DH Traveling for Work

candy2100 · Jul 1st, 2008, 11:26 PM

My DH told me tonight that he will be going to India for business, probably in September. I'm so upset, and I'm trying not to start crying because I can't imagine being away from him for a little over two weeks. Good thing I didn't marry someone in the armed forces, huh?

I knew this day would come because he is in a group that is based in the US and in India, but man, I guess I was hoping somehow it wouldn't actually come true. Since we've been married he's had two short trips to New York and Paris, and I missed him alot then.

I'll have my kids and the start of school, etc. to keep me busy, but in the night it's going to be a little quiet. I can handle it, I just don't want to

! DH has made me a little spoiled, I suppose.

So anyways, I was posting not to be a whiner, but because I was interested in what other ladies think and do when they are left to their own devices due to a traveling hubby!

See, I feel better already. Looking forward to reading your thoughts.

peanutbabycakes · Jul 2nd, 2008, 12:11 AM

my DH travels out of state mon-thurs every single week for work. he's been doing this even before we started dating, which was over 10 yrs ago (married for 5.5 yrs). we talk on the phone about 15-20 times throughout the day so it's not too bad. i guess i'm so used it now, but there are days, nights when i really miss him terribly so i go and take a sniff of his cologne or spray some on his pillow. LOL so sad i know..... oh and we leave our cell phones connected to each other throughout the night every single day. i like to hear him drift off to sleep, as if he were next to me.

i'm missing him right about now.....

VPT · Jul 2nd, 2008, 12:16 AM

Awww... the first few months will be awful. I felt it when my DH had to leave the country and I was waiting forever to get my green card. I think we spent half a year apart. The first 2 months was terrible, then the feeling fades. I guess if you have friends and family around they can keep your sanity. How long will he be away for?

SpoilMeRotten · Jul 2nd, 2008, 12:20 AM

Is it just for two weeks or longer? If its only two weeks it should just fly by, dont worry! My bf and I go to different colleges so for the past two years we've only been able to see each other on weekends (except for vacations) We talk constantly and that helps but really I HATE sleeping alone most nights, it just sucks! He just graduated and we're finally getting an apartment together later this month... but then in August he has to go to Washington (we live in MI) for 3 months for work!!!!!!!! I'm soooo bummed out about it!

cosmogrl5 · Jul 2nd, 2008, 08:42 AM

My BF and I live together, and he recently had a conference and a business trip back to back that kept him away for two weeks. I HATED it and missed him like crazy, but I took advantage of the quiet and got some things done around the house and spent time with my friends. In the end, it really did go by quickly. Plus, as they say, "Absence makes the heart grow fonder." (sorry for the dumb cliche)

moi et mes sacs · Jul 2nd, 2008, 09:20 AM

My husband has travelled a lot for years. It was tough at the beginning but I got used to it. I think getting used to it is worse. I felt like I didnt care once i got used to it. But if its only occasionally it will be OK and you can cook him a special meal when he gets back and I am sure he will bring you a lovely gift. Keep talking to us while he is away and it will fly by.

ImASadGiraffe · Jul 2nd, 2008, 10:53 AM

I wish my DH traveled more! Haha!

If it's only for two weeks it will fly by. If it's longer send some letters to his hotel so he knows you're thinking about him (and it will give you something to focus on).

IntlSet · Jul 2nd, 2008, 11:01 AM

candy2100, I feel you! My SO has to go to New York now and again... he was gone for two weeks last time and I missed him very much! It's hard to adjust to the alone-time when you always have that person around.

moi et mes sacs · Jul 2nd, 2008, 11:24 AM

...I forgot to add, the anticipation of the forthcoming trip is worse than the event. Once hes gone and the days go by you will wonder what you were worrying about..

candace117 · Jul 2nd, 2008, 11:36 AM

I usually feel better once I settle into a routine, no matter what type of routine it is. I find little pick me ups to look forward to - lunch with a friend I don't get to see often, a new lip gloss (or ten) and stuff like that. Take this time to enjoy being with yourself, we all need to reset once in awhile.

elle tee · Jul 2nd, 2008, 11:55 AM

I live with my SO and he has to travel for work sometimes, usually a few days at a time. We usually spend all of our time together- "each other's best friend" kind of situation, so I go nuts when he's gone! Keeping busy helps- I'll watch some chick movie he doesn't like, cook dinner for when he gets back, clean the apt (he loves coming back to a clean place, lol), get a manicure, go out with friends, etc. It feels like a long time when they are gone, but it feels SO good when they come home you forget all about it!

sweetart · Jul 2nd, 2008, 12:36 PM

at least it's not regular travel and you might enjoy some time to yourself!

my fi just started a new job in May. He's been home for about 3 weeks total since!! Traveling doesn't bother me as long as it's during the weekdays but he is gone for 1.5 - 2+ weeks straight! I like having some time to myself but I can't make any plans with him ahead of time because I have no idea when he'll have to leave and it's been hard trying to plan our September wedding without any help. I can't imagine starting a family when he is gone so often and for so long...

he knew how I felt about this before accepting this job and he knows how much I don't like it now...

candy2100 · Jul 2nd, 2008, 01:42 PM

Oh, it's so nice to get different perspective on the DH being gone. It's also nice to see some familiar "faces" and realize that my situation is not unique!

It's kind of funny to think that when my DH and I first moved in together that it would sometimes irritate me, having to share a house with another person!

I'm just an emotional, sentimental person. While he is gone, I will be preparing myself to have one of those Moonstruck "snap out of it!" moments with myself. Like some of you said, in a way it's not such a long time. sigh.

BagLadie · Jul 2nd, 2008, 02:15 PM

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Originally Posted by peanutbabycakes

my DH travels out of state mon-thurs every single week for work. he's been doing this even before we started dating, which was over 10 yrs ago (married for 5.5 yrs). we talk on the phone about 15-20 times throughout the day so it's not too bad. i guess i'm so used it now, but there are days, nights when i really miss him terribly so i go and take a sniff of his cologne or spray some on his pillow. LOL so sad i know..... oh and we leave our cell phones connected to each other throughout the night every single day. i like to hear him drift off to sleep, as if he were next to me.

i'm missing him right about now.....

Ok that was just about the sweetest thing I have ever read. You are so lucky to have that with your husband. So nice to read about happy couples.

guccimamma · Jul 2nd, 2008, 02:19 PM

take on a project while he is gone, go to the gym...clean out the garage...just do something out of the norm every evening. you may enjoy yourself.

it really isn't that long, i wish my hub would go away every once in a while...just for a little break in the daily routine.

Jul 1st, 2008, 11:26 PM	#1
candy2100 Member Location: Fantasyland	DH Traveling for Work My DH told me tonight that he will be going to India for business, probably in September. I'm so upset, and I'm trying not to start crying because I can't imagine being away from him for a little over two weeks. Good thing I didn't marry someone in the armed forces, huh? I knew this day would come because he is in a group that is based in the US and in India, but man, I guess I was hoping somehow it wouldn't actually come true. Since we've been married he's had two short trips to New York and Paris, and I missed him alot then. I'll have my kids and the start of school, etc. to keep me busy, but in the night it's going to be a little quiet. I can handle it, I just don't want to ! DH has made me a little spoiled, I suppose. So anyways, I was posting not to be a whiner, but because I was interested in what other ladies think and do when they are left to their own devices due to a traveling hubby! See, I feel better already. Looking forward to reading your thoughts. __________________

Jul 2nd, 2008, 12:16 AM	#3
VPT i ♥ blood oranges Location: Singapore / Vancouver	Awww... the first few months will be awful. I felt it when my DH had to leave the country and I was waiting forever to get my green card. I think we spent half a year apart. The first 2 months was terrible, then the feeling fades. I guess if you have friends and family around they can keep your sanity. How long will he be away for? __________________

Jul 2nd, 2008, 08:42 AM	#5
cosmogrl5 Member	My BF and I live together, and he recently had a conference and a business trip back to back that kept him away for two weeks. I HATED it and missed him like crazy, but I took advantage of the quiet and got some things done around the house and spent time with my friends. In the end, it really did go by quickly. Plus, as they say, "Absence makes the heart grow fonder." (sorry for the dumb cliche) __________________

Jul 2nd, 2008, 09:20 AM	#6
moi et mes sacs Science Geek!	My husband has travelled a lot for years. It was tough at the beginning but I got used to it. I think getting used to it is worse. I felt like I didnt care once i got used to it. But if its only occasionally it will be OK and you can cook him a special meal when he gets back and I am sure he will bring you a lovely gift. Keep talking to us while he is away and it will fly by. __________________ The best way to have a good idea is to have a lot of ideas Linus Pauling

Jul 2nd, 2008, 10:53 AM	#7
ImASadGiraffe Twilight 11/21/08 Location: IL	I wish my DH traveled more! Haha! If it's only for two weeks it will fly by. If it's longer send some letters to his hotel so he knows you're thinking about him (and it will give you something to focus on). __________________

Jul 2nd, 2008, 12:11 AM	#2
peanutbabycakes who's ur H daddy??!!	my DH travels out of state mon-thurs every single week for work. he's been doing this even before we started dating, which was over 10 yrs ago (married for 5.5 yrs). we talk on the phone about 15-20 times throughout the day so it's not too bad. i guess i'm so used it now, but there are days, nights when i really miss him terribly so i go and take a sniff of his cologne or spray some on his pillow. LOL so sad i know..... oh and we leave our cell phones connected to each other throughout the night every single day. i like to hear him drift off to sleep, as if he were next to me. i'm missing him right about now.....

Jul 2nd, 2008, 12:20 AM	#4
SpoilMeRotten loves her yorkie <3 Location: Deeetroit	Is it just for two weeks or longer? If its only two weeks it should just fly by, dont worry! My bf and I go to different colleges so for the past two years we've only been able to see each other on weekends (except for vacations) We talk constantly and that helps but really I HATE sleeping alone most nights, it just sucks! He just graduated and we're finally getting an apartment together later this month... but then in August he has to go to Washington (we live in MI) for 3 months for work!!!!!!!! I'm soooo bummed out about it!

Jul 2nd, 2008, 11:01 AM	#8
IntlSet Bonjour! Location: Chicago	candy2100, I feel you! My SO has to go to New York now and again... he was gone for two weeks last time and I missed him very much! It's hard to adjust to the alone-time when you always have that person around. __________________ http://drinkmorechampagne.wordpress.com/

Jul 2nd, 2008, 11:24 AM	#9
moi et mes sacs Science Geek!	...I forgot to add, the anticipation of the forthcoming trip is worse than the event. Once hes gone and the days go by you will wonder what you were worrying about.. __________________ The best way to have a good idea is to have a lot of ideas Linus Pauling

Jul 2nd, 2008, 11:36 AM	#10
candace117 Pirate Trash Location: Hardcorvallis	I usually feel better once I settle into a routine, no matter what type of routine it is. I find little pick me ups to look forward to - lunch with a friend I don't get to see often, a new lip gloss (or ten) and stuff like that. Take this time to enjoy being with yourself, we all need to reset once in awhile. __________________ "With so much drama in the L-B-C, it's kinda hard bein Snoop D-O-double G."

Jul 2nd, 2008, 11:55 AM	#11
elle tee Member Location: nyc	I live with my SO and he has to travel for work sometimes, usually a few days at a time. We usually spend all of our time together- "each other's best friend" kind of situation, so I go nuts when he's gone! Keeping busy helps- I'll watch some chick movie he doesn't like, cook dinner for when he gets back, clean the apt (he loves coming back to a clean place, lol), get a manicure, go out with friends, etc. It feels like a long time when they are gone, but it feels SO good when they come home you forget all about it!

Jul 2nd, 2008, 12:36 PM	#12
sweetart 09.27.08	at least it's not regular travel and you might enjoy some time to yourself! my fi just started a new job in May. He's been home for about 3 weeks total since!! Traveling doesn't bother me as long as it's during the weekdays but he is gone for 1.5 - 2+ weeks straight! I like having some time to myself but I can't make any plans with him ahead of time because I have no idea when he'll have to leave and it's been hard trying to plan our September wedding without any help. I can't imagine starting a family when he is gone so often and for so long... he knew how I felt about this before accepting this job and he knows how much I don't like it now... __________________ wishlist: light/pale grey large mp dark grey mix quilted eugenie mix quilted hobo w/ leather stap - any color but cognac slate patchwork venetia

Jul 2nd, 2008, 01:42 PM	#13
candy2100 Member Location: Fantasyland	Oh, it's so nice to get different perspective on the DH being gone. It's also nice to see some familiar "faces" and realize that my situation is not unique! It's kind of funny to think that when my DH and I first moved in together that it would sometimes irritate me, having to share a house with another person! I'm just an emotional, sentimental person. While he is gone, I will be preparing myself to have one of those Moonstruck "snap out of it!" moments with myself. Like some of you said, in a way it's not such a long time. sigh. __________________

Jul 2nd, 2008, 02:19 PM	#15
guccimamma guccimamma	take on a project while he is gone, go to the gym...clean out the garage...just do something out of the norm every evening. you may enjoy yourself. it really isn't that long, i wish my hub would go away every once in a while...just for a little break in the daily routine.