Confession Time: Anyone (like me) always want their boyfriend go to everywhere w/them

[IntlSet]

Seriously. Like every little thing I do. I want my boyfriend to tag along.
Like if I want a Jamba Juice but he doesn't, I will whine until he walks me there. Or grocery shopping. I *hate* grocery shopping without him... but that may mostly be due to having to carry heavy bags (no car in Chicago) by myself.

Yes, perhaps I have codependency issues. We've been dating almost 2 years if that matters...

Can anyone else admit to this? I'm hoping to get over it soon!

However, I don't drag the SO along when I'm out with girls. The girl that will bring a boyfriend to girls' night is breaking a law in my book! It's mostly errands that I refuse to run alone!!

I think this all might have developed from when I lived with a few of my sorority sisters in college and we were together 24/7. All the freaking time. The first person to wake up on Saturday would wake the rest of us up because we didn't want to sit in the living room alone.

[heartnaspade]

I am EXACTLY the same way. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 and a half years, and I literally try to get him to go everywhere with me. If I have to pick up dry cleaning or go to the deli for a sandwich, I'll plead with him to go with me until he finally gives in...I don't know why I do this, because if I have to do it by myself it's never a big deal. I just always want him with me, and I hate being alone. My boyfriend jokingly tells me I have "separation anxiety."

I grew up with my sister, who I still live with, and I'm the same way with her. If I want to go get my nails done, I'll try and get her to come with me even if she only got them done like a week ago. It's strange, I guess I just always like having someone by my side.

[PetiteChaton]

Im completely the opposite..i love my boyfriend but i would hate to see him every day.. Im happy to go out without him and i'll happily go out without him. I find this way works for us and also..he misses me more this way then if we're always together. Im an only child..and i love my independence. I think everyone needs space and time apart or eventually once the honey moon period dies down, it starts to choke the other person.. they miss normal things like being with their friends and me time.. Also.. you should never make someone your whole world..coz if it doesnt work out.. your whole world turns into pieces and no one person should hold that kind of power over you.. If i feel the need for someone to come with me and do something, i call a friend..or i may ask him..but i wont beg him or ask him ALL the time.
I do have my moments when im emotional or when i feel like i need to see him but dont let myself get trapped into a clingy cycle

[Veelyn]

I'm the exact same way! lol!

[IntlSet]

Originally Posted by heartnaspade

If I have to pick up dry cleaning or go to the deli for a sandwich, I'll plead with him to go with me until he finally gives in...

I think we are destined to be BFF.

[leothelnss]

DH wouldn't like to go everywhere I want to go. So instead of checking out some sale I heard about I'll usually just stay home to spend time with him. I love being around him all the time, like you with yours.

[heartnaspade]

Originally Posted by IntlSet

I think we are destined to be BFF.

Agreed. No one else understands why I absolutely need him to come with me to get dog food or paper towels, but sometimes I feel like it's the most important thing in the world.

It also probably doesn't help that I haven't been single since I was like 16. I've had one long term boyfriend after the other, so I can't even imagine not having someone with me. I'm also really independent in almost every aspect of my life, yet grocery shopping and going to the bank seem to be the strange exception.

[GTOFan]

I'm kinda like that too. I think we just like not being alone.

[tmc089]

OMG, it literally looks like I wrote your OP lol. BF and I have been together for almost 2 years, and my first year of college we were together 24/7. I slept at his house literally EVERY night. I think there were maybe 3 nights out of the whole year I didn't. It's weird, alot of times when I go to his house, we literally do NOTHING! I lay in his bed and watch TV, he goes on the computer or plays xbox, but I just wuv him lol.

Your totally normal. I wish my BF was here right now, being bored at work with me lol. One time I remember I pretended I was really sick so he would come and visit me at my dorm lol...hey it worked!! Whenever he's stupid about coming over I go, "But BAAAAAABE, I'm having withdrawls!!" He's like my crack lol.

[cascratchfever]

I was like that earlier in our relationship. I was so used to having someone go with me everywhere because I have a twin sister and we always did everythign together. DH hates the grocery store, hates running errands, hates leaving the house once he's home from work etc so I had to get used to doing a lot of stuff on my own. I hated it at first but I'm used to it now....5 years later lol.

[Lululovebags]

7 years and i still want my bf to tag along when it comes to shopping, running errands, etc.. luckily he is ok with it, and maybe that's why I become so dependent on his company now and always needing him to be around. i am the same with my best friend as well. i would bug her to come with me if my bf is not available on the day that I need him. so they kinda take turns for me..!

[elizat]

[quote=PetiteChaton;6889067]Im completely the opposite. Im an only child..and i love my independence. I think everyone needs space and time apart or eventually once the honey moon period dies down, it starts to choke the other person.. /quote]

When I am in a relationship, this is me. I grew up an only child with a single mom until I was about 12/13 and was also a latchkey kid. I got used to spending time alone and need a ton of it as an adult. I prefer to do most things alone and start to feel suffocated otherwise. It will be a big adjustment for me if I do find that great guy and settle down, because I really don't like to share living space with other people.

[lolitakali]

Since my DH & I went into the "serious" mode of seeing each other... I can say we are very rarely ever "apart".

We almost never go without seeing each other for more than 12 hours, other than trips back to my country & his business trips etc.... we both love to do things together like married couple ever since we started to date.

... like somehow we are stuck & can't do without each other....

[Jahpson]

when it comes to shopping, I don't like to go with anyone at all. for some reason.

but for like a party or social event, yes i need my SO with me

[GUCCI_COOCHIE]

My BF loves to drag me along grocery shopping! It's annoying! (unless I need/want something there too) BF never goes anywhere I want to go with me, he's mean!