Confession Time: Anyone (like me) always want their boyfriend go to everywhere w/them

flungflung83 · Jun 27th, 2008, 11:50 PM

haha My bf and I are like that too. But it's not that we drag each other along, we BOTH want to go everywhere with one another. We've been together for 4 years and it's been like that since day 1. We just enjoy each others presence is all. But of course, we don't spend every waking moment together. But A LOT of time together, lol. KWIM?

Megs · Jun 28th, 2008, 01:36 AM

I am another who does this!

Luckily, Vlad and I work together, so our schedules do not clash much and it can work out that we go everywhere together. Grocery shopping I HATE going alone. To put gas in the car, HATE going alone. To go to Starbucks, HATE going alone. Pretty much I try to have him go everywhere with me. Sometimes it drives him NUTS... but I keep beginning and he says yes.

digby723 · Jun 28th, 2008, 02:47 AM

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Originally Posted by heartnaspade

I am EXACTLY the same way. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 and a half years, and I literally try to get him to go everywhere with me. If I have to pick up dry cleaning or go to the deli for a sandwich, I'll plead with him to go with me until he finally gives in...I don't know why I do this, because if I have to do it by myself it's never a big deal. I just always want him with me, and I hate being alone. My boyfriend jokingly tells me I have "separation anxiety."

I grew up with my sister, who I still live with, and I'm the same way with her. If I want to go get my nails done, I'll try and get her to come with me even if she only got them done like a week ago. It's strange, I guess I just always like having someone by my side.

Ditto for the b/f and ditto for my sister! Even if I'm going somewhere that I know that either one of them hate, I'll try and bug them to come with me. I'd rather go with someone else than by myself, yet, when I get them to come with me, I get annoyed with them and want them to leave LOL! I'm a v/ independent person too, and I even prefer to shop alone...I like to go to the stores that I like and leave when I'm bored vs going to every store and have to stay for hours looking at every little item!

risingsun · Jun 28th, 2008, 02:47 AM

My DH and I do a lot together, but we both need our personal space. Our "me" time and "we" time are essential for us as we see it as a healthy balance in our relationship. Please excuse the psychobabble, but I am a psychotherapist

QueenOfDa702 · Jun 28th, 2008, 02:49 AM

Me! We've been together almost 6 years and I dont think we've went more than 12 hours away from each other. We are together ALWAYS. Shopping, eating, sleeping, doctors appointments, etc. we do EVERYTHING together, and I LOVE it. I wouldnt want it any other way.

I feel naked without him, seriously, it feels so weird when I have to go somewhere without him, and I hate it. I dont even want a girls night with friends because I dont want to without him. Nobody is more entertaining to me, and the night would suck without him and his wild personality. All of my friends know, if they invite me, my SO is coming too.

Charlie · Jun 28th, 2008, 02:53 AM

Awww OP that's cute. We used go EVERYWHERE together and I do like going out with him but things have changed, now when it comes to shopping definetely I'd go by myself. I dont want to be rush, I'd buy things model for him and he would give me his opinion.

scarlett_2005 · Jun 28th, 2008, 03:01 AM

Yes and no. Lately DH has been working longer hours so I've been trying to spend as much time with him as possible. I love for him to come to the grocery store with me because he's really good a picking fruits(when they're perfectly ripe) and remembering what we are out of.

I hate to have him come clothes shopping with me though. He gets bored after five minutes and starts whining.

Nymph · Jun 28th, 2008, 03:03 AM

Wow. I knew I would be in the minority group posting here, but the posts on the first 2 pages were starting to make me feel like I was really odd or something for not wanting to spend every waking hour with my bf!

We've been together 7.5 years, and we're madly in love. But I need my own space from him to live my life too! Maybe I'm too independent, but personally, I couldn't be with someone who needed me to go every where with them.

Good thing I know for a fact that my bf appreciates this trait, knowing that I am not dependent on him for everything. Isn't that a whole lot of pressure?

Pursegrrl · Jun 28th, 2008, 03:29 AM

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Originally Posted by Nymph

Wow. I knew I would be in the minority group posting here, but the posts on the first 2 pages were starting to make me feel like I was really odd or something for not wanting to spend every waking hour with my bf!

We've been together 7.5 years, and we're madly in love. But I need my own space from him to live my life too! Maybe I'm too independent, but personally, I couldn't be with someone who needed me to go every where with them.

Good thing I know for a fact that my bf appreciates this trait, knowing that I am not dependent on him for everything. Isn't that a whole lot of pressure?

Ummm....I too will sheepishly chime in that while it's freakin awesome that so many love and have their SO's with them for just about everything, I just can't relate. And...I'm a total people person...I so would rather be around people than isolated all on my own in the boonies. I'm very blessed with a wonderful social circle!!

But for me, the fact is I'm single. I've been in a couple serious relationships over the past 4 years or so, but in both the guys were either running their own business (working 6 days a week) or in retail management (different from me as a M-F corporate girl), so I just am used to not having everything totally lined up. However in each of these we each made the commitment to making the most of the time we DO have together.

I guess I'm just too independent by nature to depend on others to do what I want, when I want.

But someday I do want to find that special someone...where we are inseparable but in a healthy way allowing space for our own stuff as needed

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KristyDarling · Jun 28th, 2008, 04:34 AM

My DH is my best friend and he has really become a part of me. So, of course I constantly want him around! He's a good sport about it, even when I want to drag him along on my errands. (and he HATES errand-running) I think that means I've become a part of him, too.

The only time I really don't want him around is if I'm catching up with a girlfriend, or if I'm going shopping. He's a total killjoy when it comes to shopping.

queenvictoria2 · Jun 28th, 2008, 09:44 AM

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Originally Posted by thelace

Reading some of the posts here seriously made me squirm and cringe. I would go f***ing APE if somebody whined and clung to me as has been described here. It would be like having a constant, insanely irritating noise in my ear, that never gave me a minute's peace.

And yes, I am extremely close to my partner - passionately in love after 7 years. But we give do spend time apart to be able to miss each other.

Seriously girls, it really isn't attractive to be so demanding.

I have to agree, I was cringing also

I love my DH, but damn, I would feel like someone was putting a pillow over my face if he was at my side that much .... sorry, I just don't get it

queenvictoria2 · Jun 28th, 2008, 09:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Pursegrrl

Ummm....I too will sheepishly chime in that while it's freakin awesome that so many love and have their SO's with them for just about everything, I just can't relate. And...I'm a total people person...I so would rather be around people than isolated all on my own in the boonies. I'm very blessed with a wonderful social circle!!

But for me, the fact is I'm single. I've been in a couple serious relationships over the past 4 years or so, but in both the guys were either running their own business (working 6 days a week) or in retail management (different from me as a M-F corporate girl), so I just am used to not having everything totally lined up. However in each of these we each made the commitment to making the most of the time we DO have together.

I guess I'm just too independent by nature to depend on others to do what I want, when I want.

But someday I do want to find that special someone...where we are inseparable but in a healthy way allowing space for our own stuff as needed

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Purse-Ooooh · Jun 28th, 2008, 10:54 AM

Also.. you should never make someone your whole world..coz if it doesnt work out.. your whole world turns into pieces and no one person should hold that kind of power over you

This statement right here is so powerful! I could NOT agree more. I have so many friends who have given up everything for their spouse and/or boyfriend and do EVERYTHING together. If I would have followed thier lead, I would have been in a nuthouse by now. Losing my husband who was my best friend in the entire world was and continues to be devastating, however, I have an enormous support group in my friends and family and never would have survived this without them.

UK2ME · Jun 28th, 2008, 11:40 AM

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Originally Posted by thelace

Reading some of the posts here seriously made me squirm and cringe. I would go f***ing APE if somebody whined and clung to me as has been described here. It would be like having a constant, insanely irritating noise in my ear, that never gave me a minute's peace.

Seriously girls, it really isn't attractive to be so demanding.

It's not attractive for a guy to be that way, either, and it grows old really quickly when you're on the receiving end of it. Seriously.

ellewoods · Jun 28th, 2008, 10:06 PM

I'm totally the opposite. I've been dating my BF for 5 years and we don't even live together yet. We're both really independent people. Sometimes we'll see each other 6/7 days in a week, sometimes only 3/7. It's important for me to spend time with the other people in my life as well as him. I also want him to spend time with his friends and family because they are so important to him. I'm happy when he goes away with friends for a week because I know he is enjoying himself and having "guy time". This is especially true since I'm a girly girl - I'd rather not be stuck watching sports or camping but I'm totally happy if he wants to do those things with other people.

This is one reason why I'm not sure that I can ever get married. I do want to live with my boyfriend at some point (maybe in a couple of years), but I don't want to have to give up my friends and independence. I feel like if we did get married we would be expected to be together 24/7 and only have "couple friends" which isn't really my style.

Jun 28th, 2008, 02:49 AM	#50
QueenOfDa702 Misunderestimated. Location: I've gone RAOKing crazy!	Me! We've been together almost 6 years and I dont think we've went more than 12 hours away from each other. We are together ALWAYS. Shopping, eating, sleeping, doctors appointments, etc. we do EVERYTHING together, and I LOVE it. I wouldnt want it any other way. I feel naked without him, seriously, it feels so weird when I have to go somewhere without him, and I hate it. I dont even want a girls night with friends because I dont want to without him. Nobody is more entertaining to me, and the night would suck without him and his wild personality. All of my friends know, if they invite me, my SO is coming too. __________________ ~Valeen~ Happy Holidays to all my tPF friends! Click HERE to visit MySpace Please help get justice for Karley! http://forum.purseblog.com/animalici...ey-385571.html Last edited by QueenOfDa702; Jun 28th, 2008 at 02:53 AM.

Jun 28th, 2008, 02:53 AM	#51
Charlie ♥CRYLATER3♥	Awww OP that's cute. We used go EVERYWHERE together and I do like going out with him but things have changed, now when it comes to shopping definetely I'd go by myself. I dont want to be rush, I'd buy things model for him and he would give me his opinion. __________________

Jun 28th, 2008, 03:01 AM	#52
scarlett_2005 Crazy 4 LV Location: USA	Yes and no. Lately DH has been working longer hours so I've been trying to spend as much time with him as possible. I love for him to come to the grocery store with me because he's really good a picking fruits(when they're perfectly ripe) and remembering what we are out of. I hate to have him come clothes shopping with me though. He gets bored after five minutes and starts whining. __________________

Jun 28th, 2008, 03:03 AM	#53
Nymph Black WE please! Location: Singapore	Wow. I knew I would be in the minority group posting here, but the posts on the first 2 pages were starting to make me feel like I was really odd or something for not wanting to spend every waking hour with my bf! We've been together 7.5 years, and we're madly in love. But I need my own space from him to live my life too! Maybe I'm too independent, but personally, I couldn't be with someone who needed me to go every where with them. Good thing I know for a fact that my bf appreciates this trait, knowing that I am not dependent on him for everything. Isn't that a whole lot of pressure? __________________ "If women didn't exist, all the money in the world would have no meaning"

Jun 28th, 2008, 10:54 AM	#58
Purse-Ooooh Until we meet again Location: JERSEY BABY!	Also.. you should never make someone your whole world..coz if it doesnt work out.. your whole world turns into pieces and no one person should hold that kind of power over you This statement right here is so powerful! I could NOT agree more. I have so many friends who have given up everything for their spouse and/or boyfriend and do EVERYTHING together. If I would have followed thier lead, I would have been in a nuthouse by now. Losing my husband who was my best friend in the entire world was and continues to be devastating, however, I have an enormous support group in my friends and family and never would have survived this without them. __________________ It's nice to be important, but, more important to be nice Forever in my 11/27/57-03/08/08 - 10.22.88

Jun 27th, 2008, 11:50 PM	#46
flungflung83 Member	haha My bf and I are like that too. But it's not that we drag each other along, we BOTH want to go everywhere with one another. We've been together for 4 years and it's been like that since day 1. We just enjoy each others presence is all. But of course, we don't spend every waking moment together. But A LOT of time together, lol. KWIM?

Jun 28th, 2008, 01:36 AM	#47
Megs	I am another who does this! Luckily, Vlad and I work together, so our schedules do not clash much and it can work out that we go everywhere together. Grocery shopping I HATE going alone. To put gas in the car, HATE going alone. To go to Starbucks, HATE going alone. Pretty much I try to have him go everywhere with me. Sometimes it drives him NUTS... but I keep beginning and he says yes. __________________ Enter our fabulous November giveaway sponsored by Adriana Castro!!!! Check out our latest press, Purse Blog in the Miami Herald!

Jun 28th, 2008, 02:47 AM	#49
risingsun Member Location: Virginia	My DH and I do a lot together, but we both need our personal space. Our "me" time and "we" time are essential for us as we see it as a healthy balance in our relationship. Please excuse the psychobabble, but I am a psychotherapist

Jun 28th, 2008, 04:34 AM	#55
KristyDarling Member	My DH is my best friend and he has really become a part of me. So, of course I constantly want him around! He's a good sport about it, even when I want to drag him along on my errands. (and he HATES errand-running) I think that means I've become a part of him, too. The only time I really don't want him around is if I'm catching up with a girlfriend, or if I'm going shopping. He's a total killjoy when it comes to shopping.

Jun 28th, 2008, 10:06 PM	#60
ellewoods Member Location: NYC	I'm totally the opposite. I've been dating my BF for 5 years and we don't even live together yet. We're both really independent people. Sometimes we'll see each other 6/7 days in a week, sometimes only 3/7. It's important for me to spend time with the other people in my life as well as him. I also want him to spend time with his friends and family because they are so important to him. I'm happy when he goes away with friends for a week because I know he is enjoying himself and having "guy time". This is especially true since I'm a girly girl - I'd rather not be stuck watching sports or camping but I'm totally happy if he wants to do those things with other people. This is one reason why I'm not sure that I can ever get married. I do want to live with my boyfriend at some point (maybe in a couple of years), but I don't want to have to give up my friends and independence. I feel like if we did get married we would be expected to be together 24/7 and only have "couple friends" which isn't really my style. Last edited by ellewoods; Jun 28th, 2008 at 10:10 PM.