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ver0nique · Jul 7th, 2009, 07:12 PM

Originally Posted by dallas

Ahh, yes. Talk of frying pans and vacuum cleaners brings back memories. The second Christmas with my DH (then bf) was a memorable one. He proudly announced that he was buying me a pair of diamond earrings and I thought woohoo! I was so excited, I couldn't believe it and, turns out, I shouldn't have. Christmas morning he presented me with a huuuge box and inside was ... a bloody bread maker. I remember looking at him with a fake smile frozen on my face and he said "I was going to get you earrings but I didn't know whether to buy white or yellow gold and there was so many different styles ... so I got you a bread maker cos' I know you like to cook."
Yeah, that makes sense.

natalie78 · Jul 7th, 2009, 07:58 PM

Originally Posted by dallas

Ahh, yes. Talk of frying pans and vacuum cleaners brings back memories. The second Christmas with my DH (then bf) was a memorable one. He proudly announced that he was buying me a pair of diamond earrings and I thought woohoo! I was so excited, I couldn't believe it and, turns out, I shouldn't have. Christmas morning he presented me with a huuuge box and inside was ... a bloody bread maker. I remember looking at him with a fake smile frozen on my face and he said "I was going to get you earrings but I didn't know whether to buy white or yellow gold and there was so many different styles ... so I got you a bread maker cos' I know you like to cook."
Yeah, that makes sense.

I almost fell out my chair reading this! Gotta love our men...

LilGlove · Jul 8th, 2009, 09:35 AM

I know this might sound crazy, but I like wearing stuff that my SO picked out, even if it's outside my taste or I think it's ugly, because, again, he picked it out...so he likes it and likes to see it on me.

Things I want, I buy myself.

Jahpson · Jul 8th, 2009, 09:46 AM

This thread is hilarious!

amanda · Jul 8th, 2009, 09:48 AM

LOL, I might be the only woman on the face of the planet that would welcome the gift of a vacuum, as long as it was a Dyson. I think they're so cool. I have a smaller one now, but if an SO was ever to get me a big, new one - I'd be excited!

canadianstudies · Jul 8th, 2009, 12:45 PM

Originally Posted by exotikittenx

^^^ LOL! Ohh, the vacuum- certainly a magnificent gift to bestow! I think it's really a rite of passage to receive some sort of appliance for a gift at least once in your life.

LOL, okay, the worst part is that it's a dirt devil kone, so it doesn't have any real suction power! A useless vacuum! ahhhh!

~bastet · Jul 8th, 2009, 12:49 PM

Originally Posted by amanda

LOL, I might be the only woman on the face of the planet that would welcome the gift of a vacuum, as long as it was a Dyson. I think they're so cool. I have a smaller one now, but if an SO was ever to get me a big, new one - I'd be excited!

My parents got me a Dyson for Christmas a few years ago and I was thrilled!

Normally, I wouldn't want to receive any kind of cleaning implement for a gift, but I made an exception for the Dyson.

LeeMiller · Jul 8th, 2009, 04:30 PM

You guys are funny. My DH is fine with me returning his gifts, actually now he just asks first what I want. I don't think most guys get as wrapped up in these things or get their feelings hurt if we just ask for something else and then are really happy with that.

coachlover1000 · Jul 12th, 2009, 04:02 PM

Originally Posted by natalie78

I know I sound like a b*tch. And I do appreciate all the time and thought he puts into his choices. I wear the necklace occasionally and I will use the bag. I would never think of telling him anything or ever returning anything he gives me. I knew I would get flamed for my post, but I figured there would be at least a couple of ladies out there who know how I feel.

Thanks cookie888! I picked out my ring too. That was one thing that he insisted on.

Imho natalie78, you don't sound like a bitch at all. My husband has also bought me things I haven't liked over the years, and he'd rather I take it back and get something with the money that I will enjoy, than waste the money that he's spent on something I don't like. It works the other way too, if I've bought him something he doesn't like, he's not going to use it. I tell him to get something he will use and enjoy instead. It's just wasted money otherwise, and who's got money to waste?
xx

Hi cookie888, long time no see!!

auroraskye · Jul 12th, 2009, 04:20 PM

I think you're entitled to feel the way you feel. It seems to me you're in one of those situations that you are touched that he cares so much, and you feel guilty for not liking what he gets you. I wish I had some good advice for you, the only thing I can say is perhaps be more obvious when you see something you love near your birthday or holidays. Maybe he just needs it clearly stated and that'll help him out.

Charles · Jul 13th, 2009, 10:19 AM

OP, print this off and hand it to your husband.

Bad Gifts from boyfriend

Problem solved.

californiaCRUSH · Jul 15th, 2009, 01:08 AM

I know you're not supposed to look a gift horse in the mouth but if he's spending money, and you aren't happy I don't think it would hurt to sort of .. guide him in the right direction. The reason he's buying you things is because he wants you to be happy, and you shouldn't feel guilty or lie to him about liking things. I think you should make it clear you love his effort and the thought behind it but maybe you two should go shopping together.

Milton · Jul 15th, 2009, 01:57 PM

mine got me a blender on valentine's day, i won't let him forget it! i told him that gifts must only come from the 3 major categories... jewelry, shoes, and handbags! i'm still not sure he has my taste down completely though... before my birthday, we were walking on madison ave, i pointed out a few things that i liked, hoping he would get the hint... well, he got me a bracelet that was not one of the things i pointed out... i didn't tell him i didn't like it, i pretended that it was the best thing in the world... but i asked him, how come you didn't get one of the things i pointed out... he said, that would have been too obvious, i wanted to get you something you'd be surprised with. even now, i'll look in a magazine and point something out and say, you can get this for me for the next gift giving holiday... he looks at me and says, but i always get you great presents, i don't need any help... not sure this one can be changed, girls.
with the engagement ring, however, i told him, i have to wear it every day, i'm telling you exactly what i want. he went to the jeweler and did it all by himself, but he had shape and setting drilled into him, there was no way he was getting it wrong!

Jul 8th, 2009, 09:35 AM	#48
LilGlove Sofa King Banned Joined: Dec 2008 Posts: 53	I know this might sound crazy, but I like wearing stuff that my SO picked out, even if it's outside my taste or I think it's ugly, because, again, he picked it out...so he likes it and likes to see it on me. Things I want, I buy myself.
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Jul 8th, 2009, 09:46 AM	#49
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Jul 8th, 2009, 04:30 PM	#53
LeeMiller Member Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 3,305	You guys are funny. My DH is fine with me returning his gifts, actually now he just asks first what I want. I don't think most guys get as wrapped up in these things or get their feelings hurt if we just ask for something else and then are really happy with that.
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Jul 12th, 2009, 04:20 PM	#55
auroraskye Member Joined: Sep 2008 Location: Plano, TX Posts: 359	I think you're entitled to feel the way you feel. It seems to me you're in one of those situations that you are touched that he cares so much, and you feel guilty for not liking what he gets you. I wish I had some good advice for you, the only thing I can say is perhaps be more obvious when you see something you love near your birthday or holidays. Maybe he just needs it clearly stated and that'll help him out.
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Jul 13th, 2009, 10:19 AM	#56
Charles Sucks at budgeting Joined: Jan 2007 Location: Jacksonville, Fl Posts: 6,187	OP, print this off and hand it to your husband. Bad Gifts from boyfriend Problem solved.
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Jul 15th, 2009, 01:08 AM	#57
californiaCRUSH Glamazon. Joined: Nov 2007 Posts: 2,252	I know you're not supposed to look a gift horse in the mouth but if he's spending money, and you aren't happy I don't think it would hurt to sort of .. guide him in the right direction. The reason he's buying you things is because he wants you to be happy, and you shouldn't feel guilty or lie to him about liking things. I think you should make it clear you love his effort and the thought behind it but maybe you two should go shopping together.
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Jul 15th, 2009, 01:57 PM	#58
Milton Member Joined: Jun 2006 Location: New York Posts: 925	mine got me a blender on valentine's day, i won't let him forget it! i told him that gifts must only come from the 3 major categories... jewelry, shoes, and handbags! i'm still not sure he has my taste down completely though... before my birthday, we were walking on madison ave, i pointed out a few things that i liked, hoping he would get the hint... well, he got me a bracelet that was not one of the things i pointed out... i didn't tell him i didn't like it, i pretended that it was the best thing in the world... but i asked him, how come you didn't get one of the things i pointed out... he said, that would have been too obvious, i wanted to get you something you'd be surprised with. even now, i'll look in a magazine and point something out and say, you can get this for me for the next gift giving holiday... he looks at me and says, but i always get you great presents, i don't need any help... not sure this one can be changed, girls. with the engagement ring, however, i told him, i have to wear it every day, i'm telling you exactly what i want. he went to the jeweler and did it all by himself, but he had shape and setting drilled into him, there was no way he was getting it wrong!

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