is NEVER appropriate to throw anything, whether at the other person, across the room, etc. It shows a lack of self-control. So yes, definitely apologize.

Allisonfaye · Dec 18th, 2007, 05:51 PM

Sounds to me like you both have some issues with maturity. I guess it would be nice if you were the bigger person and apologized first.

MyLuckyCharm · Dec 18th, 2007, 05:53 PM

Not to follow the trend, but I'm finding myself agreeing to everyone's else's sentiment: just do it; swallow your pride and apologize for throwing the necklace at him because that was the straw that broke the camel's back and insinuated him to flush it anyways. I know that you probably didn't mean it, and I can COMPLETELY sympathize with you because angers consumes ALL of us at times, though I couldn't judge your situation because we don't know what you were initially upset about in the first place.

Throwing the necklace was symbolic because it showed your disreguard for the sentimental value behind a gift that he gave you that expressed his love for you. Give him some time to cool down, and when he's blown off enough steam [and you too], calmly approach him about it and tell him you're sorry. He should give you an apology in return as well, for flushing it down the toilet. That was an impulsive thing to do, and he should have controlled his anger better.

I hope you guys resolve your problems soon! ♥

cammy1 · Dec 18th, 2007, 06:00 PM

i would sy sorry and i hope you two sort it out

Dec 18th, 2007, 12:27 PM	#1
SimplyMe Racing With You. Location: Very foggy!	Diamond necklace down the drain ='( I got into a heated argument with my boyfriend and I threw the diamond necklace he gave me at him. I took it off already and I had it in my hands. He got up to get ready for work and he took the necklace with him to the bathroom. He flushed it down the toilet! Omg..I'm so sad =(. That was his first gift to me. It happened just earlier today and we're still not talking. Should I apologize first because I feel like I went over the line for throwing it at him..but although it was from him..now it's mine! He took it and dumped it. Should I be mad?! Not to mention that's the ONLY gift he has ever given to me. Last edited by SimplyMe; Dec 18th, 2007 at 12:29 PM. Reason: grammar

Dec 18th, 2007, 12:29 PM	#2
Jahpson Member Location: The Playground	Re: Diamond necklace down the drain ='( dont worry about the necklace, it might show up days later. that happened with a ring of mine. next time, try not to use objects to express your anger. I learned that its better to walk away and get some air. you should apologize for throwing the necklace at him __________________ Amazingly Sophisticated Happy Holidays to all my TPF friends!

Dec 18th, 2007, 12:33 PM	#3
Swanky Mama Of Three Location: Dallas Area	Re: Diamond necklace down the drain ='( JMO but you shouldn't have thrown it. . . you showed him you didn't have any regards for it or it's sentimental value by doing that. I'd apologize for that, even if you're still mad at whatever caused you to do it. __________________ Holy inappropriateness!!! - a la Bethenny

Dec 18th, 2007, 12:35 PM	#4
sred2 Member Location: Seattle <3	Re: Diamond necklace down the drain ='( You should apologize for throwing the necklace at him... but I think you should expect an apology in return for him flushing it... I'm sorry you guys are still not talking ... hopefully if you apologize it'll go from there and you can work/talk things out. best of luck!! __________________

Dec 18th, 2007, 12:38 PM	#5
rubylola Member	Re: Diamond necklace down the drain ='( Did he definitely flush it? Or maybe put it in his pocket and pretend to flush it?

Dec 18th, 2007, 12:40 PM	#6
itsnicole Member Location: Miami, FL	Re: Diamond necklace down the drain ='( I think you should definitely apologize for throwing the necklace at him. It is possible that he didn't really flush it, you never know. I hope everything works out.

Dec 18th, 2007, 01:04 PM	#7
paintednightsky Member	Re: Diamond necklace down the drain ='( Yeah apologize. Hopefully it'll turn up. By throwing it at him, you definitely showed him you didn't care about his gift or him for that matter. I'd be mad to if someone threw a present at me.

Dec 18th, 2007, 01:36 PM	#8
gtomad Member	Re: Diamond necklace down the drain ='( ITA with other posts on here - the first thing to do would be to apologise but also think that he may not have flushed the necklace down the toilet just pretended to - to see your reaction.

Dec 18th, 2007, 02:24 PM	#9
kristie "H" is for horses?	Re: Diamond necklace down the drain ='( Yep, ITA about apologizing to him for throwing the necklace and it is highly possible that he did not really flush it.......although my ex husband was a complete a$$hole and he would have flushed it for real...so who knows. I hope you guys get it worked out __________________ Uh oh...I think I may be more in danger of buying a Hermes saddle than a Birkin.......

Dec 18th, 2007, 04:13 PM	#10
babypebblezz Member Location: NYC	Re: Diamond necklace down the drain ='( People do and say stupid things when we're mad so I don't blame you for throwing the necklace at him. If you started the argument then maybe you should apologize and he should also apologize for flushing the necklace. I'll be really angry if I was in your shoes.

Dec 18th, 2007, 04:58 PM	#12
lorihmatthews Persian Love Location: San Francisco	Re: Diamond necklace down the drain ='( Sorry about the fight. In my opinion, it is NEVER appropriate to throw anything, whether at the other person, across the room, etc. It shows a lack of self-control. So yes, definitely apologize.

Dec 18th, 2007, 05:51 PM	#13
Allisonfaye Member	Re: Diamond necklace down the drain ='( Sounds to me like you both have some issues with maturity. I guess it would be nice if you were the bigger person and apologized first. __________________ Ink City, tomato first, white first, violet first, black flat brass first, rouge vif city, white city. Last edited by Allisonfaye; Dec 18th, 2007 at 05:51 PM. Reason: Just noticed that this was my 1000th post.

Dec 18th, 2007, 05:53 PM	#14
MyLuckyCharm Daydreamer	Re: Diamond necklace down the drain ='( Not to follow the trend, but I'm finding myself agreeing to everyone's else's sentiment: just do it; swallow your pride and apologize for throwing the necklace at him because that was the straw that broke the camel's back and insinuated him to flush it anyways. I know that you probably didn't mean it, and I can COMPLETELY sympathize with you because angers consumes ALL of us at times, though I couldn't judge your situation because we don't know what you were initially upset about in the first place. Throwing the necklace was symbolic because it showed your disreguard for the sentimental value behind a gift that he gave you that expressed his love for you. Give him some time to cool down, and when he's blown off enough steam [and you too], calmly approach him about it and tell him you're sorry. He should give you an apology in return as well, for flushing it down the toilet. That was an impulsive thing to do, and he should have controlled his anger better. I hope you guys resolve your problems soon! ♥

Dec 18th, 2007, 06:00 PM	#15
cammy1 Member	Re: Diamond necklace down the drain ='( i would sy sorry and i hope you two sort it out