Dating a younger guy

ShimmaPuff · Jul 5th, 2008, 03:55 AM

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Originally Posted by lvuittonaddict

well, im 19(20 this month

) but i am NOT willing to date younger than me...

Good! Because when you are 19 or 20, you would have to be a little cautious if you DID want to date anybody very much younger, to avoid running into legal issues.

~Fabulousity~ · Jul 7th, 2008, 12:26 PM

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Originally Posted by ShimmaPuff

Good! Because when you are 19 or 20, you would have to be a little cautious if you DID want to date anybody very much younger, to avoid running into legal issues.

~Fabulousity~ · Jul 7th, 2008, 12:33 PM

I think my new friends age is starting to show

So yesterday we were on the phone talking and:

Him: "I want to go to the movies and see Wanted"
Me: "What's that?"
Him: "explaining the movies and who's in it"
Me: "Oh sounds interesting"
Him: "Yeah I think i'll go see that later today, i'll see if my cousins want to go with me"
Me: "Ok, so why don't I get a movie invite?"
Him: "Well I didn't think you'd want to see it"
Me: "You didn't ask, I thought we said we werent going to assume things about each other"
Him: You're right, you're right...now I feel dumb we can go see it together

I dunno its almost like he wanted me to ask to go

is he affraid of asking me to do certain things for fear of rejection, strange indeed...

cakegirl · Jul 8th, 2008, 01:58 AM

When I was 30 I dated a guy who was 22 for a few months. It was fun for awhile because it was casual, we lived in different cities and only saw each other on visits. I never planned on it lasting long term.
I think he had to do a lot of acting though- on the few occasions I saw him drop his mature routine he was unbearable.

I have a close friend who married a guy 12 years younger than her-they have a child and a great marriage.

GirlFriday · Jul 8th, 2008, 05:52 AM

When I was dating I only wanted to date older men (within reason, like maybe the most 10 years older) but I always ended up dating men my age, with a few exceptions. My husband is two years younger than me. It bothered me for about one minute, but he was just so wonderful and mature, I didn't care after that. Two years difference is really nothing. I don't even think of it anymore. I don't think there's anything wrong with dating men in their early or mid 20s, but so many are immature. Everyone else is right, there are so many immature men in their 30s, 40s and 50s, you just have to get the know the guy. Period.

talldrnkofwater · Jul 27th, 2008, 11:00 PM

When I turned 30 (im 36 now) i dated a guy who was 22. He wasn't your avg 22yr old. He had/has a career (hes a chef), he had his own apt, a car and even had a little caterring business on the side. We had a great time. it was fun while it lasted. The majority of the guys that I have dated have been younger than me.

juneping · Jul 27th, 2008, 11:56 PM

i think i've only been w/ one guy who is 7~8 years older and the rest were mostly a year or 2 younger. i couldn't tell the difference in terms on maturity except sex wise. they were all big babies.
from my past expereience i will never pick a guy over 40 & never been married. if they last that long...they seem to look for the impossible. not sure for all men but i don't have time to find out and have my heart broken again.

mellecyn · Jul 28th, 2008, 05:21 AM

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Originally Posted by ~Fabulousity~

I think my new friends age is starting to show

So yesterday we were on the phone talking and:

Him: "I want to go to the movies and see Wanted"
Me: "What's that?"
Him: "explaining the movies and who's in it"
Me: "Oh sounds interesting"
Him: "Yeah I think i'll go see that later today, i'll see if my cousins want to go with me"
Me: "Ok, so why don't I get a movie invite?"
Him: "Well I didn't think you'd want to see it"
Me: "You didn't ask, I thought we said we werent going to assume things about each other"
Him: You're right, you're right...now I feel dumb we can go see it together

I dunno its almost like he wanted me to ask to go

is he affraid of asking me to do certain things for fear of rejection, strange indeed...

Haha ! I know some guys who are exactly the same, and then blame ME for not getting the hint they were actually inviting me when saying "don´t hesitate to call if you wanna meet again"....that´s not an man´s invitation in my book !
I wouldn´t mind dating a slightly younger guy within 2 years if serious, and 8 years if a fling

.......guys my age here tend to look older than me : bald, beer belly, wrinkles etc....but of course we connect better, they are ready to settle down.
A young guy will have to go through his phases of :
-20 years old : partying like mad, getting on as many women as possible,
-then at 25 BAM ! focus shifts on the career, it´s ALL about the career.
-At 30, they´re like "how fun is it without anyone to share it with ?"
-and at 35 they´re like "I want a mini ME !!"
You can´t expect a 23 year old guy to provide financial security !! But he might show potential and ambition, so you have to be patient.

Barbiedoll · Jul 28th, 2008, 01:01 PM

In my opinion age is just a number - I used to thing older men meant experience and maturity.

That changed I am 30 I was dated someone 7 years older than me, he was very childish after we broke up I met a 26 year old guy ( we are still dating, he's now 27yrs) he is very mature and you would never know the difference in age he is mature and that is what matters, we also have similar views and goals on life. My coworker is 43 yrs old and married someone who is 35, don't make age the reason why you wont date someone.

teddy61 · Jul 28th, 2008, 06:24 PM

My cousin is 25 right now and her bf is 21. They look really cute and happy together.

I dont think age rli matter

lvuittonaddict · Jul 29th, 2008, 11:23 PM

i refuse to date younger men. i actually refuse to date anyone my age and younger

Cupcake <3 · Aug 1st, 2008, 07:48 AM

I refuse to deal with anyone my age, or younger. For one, because of the ones I’ve dealt with at the time they came off quite immature. But I do think by now they should of grown up? Or not. ---- I did however deal with one who was a year younger then I was. He wasn’t immature. Even my friends thought it was weird, because knowing me, I wouldn’t bother with it. I guess I would dare say, at the time he is * (still is) * the only exception, other than that; I wouldn’t date anyone else younger. (My views could totally change ten years from now, since I will be a different age)

Jul 7th, 2008, 12:33 PM	#33
~Fabulousity~ SuperCoolLoveThang	I think my new friends age is starting to show So yesterday we were on the phone talking and: Him: "I want to go to the movies and see Wanted" Me: "What's that?" Him: "explaining the movies and who's in it" Me: "Oh sounds interesting" Him: "Yeah I think i'll go see that later today, i'll see if my cousins want to go with me" Me: "Ok, so why don't I get a movie invite?" Him: "Well I didn't think you'd want to see it" Me: "You didn't ask, I thought we said we werent going to assume things about each other" Him: You're right, you're right...now I feel dumb we can go see it together I dunno its almost like he wanted me to ask to go is he affraid of asking me to do certain things for fear of rejection, strange indeed... __________________ Every adversity, every failure, and every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit - Napoleon Hill

Jul 8th, 2008, 01:58 AM	#34
cakegirl Member	When I was 30 I dated a guy who was 22 for a few months. It was fun for awhile because it was casual, we lived in different cities and only saw each other on visits. I never planned on it lasting long term. I think he had to do a lot of acting though- on the few occasions I saw him drop his mature routine he was unbearable. I have a close friend who married a guy 12 years younger than her-they have a child and a great marriage. __________________ Wish List: the perfect big clutch the perfect grey bag

Jul 27th, 2008, 11:56 PM	#37
juneping couch potato-ing Location: NYC	i think i've only been w/ one guy who is 7~8 years older and the rest were mostly a year or 2 younger. i couldn't tell the difference in terms on maturity except sex wise. they were all big babies. from my past expereience i will never pick a guy over 40 & never been married. if they last that long...they seem to look for the impossible. not sure for all men but i don't have time to find out and have my heart broken again. __________________ wish list: purse ban until the cc is paid off Last edited by juneping; Jul 28th, 2008 at 12:01 AM.

Jul 28th, 2008, 01:01 PM	#39
Barbiedoll Moviestar Location: NYC and NJ	In my opinion age is just a number - I used to thing older men meant experience and maturity. That changed I am 30 I was dated someone 7 years older than me, he was very childish after we broke up I met a 26 year old guy ( we are still dating, he's now 27yrs) he is very mature and you would never know the difference in age he is mature and that is what matters, we also have similar views and goals on life. My coworker is 43 yrs old and married someone who is 35, don't make age the reason why you wont date someone. __________________ LV's Owned Mini Lin Croisette, Mini Lin, Damier Azur & Damier Speedy 30 Inclusion Bracelets (Clear, Black and Grey)Silver Miroir Speedy Monogram Speedy 30, XL Mahina (gris) and Trevi GM Mono Theda & Pochette, Wallets & Trunks & Bag Agenda Icon's Book and Birth of Modern Luxury, LV DVD Monogram Keepall Travel Bag HERMES Bought: July 2007 "H" Logo earrings and ring Bought: October 2007: Bearn "Orange" Wallet 10/2008: Birkins: Black 35 Epsom and Fucshia HAC 32, NEED: Scarf, Agenda and Belt.

Jul 29th, 2008, 11:23 PM	#41
lvuittonaddict ImASofaKingBannedBoy Location: Philly, DC, Jax	i refuse to date younger men. i actually refuse to date anyone my age and younger __________________ Waiting Patiently For Christmas Who am i kidding? give my my bag NOW Wishlist 90% sure im getting a Balenciaga Day with GH for XMAS!!!! LV Trevi GM[] LV MC Pochette[X] LV Tahitiennes Stole[] LV Zippy Coin[] Chanel Medallion Tote[] Chanel- Any Reissue[] Hermes Birkin 35 Black Togo w/ PH http://forum.purseblog.com/your-bag-...on-207662.html

Jul 8th, 2008, 05:52 AM	#35
GirlFriday Member	When I was dating I only wanted to date older men (within reason, like maybe the most 10 years older) but I always ended up dating men my age, with a few exceptions. My husband is two years younger than me. It bothered me for about one minute, but he was just so wonderful and mature, I didn't care after that. Two years difference is really nothing. I don't even think of it anymore. I don't think there's anything wrong with dating men in their early or mid 20s, but so many are immature. Everyone else is right, there are so many immature men in their 30s, 40s and 50s, you just have to get the know the guy. Period.

Jul 27th, 2008, 11:00 PM	#36
talldrnkofwater Member Location: Queens, NY	When I turned 30 (im 36 now) i dated a guy who was 22. He wasn't your avg 22yr old. He had/has a career (hes a chef), he had his own apt, a car and even had a little caterring business on the side. We had a great time. it was fun while it lasted. The majority of the guys that I have dated have been younger than me.

Jul 28th, 2008, 06:24 PM	#40
teddy61 Jalie Chichi Location: ~ the OC ~	My cousin is 25 right now and her bf is 21. They look really cute and happy together. I dont think age rli matter

Aug 1st, 2008, 07:48 AM	#42
Cupcake <3 You're my yummy.	I refuse to deal with anyone my age, or younger. For one, because of the ones I’ve dealt with at the time they came off quite immature. But I do think by now they should of grown up? Or not. ---- I did however deal with one who was a year younger then I was. He wasn’t immature. Even my friends thought it was weird, because knowing me, I wouldn’t bother with it. I guess I would dare say, at the time he is * (still is) * the only exception, other than that; I wouldn’t date anyone else younger. (My views could totally change ten years from now, since I will be a different age) __________________