Dating a younger guy

~Fabulousity~ · Jul 3rd, 2008, 01:45 PM

How much younger of a guy would you ladies be willing to date? I know they say age is only a number, but from my experiences younger guys don't seem to know how to pursue a woman. Its almost like they need to be taught what to do. I'm in my late 20's and have never been involved with a REALLY younger guy. My sister is 32 and dating a 23 year old. She complains about a lot of things about him (mostly finances) but I keep telling her i'm sure his age has a lot to do with his financial situation.

So how much younger will you go? And what have been your experiences?

lovinalotofbags · Jul 3rd, 2008, 02:17 PM

I am 40 but feel and look much younger. I have always preferred older men ever since high school. I would go as far as 30-something. My ex is 47 and looks like he is in his 30s. Most guys my age look much older. Your inner self always gives you the best advice. You know what is too young for you.

IntlSet · Jul 3rd, 2008, 02:47 PM

Umm, 1 year. That's it. I'm 24, and every year in age difference makes a HUGE difference in where a man is maturity wise, and also where he is in his career, the type of friends he has or desires to meet, etc.

~Fabulousity~ · Jul 3rd, 2008, 02:56 PM

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Originally Posted by IntlSet

Umm, 1 year. That's it. I'm 24, and every year in age difference makes a HUGE difference in where a man is maturity wise, and also where he is in his career, the type of friends he has or desires to meet, etc.

I SO agree with this!!!

frostedcouture · Jul 3rd, 2008, 03:07 PM

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Originally Posted by IntlSet

Umm, 1 year. That's it. I'm 24, and every year in age difference makes a HUGE difference in where a man is maturity wise, and also where he is in his career, the type of friends he has or desires to meet, etc.

I agree with you, not that I'm really at the age to worry about serious dating.

maybe later on in high school

Bella · Jul 3rd, 2008, 03:16 PM

I am in my early 30's and I could not imagine now dating someone in their early 20's, unless he was extremely mature and had a clear direction in his life. I wouldn't rule anything out if if it was the right person.

illinirdhd · Jul 3rd, 2008, 03:32 PM

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Originally Posted by IntlSet

Umm, 1 year. That's it. I'm 24, and every year in age difference makes a HUGE difference in where a man is maturity wise, and also where he is in his career, the type of friends he has or desires to meet, etc.

Yeah, I agree. When you're talking about guys in their 20s, age IS almost always an issue. If I were 45 and dating a guy who was 35 or 38, maybe not such a big deal. But I'm 31, and no WAY I'd date a guy in his 20s.

OTOH, my SIL is almost 37 and my brother just turned 29. They don't seem to have any issues, other than she was in a bigger hurry to have kids. But he's a pretty mature and accomplished 29.

artjen · Jul 3rd, 2008, 03:48 PM

I've always preferred older men also. My husband is 12 years older than me. I love that. He looks younger than he really is and he is in great shape.

Cristina · Jul 3rd, 2008, 03:50 PM

At my age (26), I prefer to date guys that are either my age or older, with my preference being toward the "older". For the most part, they're more mature, and like Annie said, at this stage in the game, age makes a huge difference.

ChristyR143 · Jul 3rd, 2008, 04:50 PM

No more than one year, and even at that, he'd have to be pretty darned mature for his age. I have always preferred older men as well. Just pay close attention and you'll know soon enough if he's too immature for you.

caxe · Jul 3rd, 2008, 04:51 PM

The last time I dated a younger guy, I was around 24 or so, and he was like, nineteen or twenty. Maybe he was twenty-one. I don't recall. I wouldn't do it again!

I'm 31 now, and have absolutely no interest in guys my age or younger. I'm with illinirdhd here; I wouldn't touch a guy in his twenties. In fact, I prefer them upwards of 45. I don't really want them to be my dad's age (62, which is a bit long in the tooth for me), but I don't want little boys, either.

I think I prefer men of this age because I don't want children of my own, never did, and the chances are greater that an older guy will already have kids of his own and not be interested in having any more with me. My BF has done the whole marriage/have a baby thing already with his first wife, so fortunately, after four years, he still hasn't really put pressure on me to breed. Too, I don't like the culture or mentality of a lot of the young whippersnappers. The hip-hoppers, the glorification of a lot of the wrong things. Doesn't appeal to me. Older men tend to be more mature, established, refined, and sophisticated...or at least that's been my experience.

I was at a party a couple weeks ago, and the husband of one of my parents' friends said, "I'm so glad I'm not of this hip hop generation!" when the deejay started playing some hip hop music. And I agree with him. I like SOME hip hop, but even the music I prefer to listen to, old school R&B, Motown, 70s and 80s funk and disco, gives me more in common with older guys.

My BF is 47, by the way.

Zophie · Jul 3rd, 2008, 04:52 PM

I have an ex that was about a year younger than I was. In general though I prefer guys that are a few years older. I'm not saying I'd never date a younger guy again, but in general I look for ones that are older and always have. I'm 36. I can't say what a lower age limit would be, but I couldn't date anyone in their 20s. I guess it's a double standard because I could easily date someone in his 50s.

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I just read caxe's reply, and this is another big reason I prefer older guys:

"I think I prefer men of this age because I don't want children of my own, never did, and the chances are greater that an older guy will already have kids of his own and not be interested in having any more with me. "

D1M3C · Jul 3rd, 2008, 04:54 PM

I'm only 21, so anyone younger isn't able to go out and hit the bars like I sometimes do (not that you need alcohol to have fun). My boyfriend is only a few months older than I and if you look to a post I have put up, things aren't going so well; mainly because of the difference in maturity. So I would have to say at this point, older is definitely better because they generally know what they want and where they want to be (more so than younger) and that's something I need.

guccimamma · Jul 3rd, 2008, 04:55 PM

i have never dated anyone my age, in high school i liked guys in college...in college i went after the guys with jobs/money....

younger guys never had anything to offer, but the obvious...and i like someone who can bring a little more to the table

not to say there aren't financially and emotinally stable guys that are in their early/mid 20's, but i always felt a bit of a buffer age-wise was a good equalizer

but i have been married for a long time, so maybe it has all changed out there!

Zophie · Jul 3rd, 2008, 04:56 PM

I've always been the same way, guccimamma.

Jul 3rd, 2008, 01:45 PM	#1
~Fabulousity~ Yes we can! Joined: Jan 2006 Location: Creating my life... Posts: 5,390	Dating a younger guy How much younger of a guy would you ladies be willing to date? I know they say age is only a number, but from my experiences younger guys don't seem to know how to pursue a woman. Its almost like they need to be taught what to do. I'm in my late 20's and have never been involved with a REALLY younger guy. My sister is 32 and dating a 23 year old. She complains about a lot of things about him (mostly finances) but I keep telling her i'm sure his age has a lot to do with his financial situation. So how much younger will you go? And what have been your experiences? __________________ Every adversity, every failure, and every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit - Napoleon Hill

Jul 3rd, 2008, 02:17 PM	#2
lovinalotofbags Fashion disaster Joined: Mar 2008 Location: Carolinas Posts: 1,577	I am 40 but feel and look much younger. I have always preferred older men ever since high school. I would go as far as 30-something. My ex is 47 and looks like he is in his 30s. Most guys my age look much older. Your inner self always gives you the best advice. You know what is too young for you. __________________ Always forgive your enemies. Nothing annoys them so much.

Jul 3rd, 2008, 02:47 PM	#3
IntlSet Bonjour! Joined: Jan 2006 Location: Chicago Posts: 10,982	Umm, 1 year. That's it. I'm 24, and every year in age difference makes a HUGE difference in where a man is maturity wise, and also where he is in his career, the type of friends he has or desires to meet, etc. __________________ http://drinkmorechampagne.wordpress.com/

Jul 3rd, 2008, 03:50 PM	#9
Cristina Joined: Oct 2005 Location: South Florida Posts: 11,480	At my age (26), I prefer to date guys that are either my age or older, with my preference being toward the "older". For the most part, they're more mature, and like Annie said, at this stage in the game, age makes a huge difference. __________________ it's nothing i'll forget when the moon gets tired you are stuck to me everyday believe in what i am because it's all i have today and tomorrow who knows where we'll be from here i can hardly see a thing but i will follow anyone who brings me to you for now, forever, for on and on and on - alkaline trio

Jul 3rd, 2008, 04:50 PM	#10
ChristyR143 But it was on sale!! Joined: Aug 2007 Location: Texas Posts: 2,777	No more than one year, and even at that, he'd have to be pretty darned mature for his age. I have always preferred older men as well. Just pay close attention and you'll know soon enough if he's too immature for you. __________________

Jul 3rd, 2008, 03:16 PM	#6
Bella just Bella Joined: Mar 2006 Posts: 2,941	I am in my early 30's and I could not imagine now dating someone in their early 20's, unless he was extremely mature and had a clear direction in his life. I wouldn't rule anything out if if it was the right person.

Jul 3rd, 2008, 03:48 PM	#8
artjen Young @ Art Joined: Oct 2007 Location: Arizona Posts: 794	I've always preferred older men also. My husband is 12 years older than me. I love that. He looks younger than he really is and he is in great shape.

Jul 3rd, 2008, 04:51 PM	#11
caxe I'm the pappy! Joined: Mar 2007 Location: The Southeast, US Posts: 3,457	The last time I dated a younger guy, I was around 24 or so, and he was like, nineteen or twenty. Maybe he was twenty-one. I don't recall. I wouldn't do it again! I'm 31 now, and have absolutely no interest in guys my age or younger. I'm with illinirdhd here; I wouldn't touch a guy in his twenties. In fact, I prefer them upwards of 45. I don't really want them to be my dad's age (62, which is a bit long in the tooth for me), but I don't want little boys, either. I think I prefer men of this age because I don't want children of my own, never did, and the chances are greater that an older guy will already have kids of his own and not be interested in having any more with me. My BF has done the whole marriage/have a baby thing already with his first wife, so fortunately, after four years, he still hasn't really put pressure on me to breed. Too, I don't like the culture or mentality of a lot of the young whippersnappers. The hip-hoppers, the glorification of a lot of the wrong things. Doesn't appeal to me. Older men tend to be more mature, established, refined, and sophisticated...or at least that's been my experience. I was at a party a couple weeks ago, and the husband of one of my parents' friends said, "I'm so glad I'm not of this hip hop generation!" when the deejay started playing some hip hop music. And I agree with him. I like SOME hip hop, but even the music I prefer to listen to, old school R&B, Motown, 70s and 80s funk and disco, gives me more in common with older guys. My BF is 47, by the way. __________________ Charmed, I'm sure.

Jul 3rd, 2008, 04:52 PM	#12
Zophie I <3 my Maltese! Joined: Feb 2007 Location: New Orleans, LA Posts: 6,876	I have an ex that was about a year younger than I was. In general though I prefer guys that are a few years older. I'm not saying I'd never date a younger guy again, but in general I look for ones that are older and always have. I'm 36. I can't say what a lower age limit would be, but I couldn't date anyone in their 20s. I guess it's a double standard because I could easily date someone in his 50s. edit: I just read caxe's reply, and this is another big reason I prefer older guys: "I think I prefer men of this age because I don't want children of my own, never did, and the chances are greater that an older guy will already have kids of his own and not be interested in having any more with me. " __________________

Jul 3rd, 2008, 04:54 PM	#13
D1M3C Still a Daddy's Girl Joined: Jun 2008 Location: Boston, MA Posts: 36	I'm only 21, so anyone younger isn't able to go out and hit the bars like I sometimes do (not that you need alcohol to have fun). My boyfriend is only a few months older than I and if you look to a post I have put up, things aren't going so well; mainly because of the difference in maturity. So I would have to say at this point, older is definitely better because they generally know what they want and where they want to be (more so than younger) and that's something I need. __________________ Danielle Marie Rip Daddy 09/07/59 -- 02/02/08 Always in my heart

Jul 3rd, 2008, 04:55 PM	#14
guccimamma guccimamma Joined: Aug 2006 Posts: 2,825	i have never dated anyone my age, in high school i liked guys in college...in college i went after the guys with jobs/money.... younger guys never had anything to offer, but the obvious...and i like someone who can bring a little more to the table not to say there aren't financially and emotinally stable guys that are in their early/mid 20's, but i always felt a bit of a buffer age-wise was a good equalizer but i have been married for a long time, so maybe it has all changed out there!

Jul 3rd, 2008, 04:56 PM	#15
Zophie I <3 my Maltese! Joined: Feb 2007 Location: New Orleans, LA Posts: 6,876	I've always been the same way, guccimamma. __________________