[orderandlaw]

Does this drive anyone else up the wall? Ever known a couple that bitched, bickered, argued, yelled, etc. in front of you on more than one occasion? I could definitely understand an isolated incident or if something really bad just occurred, but overall I think it should be done in private.

My brother and I were hanging out with some friends of mine. Things were cool until they both drank too much and started bickering in front of us. She even followed him to bitch some more and everyone was majorly uncomfortable. I found myself growing more and more annoyed so we left. A few days later my friend yelled at me saying I caused them to almost break up! All because I'd asked, "Have you met his parents?" Apparently he hadn't made those introductions and it made her mad. Of course, my friends comment didn't go over well and he ended up saying he was joking. Whatever.

I had another friend that said, "Shut up, honey!" one night after her hubby had told a lame joke. Everyone fell silent. Her hubby was mortified. He was simply trying to get to know her friends and make conversation and was humiliated. Everyone else was highly annoyed because it was a matter of respect. I pulled her aside later that night and told her to never do that in our presence again. She was shocked and got really angry proclaiming she could talk to her hubby however she wanted to. I said, "Not in front of us. Save it for home."

What's your take on couples fighting in front of others? Aside from the obvious like they like drama and attention? Don't you think it's a matter of respect? If my SO EVER said, "Shut up, honey!" in front of others, well, he'd better be wearing a cup.

Thoughts?

[Jahpson]

makes the situation really uncomfortable.

I remeber my older brother and his now ex-girlfriend having a verbal spat at a family party. the room got silent and uncomfortable. I really want to throw those two out the house myself, but my Uncle did that instead.

it makes the company uncomfortable. I mean we all fight from time to time, but we really dont want to know your business. now if there is physical fighting, then someone has to intervene.

[candace117]

It is very frustrating and it makes people wonder how great the relationship must be, if they can't even have self control out in public! Yikes!

[Sweetpea83]

Makes me feel very uncomfortable too..

[damienmomma]

This has happen to me before and I just get up and leave. Why am I going to feel uncomfortable for the actions of other people. If your friends continue to do this stop hanging out with them it's that simple. As for you pulling her aside and telling her not to talk to her husband like that if her own husband didn't why did you? I do agree that couples should really argue behind closed doors but I also understand that sometimes there is a heat of the moment argument and you don't think about who's around you. Like I said before if you don't like it hang out with different friends and distance yourself from situations that make you uneasey or uncomfortable. This is just MY OPINION.

[HubbaWubba]

I take out popcorn.

[jellybebe]

Oops I have done this before, usually in front of another couple because they were the enabling type for my bf and I got mad.

[redney]

Originally Posted by HubbaWubba

I take out popcorn.

[wordbox]

I agree, it's uncomfortable.

I've had to tell my boyfriend, "No, not right now. People can hear us." Sure, we'll bicker (our friends are used to it, haha), but a full blown argument? Not if I can help it! Especially if it's about something serious that needs to be discussed and dealt with seriously.

[nataliam1976]

after one of my visits to my friend and her SO`s place and another 2 hours spent in there, 10 minutes exchanging hellos and how are yous and another 110 minutes listening to them biting each other`s heads off i just got up and never came back. My times too precious for that. Now i meet her for coffee in public places, without him

[caitlin1214]

I was walking to class, and I passed a couple going in the opposite direction in the middle of a screaming match! It was so uncomfortable. F-words and the c-word was being thrown around.

I just kept my head down and and kept walking.

[pinkybear]

both my closest girl friends nag their boyfriend infronts of me all the time. i always tell them to stop doing so in public because i think its emasculating for a guy. also it makes me wonder "why are you with a guy you do not respect?! coz if you did you wouldnt belittle him in public!"
SO hates going on group dates with them because it always ends up uncomfortable but it gives us a week-long topic!

[TnC]

It doesn't bother me at all. Better them than me! If that ever happens all we do is just mind our business and go along our conversations and live life. I wouldn't let someones arguing kill my night/day. It's kinda weird and funny because when that happens around my husband and i when we're together we become more affectionate at that moment, even though we are one of the couples i know who show too much pda. When we see or are around people arguing we just become more grateful that we're not them and we respect eachother. It makes us appreciate our marriage more.

[Sunshine]

DH and and I can bicker...in a comical way alone and also in front of my brother and SIL. Its not abusive, or violent...and actually its even more interesting when my brother and SIL do it as I am in awe of how simliar it is to my husband and I. In fact if any of friends and thier husbands start scrapping I start laughing as its usually so familair that it cracks me up...laughter often lightens the arguement. I have seen people get into drunk arguements...do I like it? Hells no!!! Whatever, it happens, if its heated, it can be diffused...or if its a big one...walk away. (and take your girlifrend with you!! Tell her she can bitch at him when she gets home.)

[Danica]

Originally Posted by Sunshine

DH and and I can bicker...in a comical way alone and also in front of my brother and SIL. Its not abusive, or violent...and actually its even more interesting when my brother and SIL do it as I am in awe of how simliar it is to my husband and I. In fact if any of friends and thier husbands start scrapping I start laughing as its usually so familair that it cracks me up...laughter often lightens the arguement. I have seen people get into drunk arguements...do I like it? Hells no!!! Whatever, it happens, if its heated, it can be diffused...or if its a big one...walk away. (and take your girlifrend with you!! Tell her she can bitch at him when she gets home.)

I feel the same way, and generally as long as it's not too serious it's pretty funny. Dh and I were bickering in front of my mom the other day, she was laughing at us as we're both very stubborn. So long as its not scary...it's funny! :)